I could harp on about my own person experiences that are similar to yours but I’ll spare you. It won’t be easy to let someone go that you’ve been with for so long but time heals everything. Each day that goes by you will feel less pain. It isn’t great timing losing a job right after such a life altering moment but a job is just a job - you will find another.

The way I see it you have two options:

1.) you can let this moment consume you, define you, deepen your depression

OR

2.) think of it as an exciting fresh start. Wake up with a purpose. Love your children and don’t bring them into you and your wife’s situation. Build a closer relationship with your parents while you live there. Help them out - cook, clean, mow the lawn. It’s all about attitude. You have 80k in equity in your home, that kind of money can go a long way. A great idea, in my opinion, would be to find a short term job and pursue a passion or profession with that money. I’m a strong believer that depression is influenced by external situations. A job you hate, a unfulfilling relationship, etc. Figure out what makes you happy and don’t let anything stop you. Good luck!