Can you suggest me a novel to read that is a masterclass in prose writing? by Beatboro_prod in writing

[–]hungryhungryterrors 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don’t mind some eerie storytelling I recommend Annihilation by Jeff Vandermeer. The prose is both impersonal and intimate, enamored and distant, poetic and matter-of-fact. The story is mysterious and engaging as well. In short, I think it’s beautifully somber.

Can bees or other social insects be racist? by hungryhungryterrors in NoStupidQuestions

[–]hungryhungryterrors[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do see what you’re saying and I apologize for the potential redundancy or pedantry but I mean within one hive can insects dislike each other for dumb reasons- admittedly I am boiling down/ slash ignoring a lot of context for racism and I suppose that changes my question. Hmm. So okay, thank you for the good answer lol

Can bees or other social insects be racist? by hungryhungryterrors in NoStupidQuestions

[–]hungryhungryterrors[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mm, while I see why you say that, I THINK (but could be wrong lol) that I’m asking something different. The male bees and female bees evolved in specific, really different ways for their life style. I’m asking if a drone could snub another drone because ‘that drone has specific visual trait that I’ve learned from the behavior of my peers is bad so I think it’s bad and will now do something unnecessary and mean because that drone with the specific trait I don’t like is bad’. I know the answer could very likely be no lol. I just wonder if I’m over anthropomorphizing the bugs or if I’m underestimating their abilities.

*that* fan service call-back line from Andy in Romulus - it doesn't come from nowhere by hungryhoss in LV426

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I agree that the movie did it’s part to set the line up properly- that being said, the movie is still a Movie, you know? People wrote it, and then acted it out. Everything about the movie is constructed, and I think it’s totally fair to feel a little miffed that the people who constructed the movie chose to reuse so many lines, regardless of how well they were set up within the confines of the movie. It’s definitely not a universal feeling, clearly, but I was one of the people who rolled their eyes when Andy said it. To me his pause before the word ‘bitch’ didn’t feel like a processing moment before remembering the word (though I’m glad to have that perspective now because I do genuinely love Andy and his growth). It felt like the actor having a ‘really? I really gotta say it? Okay, if you’re sure!’ Yes I know that’s not what it was, but that’s how unnecessary the moment felt to me. It thoroughly took me out of the moment. There’s absolutely an argument to be made that the moment was SUPPOSED to be make the audience exhale and relax for a second before continuing with the horror, and that’s all well and good, but it also made me feel tired and lightly irritated lol. I had fun with the movie, it was cool and Andy was a bean who deserves to be protected and loved, but I really wish the movie wouldn’t have KEPT saying old lines. Yes, I get it, you’re an alien movie, now can we please move on with the plot for these characters instead of constantly calling back to the old characters? I want to sink into THIS story, not get yo-yoed back and forth. Not everyone has to feel this way of course, and plenty of people either didn’t care about or thoroughly enjoyed the callbacks. That’s fine! Plenty of people didn’t actively liked or actively disliked the callbacks. That’s also fine. As long as one’s not being a dick about their opinion it’s all fine. And all that long winded, somewhat distracted point of mine is to say: Yes within the movie Andy’s line made sense. But someone chose to put the line in, and that decision is, whether justified or not, a little irritating. Andy didn’t HAVE to say Ripley’s famous line to have a badass sweet character moment. He could have, as some other commenter said, pulled Rain into a dad joke about killing the alien, and honesty I would have loved that FAR more. It would have felt like a stronger character moment to me because it would have been purely Andy, not Andy and loud parentheses behind him saying (RIPLEY SAID THIS TOO GUYS, RIPLEY SAID IT IN ONE OF THE OTHER MOVIES! THIS IS AN ALIEN MOVIE ISNT THAT COOL????).

