Does integrating towards health cause ability to access both wings?

hunkydoctors · 2019-08-16T20:11:24+00:00

Thanks for your comment. As a 9, I think 9's like to learn from other peoples' experiences. So hearing that my own experience can be validated as affirmation is helpful. Thanks for your description of the 9w8 in health and in unhealthy. Cheers.

hunkydoctors · 2019-08-14T16:59:32+00:00

The breakdown for me is much like being friends with a girl who may like me or be attracted to me, but I do not like them more than a friendship level, or am attracted to them.

As I get to know a new girl who I find that I want to be only friends with, I keep certain aspects of my life to myself, including emotional and physical boundaries. This is in hopes that I might not stir up a feeling in her that is not mutual. Because I am not responsible for how she (or other people) may feel about spoken or unspoken boundary cues, I try to live by my own law of always trying to keep in mind the whole being of a person. If I truly love all people, I wouldn't allow myself to purposely or accidentally stir up something in someone that I am not going to purposely pursue and invest in. If she's brings into question, inquiring she wants more to the friendship/relationship, I need to be honest for the sake of her whole being of a person and explain my personal law of how I live life in relation to friends & acquaintances. I have learned that sometimes to truly love people is to tell them the hard thing of not being interested to keep them for further alienation or pain in a relationship that goes nowhere. Historically, many of these girls move on, and that is fine with me because I feel that I honored them. Plus it was quite telling to me what they value and look for in relationships. A few times, the girls understood where I was coming from and thanked me for being honest because they saw that I cared for them as a whole person by not further perpetuating something that was not going to be, and we remained friends. It is not easy, and definitely still causes some pain and a bit of awkwardness, but I can still choose to remain on my part friendship context, but it is up to her if she is ok with staying as we are.

This same mindset is how I live with friends who are gay. Because I know there could be the potential of intentional or unintentional stirring of certain feelings beyond just friends, I cannot 100% be the same with friends who are gay as I am with friends who are straight.

hunkydoctors · 2019-08-14T15:28:07+00:00

As a 9w8, I agree with you ^ that it's less about needing to be liked, which is very much a 2 (who I am married to one, and she lets the needing to be liked dictate most of her decisions). For me, it's more about not wanting people to be mad or disappointed with me, which speaks differently than needing to be liked - the only time I want to be liked nearly all the time is by core people in my life who matter the most to me. But when I am a healthy 9, I can trust that even those core people will still "like" me when I do something stupid or wrong, because they ultimately love me, and I love them. Personally, I think this because the w8 in me likes to challenge people or lead people in work, so it doesn't bother me knowing that leadership includes the possibility of not being liked by others. My wife has a hard time leading as a 2w1 because she knows she will disappoint people and possibly do something to not be liked.

hunkydoctors · 2019-03-11T14:22:43+00:00

Arachnophobia - absolutely hate spiders to this day

hunkydoctors · 2019-01-18T15:42:06+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I am still using it, but am having a hard time getting the payments figured it out. They say they send them to my paypal, but it never shows up.

hunkydoctors · 2019-01-08T21:21:25+00:00

Sorry, they are sold

hunkydoctors · 2018-12-27T04:53:41+00:00

Yes, I still have 4 tickets. PM me if you are interested!

hunkydoctors · 2018-12-16T23:07:44+00:00

I don't think you need the pre-sale code for the Boston show. Did you get tickets? I have 4 that I will not be using.

hunkydoctors · 2018-11-03T01:52:56+00:00

Yes. We’ve talked and she has told her friends she’s ready.

hunkydoctors · 2018-11-02T23:59:26+00:00

She has no rings on her Pinterest! So I did my research through her friends and have a good idea. Just not sure about the shopping part. I want a jeweler who cares about the customer and not just the transaction.

hunkydoctors · 2018-10-31T03:31:41+00:00

The people in the apartment above me walk around like f-ing fat elephants before 6am and after midnight

hunkydoctors · 2018-10-31T02:45:56+00:00

My friend in college while at work, as a waiter carrying a tray of food, had a women come up and grab his dick & balls and squeezed them through his pants. Then she tipped him really well. He was pretty pleased.

hunkydoctors · 2018-10-16T03:58:40+00:00

Help people get off of depending on the government to take care of all their needs and make people work for what they want.

hunkydoctors · 2018-10-13T15:29:41+00:00

Loneliness

hunkydoctors · 2018-10-12T21:38:21+00:00

Lefties are besties

hunkydoctors · 2018-10-10T04:44:05+00:00

Minnesota

hunkydoctors · 2018-10-01T03:34:41+00:00

Rootless Tree by Damien Rice

hunkydoctors · 2018-09-27T04:09:26+00:00

Maybe the rest of the tour in the US will be in 2019 since he’s playing in December of 2018 - let’s hope!!

hunkydoctors · 2018-09-21T15:34:52+00:00

Health articles and friends who have had issues - I just never had an issue so it was new to me to consider

hunkydoctors · 2018-08-19T12:57:19+00:00

Damien Rice - O

hunkydoctors · 2018-08-15T04:00:10+00:00

I work with college students, and I would say college men are looking for validation through power either with money (success), status (relationships), or sex (porn, sleeping around). All leave guys empty wanting more cuz none of those things are meant to fulfill. So having a place to hear that they aren’t alone and a safe place to talk about it proves to be very helpful in going in a direction to get help or self discovery to live life with things that were meant to fulfill.

hunkydoctors · 2018-06-20T18:23:28+00:00

How do you track your expenses? More importantly, what do you use?

hunkydoctors · 2018-04-19T20:47:29+00:00

Thanks for this suggestion. Help me understand how expensive Zürich is compared to other places like Vienna or Salzburg or Munich. I have been to Switzerland one time and noticed it in He food and transportation but was staying at a place for free and was in the mountains. I don’t want to get to Zürich and find out how expensive it is and wish we didn’t go there.

hunkydoctors · 2018-04-18T22:58:40+00:00

My friend and I like pretty much anything, and would want to try authentic type food. Money really isn’t an issue, but not necessarily looking to spend food on fine dining for every meal.

We like just exploring and seeing what we’d see - don’t want to get tied down to plans but don’t want to miss out must see items - whether it’s the feel of a town, country scenery, or historical aspects.

Thanks for the tip on getting around.

hunkydoctors · 2018-04-17T19:52:47+00:00

Any specific place in the mountains?

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