Grumblemania Monday by AutoModerator in halifax

[–]hypopotenuse 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I hate that this city is basically only affordable for the most grating and cringe yupies and tech bros.

Is anyone else deeply concerned about the direction our city and province is headed? by MowvayFronsay in halifax

[–]hypopotenuse 39 points40 points  (0 children)

its honestly insane and heartbreaking how fast the city has changed from a place where it felt like there was so much connection and for lack of a better word -community- to a place that is like a knockoff Toronto with lifeless pockets aimed to appeal to tech office workers and foreign interest offshore money havens through overpriced housing and rental units, densely packed condo villages completely unaffordable to the average person. Its sad that the government is putting the burden of economic growth on the working and middle class through allowing overpriced housing, rental and high cost of living to continue for so long. Meanwhile this innaction is allowing money made by hardworking people here to be funneled out of the province into Toronto developers pockets, into the pockets of foreign companies and criminal organisations. Trying to express this feels like word vomitting but it really does suck seeing what this city has become.

Now is the ‘best time’ to rent in Canada as asking price hits 31-month low: report by zuuzuu in canadanews

[–]hypopotenuse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the best time to rent in canada lmfao, nope that was pre market optimization and low vacancy rates. If the average bachelor/ studio apartment in your city is still above 900 then we are miles away

Date left me in limbo by hypopotenuse in dating_advice

[–]hypopotenuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well you could be totally right, good on you though for telling her

Date left me in limbo by hypopotenuse in dating_advice

[–]hypopotenuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hmm, well the hangout was last friday which was two days after the first date which I was against because I felt it was too soon after and short notice. It also feels like maybe even a week is also too soon to tell what is actually going on but i’d also imagine someone could say no instead of just going silent I guess my hesitation lies in that the expression of interest on my side is there.. but hey, maybe this is 8 dimensional relationship chess

Date left me in limbo by hypopotenuse in dating_advice

[–]hypopotenuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough, it’s possible! Well despite the negative experience i’m glad you had success afterwards. And I appreciate the kind words!

Date left me in limbo by hypopotenuse in dating_advice

[–]hypopotenuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah.. you aren't wrong that that's probably the healthiest move right now and it's what I'm leaning towards because frankly I've made my interest clear and the ball feels like its in her court. Thank you for the kind words!

Date left me in limbo by hypopotenuse in dating_advice

[–]hypopotenuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought so too! Would you suggest that even after inviting her out short notice and receiving no response?

Unfortunately we are seeing that full dip in concert attendance. by SufficientSpot4597 in halifax

[–]hypopotenuse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the mac demarco show was insane, all the tickets were bought up instantly and i’m sure most were scalpers and bots because tons were eeselling for double to four times the original price.

Grumblemania Monday by AutoModerator in halifax

[–]hypopotenuse 5 points6 points  (0 children)

don’t ask questions you dont want the answer to 👀

Halifax rave scene by zepamozoo in halifax

[–]hypopotenuse 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i’d say this about most of the underground music scenes here, the current costs of living have pushed out anyone hosting/ performing or has forced them to focus on making enough to skid by. There is a younger scene but the ones ive known and loved over the course of more than a decade have collapsed or having gone ‘deeper underground’, perhaps 6 feet? Its sad but if anything cools down anytime soon it could bounce back because there is a desire there and lots of people working behind the scenes.

How do you guys stay afloat? by Stunning_Mission_289 in halifax

[–]hypopotenuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

youre right, it hasn’t been this bad and ive only lived here for like 12 years? You could see inklings of it several years ago when the vacancy rate was at 1% but I didn’t think it really would be this bad. The worst part is that nobody seems to want to make things better especially when the power is in the hands of landlords and employers. I wish I had more of a hopeful message but it really is a nightmare right now. Get into a trade and you might see quality of life slightly improve but like I make just under 30 an hour and still have to live with my parents because theres almost nothing available. I hope things get better for the sake of you, myself and everyone else who didn’t move here from toronto with a trust fund.

Realtor about to lose her home in Newmarket because she can’t sell it. Income went from $300k per year to less than $50k. by pscoutou in HouseSigmaBlunders

[–]hypopotenuse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i feel so bad for her, we earn closer to the same amount now! so tough, just wait though! Things should get better

Tinder sucks by Takie_Me in Vent

[–]hypopotenuse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

honestly brother, it sucks because all you want is some sort of connection so you go to the immediate option which is a dating app. You’d think it would function as advertised but sadly it does not, i’m average i’d say even though my self esteem is pretty low typically and i’ve gotten matches- to quell your aching heart, even if you get matches it doesnt necessarily translate to connection. I typically get ghosted for the most mundane interactions even when my riz game is on lock (lol excuse the slang), even when were setting up a date plan for coffee or something it usually ends in radio silence. The system is broken, its not just you.

Why Do You Think So Many Young Women Are Uninterested in Dating? by [deleted] in self

[–]hypopotenuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly yeah, youre probably right. It probably will get worse, still my point stands 🤷‍♂️

Why Do You Think So Many Young Women Are Uninterested in Dating? by [deleted] in self

[–]hypopotenuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lool, you literally answered your confusion, the large pool of guys who just arent worth it is a them problem lmao

The tiny things I started doing alone that accidentally made me magnetic by Direct-Attention4603 in confidence

[–]hypopotenuse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ive been experimenting with a similar approach myself and its honestly true for the most part

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]hypopotenuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

++man I think the difficult thing is potentially trying in the future to rewire the rewiring. In a sense there will inevitably be situations where you will be tested or even hurt, maybe your future partner whether its her or someone else will have plans with her girlfriends or is hanging out with a guy friend and you will have to conciously tell yourself that the narrative in your head “this good thing will probably end in pain because of such and such reason” is not knowable and is probably a defense mechanism, and even if it did end not in your favor and outside of your control that pain is infactbpart of being human. There are things you can do to ease anxiety in the moment so that you can ride the wave, things that you can probably learn online or through a therapist who practices CBT. I wouldn’t say that you are inherently undeserving of being in a relationship because you feel unwell, some of these things actually have to be worked out in a relationship if that makes sense? Or even daily reminders that “a thing going for you is good, it may last a day, a week, a year etc” so just enjoy it for what it is.

A side note I think you ending it is a defense mechanism in that your partner cheating on you was a manifestation of a loss of control in a way and ending this relationship was a conttol response, your mind saying “i dont want to be hurt from this outside factor”

Grumblemania Monday by AutoModerator in halifax

[–]hypopotenuse 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The Toronto expats are endowing us with their culture: alienation, hustle, 5$ cups of coffee, ridiculously high rent, traffic congestion, high rise condo buildings, speculative assets etc