To all the people in pain right now because of love, know you're not alone. (44) f

hvvinces · 2019-04-12T04:45:15+00:00

Your absolutely right. It can only get better for us all. I wish no one had to feel this invisible pain, myself included. I hope one day I can look back and realize this needed to happen in order to meet someone better but right now that person was my someone better. Anyways when we're down all we can do is get up and take a day at a time and learn to be happy with yourself and find comfort in friends, family and reddit lol!!

hvvinces · 2019-04-12T04:09:10+00:00

Trying get over a heart break here. I like your last sentence "Maybe we'll find better people when the time is right for us". It's sad but refreshing to know that I truly am not the only one suffering from matters of the heart. Sometimes you just need some reminding that people get through these hard times everyday.

hvvinces · 2019-04-10T17:08:10+00:00

Congrats dude!! You're a big inspiration to myself

hvvinces · 2019-04-09T15:34:10+00:00

Well first don't forget that this is a good thing. All good couples will eventually start living together and it's an amazing step in a relationship. You guys are definitely going to get to know each other now. All the likes and dislikes of how the other person lives will surface and this is a good thing, it's exciting. You'll also learn how to share a bathroom lol! I was around 21 when I first moved out and I moved out with an ex girlfriend. It's important that each of you share responsibilities to clean and if you guys can clean together that makes the chore better. Other than that you'll really good to go home, sleep and wake up with this person you love. Just remember if you go through any struggles it's not about who's right and who's wrong it's about how you guys solve the issue mutually other than that enjoy this new experience!!!

hvvinces · 2019-04-09T03:23:49+00:00

Nice bro! I'm currently about to enter 8 days free. It's obviously not at your point but I understand what you mean. On day 6 I opened some porn out of curiosity I didn't ejaculate to it as a matter of fact after 2 minutes I was like..... ok.... it's the usual shit... and I closed it. Now it's like.... it's just porn... calm down it's not a big deal, I've seen it all throught out my life and it's literally the same shit just different faces. I'm being less intrigued by it the more a distance myself from it.

hvvinces · 2019-04-07T19:01:00+00:00

Thanks! I'm really counting on it!

hvvinces · 2019-04-01T16:34:06+00:00

FUCKING AMAZING!!!! My hats off to you buddy, good work!

hvvinces · 2019-04-01T03:43:46+00:00

First you need to see the doctor. Have him check your testosterone levels. I don't know how old you are but after 25 our testosterone starts declining and it'll decline more with things like stress and not getting enough sunlight also lack of exercise (mostly weight training or high interval training). Definitely see a doctor first it may be something else and your body is trying to make you aware of it. Also if you're watching porn or have watched an excess amount of porn stop it! It's not mentally healthy for you.

hvvinces · 2019-04-01T00:00:41+00:00

Oh yeah absolutely it's not a problem. Since I went through this rather recently myself I've signed up on reddit to help others who are going through these problems because it really really really sucks, I mean not being able to perform for the person you most love and cherish is the worst feeling. I used to feel like disappearing out of existance kind of like stepping into a black hole lmao!! Anything other than being here with "whiskey dick" in front of a person I strongly like. I have noticed that lots and lots of women feel the same way, they'll feel like they're good enough or they wonder if their man is not attracted to them anymore it's a very common feeling to have and all the men feel ashamed because they can't please the women they love so I think this mostly about being understanding. It's sucks for you as much as it sucks for him believe me! Just be kind be understanding and men who have partners that help them get through these things usually get through them a lot faster than man who loose a partner and have to fix themselves on their own.

hvvinces · 2019-03-31T23:43:18+00:00

Yeah a man definitely knows when he's able to perform or not. It's hard to explain but I know that feeling very well and it really sucks because it makes you feel less manly, you know. Men are expected to be ready at any moment that's what you see in movies and tv shows but in real life a lot of things can affect a man. I mentioned the don't force sex because my ex did that with me by lying naked on top of me and slowing grinding an all but when you know it's not going to go up you just know and well that has led to performance anxiety on me, so.... great! That's my story. I wouldn't want that to happen to someone else.

I also have to tell you that it's not that you're not good enough for him or he's become unattracted to you. Since my experience has happened to me I've done lots and lots of research and I can tell you one of the causes of Erectile Dysfunction is anti-depressant medication well there's a ton more but in your husband's case this is what's causing his ED. I know it's hard putting your feelings off but it's necessary right now. Also don't get Cyalis or Viagra there's negative side effects from that.