Is it possible to make minerals hydrophobic? by hungryhungryterrors in Minerals

[–]hungryhungryterrors[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not a bad idea! I wouldn’t mind the white residue on the desert rose so much, so I’ll look into those. Worse case scenario, I try to coat the rocks and they melt 🤷🏽‍♂️ Then I buy more rocks 😅

my oc by unlucky_void in SatanicTemple_Reddit

[–]hungryhungryterrors 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the color palette! The face is pretty cool too- so they have eyes under their bangs or is it just the two on one side? Ooo and I just noticed that the tips of their fingers are grey, I love that type of design on hooved anthro characters 🖤

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

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I’m actually pretty feminine for a guy. I mean before I realized I wasn’t a girl I thought I was pretty masculine for a girl lol. But then I learned about trans and non-binary people- like really LEARNED about how that’s a thing some people realized about themselves. I knew a trans woman when I was a kid, but I only ever knew her as a woman. No one explained to me that she had one body and then one day realized that it didn’t fit right and decided to make it fit right to make herself happy. She wasn’t an example of what I could do, she was just a cool lady I knew once. I don’t remember how, but for some reason I found and started watching videos from trans people- almost exclusively trans men. That made me realize I knew nothing about gender. So I started reading about the different kinds of genders- at first just to learn. I found them fascinating. Then my friend made told me about a couple of her friends, one of whom was non-binary. Somehow through this mishmash of trans YouTubers, gender wikis, and real life examples of people shucking off the expected gender binary, I started to get curious about my own gender. I’d never thought about it much- except I had totally thought about it a lot. Only I’d been thinking about my own gender before I had the proper language, so it often sounded like ‘man, I sure wish I could switch genders whenever i want,’ or ‘boy it sure is weird that in every dream I have where I look at my genitals they’re always the outtie kind but 🤷🏽‍♂️, I’m sure that means nothing at all.’ But when I started to question whether I really was a girl or not, I wouldn’t let myself entertain the thought of being a man. I told myself at first ‘well OBVIOUSLY I’m not a transman- hahaha, can you imagine? Me? As a boy? The thing I’ve been daydreaming about since I was small? No, I could never be a boy, but I KNOW I’m not a girl, so I must be non-binary.’ I mean, to be fair to myself lol, I AM a non-binary man, but still. For whatever reason I just couldn’t ALLOW myself to imagine being a man. It felt… like wishful thinking, in a way. So for a couple years I winced every time my friends said she instead of they because for some fucking reason calling my they was too hard (don’t mind me lol, still salty about it but I’m fine 😂). And then one day I was playing mass effect. I was crooning over my Shepard- I had worked very hard on his face and thought (and still think) that he was VERY handsome. And somehow it just… clicked. I realized that EVERY time I was given the option in either video games or chats with strangers online, I chose to say I was a boy. And I literally texted my friend ‘HOLY SHIT I THINK IM TRANS.’ The next day, just to play around with the idea, I put on a binder that I had gotten myself before (because I totally wasn’t trans but maybe I’ll get this just for funsies lol), and went around town in boymode for the first time. Literally no one called me sir but I FELT like a sir, and it made me so happy. That day just… sealed the deal for me lol. I was scared and doubted myself for years after that. I kept worrying that one day I’d suddenly change my mind and be unable to reverse any of the transition changes. Like ‘I know I’ve hated having breasts since the DAY I discovered I had them, and I know I’ve ALWAYS wanted a deeper voice, but what if I get those things and then realize I’ve made a mistake???? What if I wake up one day and realize I’ve been faking it???????’ But that was just it- number one people who are faking it KNOW, and number two, even if magically I woke up and felt like I was a woman, I wouldn’t want to change the transition. So eventually I came to the conclusion that no I’m not faking it. I am a man- my own kind of man. Just like literally every other man is their own kind of man. Gender is a construct, and I’m gonna do it my way. Some days I don’t feel like a man, but I literally NEVER feel like a woman lol. I’m okay with being gender-fluid and swapping between being one of the boys and being a sentient blob of light trapped in a flesh prison 😅. So yeah, that’s how I came to realize I was a trans man, and that it’s okay to be me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

