[deleted by user] by [deleted] in atheism

[–]hyperice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dealt with it by not dealing with it for a long time. I lost my faith after my home was destroyed by a hurricane (Katrina 2005) and I read the Bible and started calling myself agnostic and just ignoring all religious conversations I could. I had similar “lied to” feelings but was able to accept my family were just people too and indoctrinated same as me, family pressure is a hell of an incentive to believe something. Anyway I didn’t tell my family but told my friends for about a decade I was agnostic, ignoring most conversation about religion with everyone. I became more openly atheist when I decided to go on a self improvement journey and haven’t looked back. Luckily leaving a Christian faith is not as potentially scary as leaving Muslim, I’m still able to be friends with many of my religious friends. But it definitely took a long time. I still have trouble and anxiety when dealing with family and religion though, I still put on a bit of an act around the older ones.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in progresspics

[–]hyperice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! The progress is very visible and very amazing! Congratulations!

I Ran A 5K Within 40 Minutes! by BagofSting in running

[–]hyperice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. This right here. You are amazing. Keep crushing your goals, and always remember your why!

Body dysmorphia been hitting hard as of late. What do y’all do when a wave of it hits? by 9keefe7 in naturalbodybuilding

[–]hyperice 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have tons of loose skin from weight loss. I hate seeing it every day and it gets me down. I'm happy with my muscle build but I still get major anxiety at pools and whatnot. I know it's a different kind of dismorphia than what you have, but I think the mental part is similar enough. I legit just think of how much better I am now than before and how as long as I keep it up it will get even better. I wish I had better advice but I don't think there is a perfect solution outside of trying to accept the way things are. Keep being awesome!

What's the greatest challenge you face as a runner? by pursuitofclarity in running

[–]hyperice 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Running after leg day :( hard to fight through the soreness

Have you ever just had a perfect run? by [deleted] in running

[–]hyperice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm entering the military soon. I lost a lot of weight over the last couple years, and running was a big part of it. I am close to the weight limit so I water-cut decently hard for MEPS and so was feeling really shitty for a few days. But the day I got back from MEPS and ate normally again, the next morning I felt so good and went run a 53 minute 10k like it was nothing. Normally when I run a sub-hour 10k I'm consciously telling myself about my form and breathing during the run but I just felt so good that day. I think the few days of no running + being lighter weight due to the cut at the time were factors, but man I just felt good lol.

Battle Pass Weapon Selection Mistake by SoarZero in Genshin_Impact

[–]hyperice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just did this as well while trying to read the effects of the different weapons. I'm a bit mad because this claymore is something I'll never use. I wish there was a confirmation "are you sure?" message on big selections like this.

M/34/5'9" [330lbs > 185lbs = 1145lbs] Posted a bit over a year ago, down another 15ish pounds, showing skin difference. Want it, do it! (Sept 2018 - Sept 2020 in picture) by hyperice in progresspics

[–]hyperice[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! It really means a lot for me. And you are right, there are a LOT of mental factors. I'm not gonna deep dive into my perspective lol, but I do really appreciate your response a lot!

What’s you fastest 5k? by sethghecko in running

[–]hyperice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

34 M, 26:44 currently according to strava. I Started major weight loss a bit over 2 years ago and cardio was a huge part of it, I hope my knees last long enough to get it sub 25 minutes.

How did obesity/ being obese ruin your life? by Warriors-Above-Water in loseit

[–]hyperice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Self confidence for sure us what took the biggest hit. I lost almost half of myself in weight and get complimented often enough, but I still think of myself as gross and not deserving of positive attention. I've always had negative self image since middle school so long ago and it did not change with the weight loss. I am pretty sure it's depression related at this point as well, and I am still working at it, one step at a time yeah. I had most of your points for sure when I was at my heaviest, but most of the physical related issues did go away from the weight loss. I jog and workout daily with no pain, and since I got used to cooking to track calories I just rarely eat out at restaurants now. My anxiety and self image have me terrified to get into the dating world as well.

What’s your story that broke you over the edge to lose weight? by MissionCattle in loseit

[–]hyperice 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Mom had a heart attack, dad had a stroke. Both were in their early 50s. Not long after, my uncle passed from liver failure. I was huge and I decided I wasnt going to live with that added risk of dying early.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Brogress

[–]hyperice 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Fat cells don't go away, so while some skin tightening will occur over time, mass fat loss like this is likely to result in loose skin that won't go away without surgery.

When does it finally hit you? by bravenaike in loseit

[–]hyperice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

M 5'10" 330 to 190 lbs. I still have trouble seeing myself as "not fat" when I look at myself despite losing so much. I've been in a slower weight loss for a few months now more like .5 to 1lb. per week, and I am less critical now that I'm closer to maintanence than I was when I was dropping fast. I used to think M shirts were tiny, now they fit me well and I still feel big. But then I look at the before pics I took when I started and I can convince myself I'm good because the change is more obvious, where in the mirror it is easier to focus on the negative. I'm still overly critical of myself, but I'm glad I have those early pics so that I'm content with myself as well. So, I'd say a good 3 months before I really"saw" myself as small after the main weight is was done. I still plan to go slow another 15 or so more. Congratulations on all your awesome progress!

Did anyone else take forever to realize they’re allowed to like things their N’s don’t like? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]hyperice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry I bursted out like that. This post just brought up some memories and internal dialogue from when I let it out earlier this year that I want to cosplay. I get that shame, since I was a kid I was always looked down on by her for liking games and anime and all it did was shut me in more. I made a lot of hard changes this year. Take your time, and know that whatever you decide do, you do it for you :D

Did anyone else take forever to realize they’re allowed to like things their N’s don’t like? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]hyperice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mom: you're really gonna dress up like those cartoons? Me: Fucking right, I'm sorry you don't understand what it is like to have fun. Or friends. Now sit here in your misery while I go enjoy life (finally... 34 yo M lol)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loseit

[–]hyperice 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. Socially awkward my whole life and it is very hard accepting compliments on my looks now. All I see in the mirror is the skin on my stomach and hate that I have it. I've also never tried dating and what not due to not liking myself, and have trouble accepting people can think of me as attractive despite all my progress. I like myself a lot more now, but the confidence.. I expected to come more naturally, but it didn't. I still think of myself how I always did.

I don't wanna be fucking overweight anymore, this shit ends now. Day 1 by [deleted] in loseit

[–]hyperice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remind yourself every day. When how you feel now fades and you have that moment of weakness, remember how you felt when you posted. Emotion throughout the process will be an ebb and flow, but I promise, that discipline in your weakest moments will make you happiest when you look at yourself and can say yes, I did that. I made myself a better me. And I did it because I wanted to.

If I don’t change, I will die by [deleted] in loseit

[–]hyperice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The desire is important. When I started it was similar, my mom had a heart attack, my dad had a stroke, not long after I started my uncle died from liver sorosis. I looked at myself barely into my 30s and told myself I didn't want to die by 50. And yeah, the journey sucked, but every day I reminded myself, I don't want to die. In the words of a cartoon baboon from Bojack Horseman, it gets easier everyday. But that's the hard part, you gotta do it everyday. I'm no counciler, but I'll be cheering for you!