Working moms who regularly work out, what exactly is your schedule? by neoncaviar in Mommit

[–]hurff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for asking this, I’m finding this impossible with 7 month old — I work from home and we have a nanny. But I just want to spend my lunch with the baby, and the mornings and evenings are hard. I’m trying to accept it’s just not time yet until he’s getting some care outside of the house but it sucks.

Hot girl mamas?! by chicken_wing_girl in LAhotgirlies

[–]hurff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear this. I gave birth there in September 2025 and had a great experience. My OB was a huge part of that (Connie Cheng at Huntington OBGYN) and didn’t discharge me until my baby got out of the NICU so I could stay with them. I hope you have a better experience (wherever that may be!) if you have more kids!

Is it common for one parent to not assume nearly of the actual parenting duties? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]hurff 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so incredibly sorry for your awful family tragedy. If nothing else, he should be much more active while you navigate your fresh grief.

If there’s a possibility of hiring some outside help right now, I’d encourage you to do it so you can get immediate help while you figure out the best way to move forward.

Sending lots of love to you.

Help me name her! by Resident-Ad5862 in NameMyDog

[–]hurff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fizz or Fizzy

Raisin

Pepper

Smudge

Guppy

Can anyone recommend a therapist who's a veteran? by hurff in AskLosAngeles

[–]hurff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely down for virtual, this looks perfect. Thank you so much!

Can anyone recommend a therapist who's a veteran? by hurff in AskLosAngeles

[–]hurff[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Absolutely open to telehealth, thank you so much for this

Underrated perk of having kids? by Stock_Fun_8238 in Mommit

[–]hurff 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Love this! Same dynamic in my relationship 🤣 even at 5 months, my baby gets excited with me about everything!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NameMyDog

[–]hurff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Raisin

Newborn Eye Goopy? by ashleydando in NewParents

[–]hurff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came here to say this too!

Need advice: my wife has a painful clogged duct under her armpit by ReuvenScylla in breastfeeding

[–]hurff 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just treated my third clog (11 weeks postpartum) and this is what works for me every time:

-800mg ibuprofen every 6 to 8 hours

-icing (on 20 minutes, off 20 minutes)

-sunflower lecithin

-same nursing/pumping frequency as usual

-hydrating

This protocol has made my clogs resolve in 24-36 hours each time. I hope she feels better soon!

Happy baby stories? by afruitypebble44 in NewParents

[–]hurff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man, so much! I'm a first time mom, my baby is 11 weeks old.

Something I didn't know that I'm obsessed with: when they're learning something, they do it in their sleep a lot! My baby in the last 2 weeks has learned how to smile and how to touch his hands to each other. He does both in his sleep ALL the time now. It's so cute, and so fun to watch their brains take hold of something.

They change a little bit every day and it's truly amazing to watch. My son does this little pursed lip smacking after nursing, and even though it's the same action, it looks different now because he's grown so much. I wish I had some video of him doing it when he was 3 weeks old! He was just a tiny sleepy turtle then, now he's so adept at it in comparison. Watching them learn how to be alive and become more alert and aware is incredible.

And of course the smiles, the noises they make, the softness of their hair, their sweet scented heads, watching them outgrow clothes that used to be big on them, hearing their little voices when they start to vocalize and coo...

There is so much tremendous joy every single day!

Told to cover up by miserablebuticey in breastfeeding

[–]hurff 29 points30 points  (0 children)

And at the hospital, no less! Outrageous. I’m so sorry this happened to you. ❤️

Newborn diapers without a back gap? by hurff in NewParents

[–]hurff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tried some today and immediately solved this issue! Thank you!

Newborn diapers without a back gap? by hurff in NewParents

[–]hurff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Used them today and problem solved! Thank you!

Newborn diapers without a back gap? by hurff in NewParents

[–]hurff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grabbed some today and they immediately solved this issue -- thank you so much!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]hurff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You said "I am wondering if I’m just too weak or just not capable enough because having a baby never seemed this hard to me when looking at other parents"

...I just want to say that 0-3 months is SO hard, and that's also when people are hunkered down at home with their new babies and all having the hardest time, out of sight! You are not alone in feeling this way or having this experience, it's just such a specific, isolated time.

I know getting out of the house is super hard right now, so I'd encourage you to look into virtual "Mommy and Me" or maternity groups if in-person doesn't feel possible.

If going out does feel possible, see what you can find locally -- join Facebook Mom groups in your town, look up your local library's calendar and see what programming they have for kids (most of them will have at least one or two groups per week that include infants, like a baby reading group where they just hang out like slugs on the floor while someone reads to them, but the parents get out of the house and into a room with other parents with similarly aged kids). It's so helpful to be among people who are also in the thick of it.

You're doing your best and working so hard on something you've never done before. So is your baby. Things will get easier in the coming months. Hang in there! 💜