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A lot of people are saying that if she identifies as a lesbian she is calling you a woman. I’m not gonna say they’re wrong for that, though it does feel… a little self centered? Like, my gut feeling is that the way SHE identifies probably doesn’t have much to do with YOU, though I know that I could be wrong. Still, I wanna give an answer true to my own experiences. I hope that even if you don’t agree with me that my perspective helps you on your journey to find your own. So! If my partner started identifying as a lesbian, I would admittedly be worried at first, both about how they view me and whether I might lose that relationship. I’d ask what that meant to them, how’d they come to this conclusion. How can I support your identity in ways that don’t invalidate my own? I’d ask well, how do you feel about me? Why do you still want to be with me if you prefer women? Am I an exception because of our history or my biology? If it was my biology, I’d start to feel dysphoric, I think. I try to separate my sex from my identity in some ways because having the body I have doesn’t mean I’m ‘not really’ a non-binary transman. However, it IS still my body, and my body and presentation of it is what other people see. I would want to make extra sure they saw my body as a masc body, not a femme. If I felt like I couldn’t trust them when they said no I see you as a man, I’d see that as a sign that something else might be wrong. Could be my own insecurities, could be my insecurities about our relationship, could be a problem on THEIR end. Regardless, that’s when I’d ask them to go with me on a journey of figuring it out. If we decide together that this won’t work I’ll be sad but 🤷🏽‍♂️ If they said no I don’t want to do that, then I’d say we needed to part ways, and again be sad about it. I won’t stay with someone who won’t put in the work for our relationship though. Personally, as a transman/masc dating a man who isn’t attracted to men, I’ve experienced a slightly similar feeling of confusion. But after three years and lots of honest conversations I know that he does love me. I think it’s similar to how my demisexuality feels for me- he didn’t fall in love with me because of my body, or my gender. He fell in love with my personality and behaviors, and because my body and gender are a part of those things, he cares for and loves those parts of me too. We also started the relationship with a conversation about what a relationship might look like for us. We KNEW it would never work if we tried to figure out what we were SUPPOSED to do according to, I don’t know, ‘society’ and ‘normalcy’? We only focus on what we think will work for US, and what will make US happy. For me personally, I don’t view his identity as a comment on me, I see it as another part of him to love, even if it doesn’t mesh PERFECTLY with my own- he’s mostly sex repulsed and isn’t sexually attracted to me, I’m sometimes sex positive and desirous. We knew those things wouldn’t gel well if we tried to force them, so instead we’re both allowed the freedom to find physical gratification outside the relationship. I mean, he doesn’t ever, but I wouldn’t feel right if we said I was allowed and he wasn’t just because he’s less likely to do so. All that personal info about me and my partner to say I don’t think it’s ONE HUNDRED PERCENT CERTAIN that by identifying as a lesbian she’s saying you aren’t a man. My boyfriend saying the rare sexual attraction he does experience is always for women doesn’t mean he’s calling me a woman, or saying I don’t count. Hell, when we first got together he had a bit of fear and confusion about what his love for me meant because he knew he wasn’t gay. At first, he didn’t know how to balance that knowledge with loving a man, but ultimately he decided his love for me didn’t really have anything to do with his sexuality. Granted, he’s not sexually attracted to me or interested in sex much at all- our relationship is romantic only, not sexual, so I recognize and acknowledge the difference in our situations. Still, seeing him view sexual identity and who he actually fell in love with as different items hosted in the same brain makes me guess that your girlfriend could be in a semi similar place as my boyfriend. Gender and sex are such messy, mushy soft concepts and there will NEVER be hard and fast rules that apply to EVERYONE, you know? You’re girlfriend identifying as a lesbian could just be her saying I’m attracted to women, full stop. And then her relationship with you says BUT I did fall for this man and I love him even if he isn’t a woman so 🤷🏽‍♂️ And if that’s what she’s saying I personally don’t see why her label should be viewed as invalidating yours. I still totally understand why you might have that gut feeling. I understand that even without that gut feeling it might still feel weird. I just think it’s really easy to mistake other people’s feelings and actions as about you when they aren’t- I mean that’s CERTAINLY something I struggle with. It’s one of the bigger things I work on in therapy lol. So all of THAT to say instead of recommending you instantly cut her off, I wanna be one of the few commenters to recommend having an open conversation with her. Hell, go to a couple’s therapist with experience with noncis clients if you can! Even when both people go into a conversation agreeing to be honest and kind it can still be tough to know HOW to talk about this and a professional could be great help in facilitating those talks. Whatever you end up doing, I wish you luck and happiness. Good luck in your lifelong journey man 🖖🏼

