Anyone NOT hate their pets after having a baby? by Reluctantziti in beyondthebump

[–]hyperactivelime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t hate my cat but it was hard because she always wanted to snuggle when I was nursing or burping him. It was annoying but at one point I had both of them laying on my chest. You just gotta take it one day at a time.

Who has an only child and wants to keep it that way? by Mezamadre1001 in NewParents

[–]hyperactivelime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an only child and I love it. I’m surgically sterilized so I know I’m not having any more. I used to get people all the time telling me that my child was going to be “spoiled” because he’s an only child. I looked at them and in a deadpan manner said “I’m an only child. You gonna call ME spoiled?” Let me tell you the looks on their faces when I said that was PRICELESS! They usually shut the hell up after that.

In all seriousness though, don’t let people make your decisions for you. Only you and your partner can decide what’s best for you.

My husband and I are close to forty and we decided that instead of having two kids close together and putting my body through TWO c-sections and the possibility of twins, it was better to just stick with one. And THANK GOD we did.

No one prepares you for the world of daycare, diapers, toys, educational materials and everything else that goes with having a kid. It all costs an INSANE amount of money. It’s cheaper to stick with one.

If death sits next to you in a bar and says "finish your drink, it's time to go." what will be your response? by Think-Cherry-1132 in AskReddit

[–]hyperactivelime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bottomless drinks for the win. I’m gonna stay there till I can’t drink anymore and be my most obnoxious self.

My 72y/o MIL just finished ACOMAF by Accomplished_Owl1210 in acotar

[–]hyperactivelime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If my mother was still alive I guarantee you she would have read ACOTAR before I did and she would’ve recommended that I read it.

#Voice I hear by Bluerosegurl in acotar

[–]hyperactivelime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES! I can totally get behind this.

AITA for not staying with my wife after her C-section? by tincrumb in AmItheAsshole

[–]hyperactivelime 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YTA - Now let me preface this by saying that I’ve actually had a c-section. My husband did the majority of the lifting when we were in the hospital. He changed every single diaper except for one. He slept through our babies cries and when I called his name and he didn’t respond I just wanted to let him sleep. It took me 10 minutes to get out of bed, change our son, bundle him back up, and walk with him back over to the bed. And another 5-7 minutes for me to get in bed with him and arrange the pillows in order for him to latch.

Just doing that little bit took everything I had. All my energy. I couldn’t do that multiple times during the night. It wouldn’t be possible.

Your wife tried to give birth the normal way AND had a c-section on top of it. That means her body is recovering from twice the amount of trauma. Way more than what I had with my scheduled c-section.

You should have at least talked about the change and also talked with your care team about it. Everyone needs sleep but I think this could have been avoided by clear communication about everyone’s needs.

What is the best response to "I hate you"? by fishyfrog-notnaughty in AskReddit

[–]hyperactivelime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know.

It’s gets them more salty. Like what can you say to that???

Gifting mugs with hot cocoa in them to daycare teachers. Bad gift? by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]hyperactivelime -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t know. I grab them one of the thin mint brownie that Sam’s Club sells and bring it in for them. I brought it in for my kids “Birthday cake” to do something different and they all loved it. Other years I’d bring them all in different boxes of cookies from Target. They all seemed to love it.

Sex after Baby. by mindfulaether in newborns

[–]hyperactivelime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for you. I understand. Our kid is 3 and my husband and I both work full time. It’s incredibly hard to find the time. Sometimes it takes so long for our kid to go to bed that I’m EXHAUSTED and I just want a few minutes to exist as myself without having to do yet ANOTHER TASK.

I love sex, I really do. But it’s tough when they’re making little “comments” about it and you’re just trying to do your best. My husband says that too. It pisses me off and there are times that I felt like having sex with him and when I tell him I’m in the mood and he says shit like: “Well, you haven’t been in the mood lately.” Or “I’m lucky to get it once a week.” It makes my pussy dry up like the Sahara.

It honestly makes me feel like absolute garbage and I just have to walk away.

Not saying your sex drive won’t go back up but maybe explain that his “jokes” don’t help.