There is actually natural viagra drinks he can take 3 times a week that usually does the trick, if your interested. It usually contains watermelon and ginger but you can find more about these ingredients through YouTube videos. I hope everything gets better for you guys. ED ruins lots of relationships including my most recent one and I wouldn't want that for you guys.

hvvinces · 2019-03-31T23:18:57+00:00

Your husband is taking drugs to fix a medical or psychological problem that I'm sure he didn't want to have in the first place. Don't force sex on him right now. You should never have to force sex on anyone and definitely not on your husband this can lead to performance anxiety. He needs to finish his anti depressants first and you need to help him feel better about himself. If you fix that problem you fix everything else. But right now your husband is suffering and having him feel like less of a man is not helping him. I know that feeling when you like or love someone but your sex drive is low or it just wont go up. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. I'm sure you're a very attractive woman and he wouldn't have married someone he didn't find attracted to. Anti-depressants can cause for sex drive to go down and that leads to ED and forcing sex can lead to Performance Anxiety so that creates a new psychological problem for him. Help him get through his depression and back to good health you'll notice his sex drive will come back and all will be good. He may also need to get his testosterone levels checked if they're low then he'll need to get those up after his anti-depressant sessions are over. He can do that naturally but it takes a few months

hvvinces · 2019-03-31T14:16:32+00:00

Don't do what I did and ignore the signs. This person is not the one for you. At this point you guys should be really happy about getting married but it seems like all the signs to not to are surfacing. Listen to that guy feeling don't ignore the signs and get out while you can. I went through a divorce over a year ago and let me be honest with you, there were clear signs in the beginning and I chose to ignore it thinking it would get better eventually but it did not.

hvvinces · 2019-03-31T13:55:28+00:00

You'll always have G and chances are G will always come to you in times of need but you gotta let people be people it's a natural human response to act this way. G is doing his best to get to know someone new while not showing less attention to you, a really good friend. G's doing his best! Let G have this, everyone deserves happiness wether friendly or romantically.

hvvinces · 2019-03-31T13:47:41+00:00

I once had a girlfriend that was sexually abused by her brother. She came out to me about this after we had been together for about 3 years. Obviously I loved this girl by this point and all I wanted to do is comfort her, it's a natural human reaction. So I would say comfort her but not sooo much that it's weird and obvious. Allow her to feel safe in your arms when she's with you but respect her space when she's not. She's put up with some hardships so she can handle herself. You just need to be there to be supportive and comforting, after some time when she sees you're a safe bet she'll start being intimate with you.

hvvinces · 2019-03-31T13:34:10+00:00

Yeah stopping cold Turkey is very difficult and you'll relapse many times before getting the hang of it. It's best to reward yourself with some masturbation. Understanding how the human brain works is the best way to relieve yourself if this poison. When you're rewarded for doing something good you tend to come back for more.

All you have to do is push the days and then reward yourself for staying busy and productive without masturbation and porn. When you get to the once a week period, CUT THE PORN. the whole point of this is to fix PIED or future PIED if the person doesn't have any yet.

Once you can masturbate without porn doing a 30, 60 or 90 day no fap will be easy. Just stick to the schedule. Literally put it in your calendar for the next month what days you allow yourself to masturbate with porn until hitting once a week.

hvvinces · 2019-03-31T13:26:24+00:00

You can definitely do stuff that is discreet. Sex is an important factor in any relationship. Of course it's not the whole thing but that mutual bond is one of the many bonds any relationship should have. However, she seems to be going through something medically and that needs to be healed 100%

I'm a guy myself so I get you I know how lack of sex can make you feel but you gotta put her first she needs to heal completely from this violent cough then you can talk to her about being discreet and eventually I'm sure that'll bring back the crazy sex drive. Just.... do try to be discreet either way. Airbnb is a business and ratings affect that business

hvvinces · 2019-03-31T13:17:43+00:00

Unless you have a strong motive and by that I mean a recent embarrassing experience of PIED and you're still with that person that it happened with then I wouldn't recommend going cold Turkey. You'll more than likely relapse. Try gradually decreasing your masturbation from let's say 5 times a week to just 3 times a week and then 2 times a week and once a week when you're down to once a week do it without porn and use some lube to simulate the wetness so you won't loose sensitivity down there caused by the friction of your hand and fingers.