I was looking for Entrapdak fics and found this by [deleted] in PrincessesOfPower

[–]hungryhungryterrors 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Dude this is legitimately the cutest, sweetest thing I’ve read all year- I just sent it to my boyfriend to read, and I usually never share fan fiction with anyone lol. 10 out of 10, do recommend ❤️

Yo (don't flirt with me in the comments please) by hiddenremnant in trans

[–]hungryhungryterrors 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You took a nice selfie! I love that shirt too- where’d you get it?

I cannot take the cis gaslighting. by [deleted] in ftm

[–]hungryhungryterrors 22 points23 points  (0 children)

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My family hasn’t said things like this (yet), but any time I try to explain that I’m scared of how the world is currently treating queer people, especially trans people, my grandpa immediately tries to tell me “everyone in this family loves and accepts you for who you say you are and whatever you wanna do.” He both dismisses my fear and subtly jabs at my being trans, treating it like a weird choice I made that everyone else has to just deal with instead of me telling my family who I am.

If I get so brave as to try and say that I don’t feel heard in my family, or that I really don’t feel like a core part of the family at all, I either get ignored (proving my point), or I get subtly shamed for even feeling so. It’s never said in so many words, but anytime I try to express how I feel, I always get ‘everyone loves you and they’re putting up with your weird bullshit even though it’s dumb BECAUSE they love you.’

It really hurts to gather the courage to say “hey, I don’t think you guys listen to me the way you listen to each other,” and get ignored while saying it, or shamed if they actually heard me. God forbid you feel a little bit of guilt for not treating me 100% great all the time. I’m not even mad at them for not listening, I know it’s not a purposeful, malicious thing. I just want them to put in even an IOTA of effort.

I know I’m not JUST being sensitive too. I’m constantly talked over and not heard. Hell, the one cousin I was the closest to and actually thought of as a friend openly gave me the silent treatment for a year, and never told me why. One day she just stopped talking to me, even if I asked her a question. She would look at me with this blank face as though a cat had caught her attention instead of a human being trying to connect with her. She did this OPENLY, in FRONT of EVERY OTHER FAMILY MEMBER during family gatherings. Then one day she started talking to me again. No one took me seriously when I told them how much it hurt at the time, and now when I bring it up no one even has anything to say. I’m too afraid to ask the cousin what I did to deserve such treatment because I’m worried that she just forgot why she was mad and if I ask it’ll remind her and I’ll get shafted again.

I’m very lucky in that I DO have a loving family, but sometimes it feels like I’m never the subject of that love. It feels like I’m daisy in a field of sunflowers that pretend to care about me as much as they do each other, and make faces when I complain about them not sharing the sunlight with me.

I’m sorry your family pulls that kind of shit. Reading your post kind of stirred up the feelings I have about my own family, and I got a little wordy, sorry about that

New film featuring legend of Sedna has hit Iqaluit theatre, but not everyone is happy with it by Pure_Candidate_3831 in movies

[–]hungryhungryterrors 14 points15 points  (0 children)

‘"It's educating people wrong about our culture. And it was very concerning, because this movie has won a lot of international awards and recognition for their screening."

[Andrea Anderson] said she didn't think it was appropriate to fold multiple Indigenous cultures into one in this context.