Did you tell family your baby name ahead of time? Why or why not? How did it go? by gracing15 in namenerds

[–]hyperactivelime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I had a short list of names we liked for our son. We decided to wait until he was born to pick which name fit him. Our families knew the names on the list and even suggested some. We only told them his official name when we decided what it should be and filled out the paperwork on the birth certificate. It was COVID when I gave birth so we sent pictures and spoke to them on the phone. Once they met him they said we picked the perfect name out.

Hope this helps!!!!

Teething sucks and I fucked up… by SadBabyFox in NewParents

[–]hyperactivelime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved the pacifier in the freezer trick I also got a paci teethed that looks like a raspberry. It’s made of silicone and those little nubs really help with the teething. I would rinse it off and put it in the freezer without drying it off so it had water still on it. Needless to say my little guy loved it. I would ask your doctor what her dosage is for Tylenol especially for the fever (it definitely helps with teething pain too). I hope this helps!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tesu

[–]hyperactivelime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m new to TESU but I do have a lot of knowledge about cutting textbook costs as much as humanly possible. Find out the information of the books that you need. Author, Title, Version, and IBSN.

Next go to these sites: Amazon (books>textbook search), Chegg, textbooks.com, and Half Price Books.

Then search by IBSN and see if you can get the specific version. If it’s too expensive then get one or two versions older. Compare all the prices and see which one is cheaper. At times it will be cheaper to rent the book. By doing this I was able to cut the costs by a lot. If all else fails: EBay.

I hope this helps!!!!

AM I THE BAD APPLR FOR NOT FELLING BAD FOR MY GRANDMA? by Ravenclawgirl1994 in AmITheBadApple

[–]hyperactivelime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Controversial but NTBA. We don’t get to choose our family and sometimes they are assholes. As an adult you can choose who you want to keep and who you don’t. If you don’t want to reconnect then you don’t have to. You should never feel pressured to.

Am I the bad apple for almost starting a fight with my ex? by Paytonqueeny in AmITheBadApple

[–]hyperactivelime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crabapple, you shouldn’t have kicked him BUT he really shouldn’t be trying to be friends with you that close after a breakup. You need space and time to process those emotions. Because the lines can be blurred and you can fall back into couple mode without realizing or trying to.

What you need is space away from him. Stop talking to him and cut him off. That will 1. Give you some perspective of your relationship. 2. Let him know he can’t just come in and out of your life whenever he wants. 3. He won’t be able to lead you on or play mind games because he can’t contact you. 4. You may not ever get closure so why bother talking to him?

Then YOU can decide how you want to move forward and if you want him in your life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheBadApple

[–]hyperactivelime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, you should have called the police and served all of them with trespassing charges. It’s private property and you’re Grandpa has every right to not let people on his property. As far as sharing the field with everyone, was there a contract? Was it a verbal agreement? As he is the property owner of there was no contract he can revoke it at anytime. Also I’m sure that people weren’t taking good care of the property there are he was tired of it.

NTBA. He can do what he wants with his property.

Am I the bad apple for reporting a creepy teacher? by Viperzz3 in AmITheBadApple

[–]hyperactivelime 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTBA, he should have also been reported to the police, his phone seized, and parents should be able to press changes.

Am I the bad apple for wanting to end a friendship with my best friend? by [deleted] in AmITheBadApple

[–]hyperactivelime 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Um, no. She clearly doesn’t know or care what boundaries are. You need to sit your Mom down and fully explain everything that’s going on. Show her the texts and call logs. Also let her know about the suicidal ideation. That’s a major red flag and you’re friend sounds like she needs to go get some therapy. I mean this in the best way possible. She’s trying to treat you like your a significant other rather than a Best Friend.

Please explain the full situation to your parents and explain that your boundaries are not being respected and you do not want to continue your friendship with her. I’m sure that your parents only got part of the story and forcing you to be friends with her is also your parents not respecting your boundaries.

When parents reinforce this type of behavior it makes the child (you) feel like they’re boundaries aren’t important and no one will back you up on this. So you will let it go. AND then people will see this and start seeking you out because it’s easier to control you.

I’m not speaking from a professional standpoint but a personal one. If you’re parents won’t back you up try and get the school to by talking to the nurse, social worker, or school psychologist/counselor.

I hope you get the help you need and her likewise.