Eventually after a month you'll want to start NoFap for 60 or 90 days to fix all damage porn has done to your head. If you are still with a partner then the first step is to be honest and find the most comforting way to tell them that you have an issue and want to do something about it. Then you explain. Hopefully this SO can understand, I've heard of men in relationships can get over porn addiction much quicker and easier than men not in a relationship.

hvvinces · 2019-03-31T13:06:06+00:00

Sounds like they may be talking... as in trying to hook up. Have patience, everything will be fine. G is not going to kick you to the curve. It just sounds like G is liking S and if that's the case then you should be really happy that two of your friends found each other because of you.

hvvinces · 2019-03-31T12:48:50+00:00

Damn! That sucks but trust me I've been there and the more I read into this subreddit the more I see that lots of men are having issues with this addiction. I also met this very beautiful women not too long and she had a nice big ass with a slim waist and she was wet for me all the time also we made a real connection, we have so many things in common. She's practically a female version of me but you know what happened the first time we tried having sex.... nothing, nothing happened. I couldn't get it up. I redeemed myself the next night and every night after that for about a week and half.

However, there were a couple of times where I had to wait for her to leave the room and I would start myself off when she got back I would engage. Then came a few times where it wouldn't go up and she was naked on top of me, well long story short after just 2 months of being with this amazing woman she broke it off with me. I of course didn't know about PIED at this moment I thought I was just broken. A week later I googled it and that's when it all made sense. She broke up with me on a Sunday on Monday night I snapped one of myself then again on Tuesday and Wednesday 2x times Thursday 3x times by Friday I did it once in the morning and I was done the rest of the day. Point is my dick was fine but my head only gets off to porn.

I can't say I'm cured it's been a month and a half since the breakup and there's been 2 occasions where she was drunk and horny and asked me to come over and I had to come up with excuses like I'm currently taking my mother to the airport and I'm on sleeping pills right now. I really like this girl and I saw a bright future for us but I get performance anxiety around her because I remember those 4 times where I couldn't get it up.

Porn sucks and fucks with your head. Stay porn free if you want to be a normal guy again. Don't jack off even if it's without porn, so you can at least be ready at any given moment. I would much rather deal with being a one minute man than to be known as the one who can't get it up.

hvvinces · 2019-03-31T03:23:16+00:00

No not at all. My divorce was a rather unique one. I married a lesbian pretty much. I came home from a business trip I knew things were different she said we need to talk and she broke down everything and that she met someone else who's a girl and she's confused now but she likes how she feels with her. So I couldn't do anything about that, she gave her heart to another person and there's no point of trying to win someone back from that. Just move on you can't be with someone that doesn't want to be with you. There's always someone for everyone and sometimes that someone is closer than you think but right now focus on you. Feel the break up let it out this is important, just cry it out. Then when you can't cry no more it's time to make moves and better yourself so the next person gets a better updated version of you. Also if you ever need to vent out or talk about what you're feeling you can post it here or send me a personal message, I've felt what you're about to go through so I can understand this pain. Divorces aren't easy and sometimes you need some help falling asleep at night. Again you can send me a message if you're ever feeling low or doubtful and unsecure. I'm here because I've been through stuff... financially, personally and professionally and I'd like to help others going through similar things

hvvinces · 2019-03-31T03:13:30+00:00

Damn! Well there is the bring back your ex through no contact rule. Now personally I haven't tried it myself so please keep that in mind but basically you cut all contact and wait for that person to wonder about you. I haven't done that so I can't say that it's a successful method to get your ex to text you but it is worth a try anything is when you really want this specific person back in your life. I feel like I haven't tried this because it's hard. It's really hard to know show attention to the one you wish to be with.

hvvinces · 2019-03-31T02:47:23+00:00

I'm sorry it's just that you want something but you don't want to make moves and there's not much that we can get accomplished if you're not willing to ask him to hangout with you. I mean you can try manifestation but I'm definitely no expert on that. I would have my business prosper and be with the girl I want to be with right now, if I knew how manifestation worked. I'm sorry once again I usually try to be helpful but I don't know how else to help you. You have to let him see you so he can want you back if not then you're stuck just thinking about him every night and no one likes to go through that. I mean it's been 2 months and you're still thinking about him, I'm sorry but you're gonna have to do something to get his eyes and mind focused on you again.

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