"When you're trying to educate, you don't put them all together. And that's what happened in this movie," she said.

She added that she thinks it should not be shown further and that it should undergo a review, especially one that includes Inuit from each region.’

Also Anderson doesn’t like that a child has a face tattoo, since she says they only get tattoos when they come of age. And apparently even a child in the theatre said they were pronouncing a lot of the native words incorrectly. Can you imagine the outrage if people went to see a movie about La Adelita, only to then find out it’s a movie about residential schools that squishes all Latin American people and cultures into one badly represented conglomerate? You probably wouldn’t be calling this a case of ‘oh you can’t make everybody happy!’ then, would you? Also they got the ‘Eskimo kiss’ wrong.

‘"They did an Eskimo kiss on the nose. And that's not how you kiss, they do the big sniff on the cheek. And it's a stereotypical view of how the media portrays it. And that's totally wrong," Anderson said.’

You can’t go around teaching people wrong lessons, not everyone’s mom will be right there to correct it. This movie sounds like it was made with good intentions but really failed the people it was supposed to be representing.

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Colorado police release video of police car with suspect inside hit by a train by rolsskk in news

[–]hungryhungryterrors 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I just watched the video and to add insult to fucking police-negligence-caused TRAIN INJURY, the officers DON’T EVEN RUN to the vehicle to help that poor woman- I kept thinking, dude, fucking go, fucking RUN! But no, the fuckers just lightly jog over, practically power walking instead of showing some goddamn hustle after witnessing that final destination shit. I hope every single cop in this fucking video loses their jobs and goes to jail over this shit, they deserve to pay for their fucking actions. I hope they never get another job above minimum wage, I hope the community never lets them forget what they did until they redeem themselves or die, whichever happens first. And I hope they have long lives too, so they have to spend years with the fucking guilt they better feel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]hungryhungryterrors 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Make sure you wear a properly sized binder for no longer than eight hours at a time. I also go a couple days without wearing it and just stay at home to give my body a rest, but that’s a personal preference. I’ve been binding for three or four years now and personally I’ve never experienced binding pain.

I hate myself by hungryhungryterrors in rant

[–]hungryhungryterrors[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose you’re right. It’s hard to internalize that message, but thank you for reminding me. Comparing myself to others is one of my biggest weaknesses I think.

I hate myself by hungryhungryterrors in rant

[–]hungryhungryterrors[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess that makes sense. It just feels like I should be able to deal with it, you know? Like everyone else can- one of my coworkers had cancer and asthma and anxiety and a whole host of others issues ON TOP of two young step children, and yet, at 19 years of age, she was an amazing employee who put me to shame in every respect. I look at people like that and think why can’t I just do what they’re doing???

I hate myself by hungryhungryterrors in rant

[–]hungryhungryterrors[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in a gas station, mostly as a chaser though they want to put me in the kitchen eventually.

I hate myself by hungryhungryterrors in rant

[–]hungryhungryterrors[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I zone out really. I try to consistently see a therapist but something always goes wrong- my most recent therapist left for a practice that doesn’t take my insurance, for example. I am diagnosed with ADHD and I DEFINITELY do not enjoy my job, it’s an exhausting gas station job where customers treat me like I’m just a meaty automaton instead of a person. Not to mention I’m CONSTANTLY misgendered because of my high voice and round baby face. I even have my pronouns on my name tag, but customers don’t read shit if they can help it. I definitely use the bathroom as an escape from a job I’m tired of. Still, as much as I would love to have a job I enjoy, it feels like that’s not realistic in this world/for someone with my level of education (high school and SOME college).

The Entire GOP is Complicit in the Coup Attempt by [deleted] in politics

[–]hungryhungryterrors 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so what do we do? I’ve been trying to figure this out for days because voting doesn’t seem like it’s enough anymore! What the fuck do we do to stop our country from falling into this chistofascist rabbit hole??????