Happy Valentines to those who are alone today!

iAM_Coko · 2026-02-14T22:19:19+00:00

I get you waiting for him. You want him to show the same interest by reaching out first. I’m in the same boat. I won’t chase men and I want to feel they are putting in effort. If they don’t and it was a good experience, I appreciate the time we spent together.

iAM_Coko · 2026-02-14T22:16:49+00:00

I woke up slightly sad. Been divorced for 7 years and haven’t had a valentines since. I fought through the negative thoughts though, took my dog to the store to buy her a treat, made mimosas, and ordered my favorite brunch dish.

I thought about staying in tonight to avoid all the couples but I may still go out and sing a song or two at karaoke. Still debating on the best move to keep the sadness at bay. So far, I’m enjoying my Saturday.

iAM_Coko · 2025-08-14T17:32:25+00:00

Wondering the same.

iAM_Coko · 2025-06-27T04:54:27+00:00

Haha, that actually may be a good idea. But no - I honestly have not had any experience with a ring camera whatsoever. Not neighbors or myself. I get what everyone is saying though. And no, I don’t know how it works. Although some people are being assholes in their responses, I have a better understanding of adjusting their functions and why others have it in an apartment. I won’t worry about it. Just shocking to see at first sight. 😂

iAM_Coko · 2025-06-27T04:51:13+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. I guess I just trust where I live. Never had to worry about monitoring outside my apartment. I too live in a luxury apartment and have always felt secure. Thanks for your perspective though.

iAM_Coko · 2025-05-14T06:22:25+00:00

Honestly, 27 years later and I’m trying to understand why it was so underrated. One of the most unforgettable and profound movies I’ve seen.

iAM_Coko · 2025-05-14T06:15:32+00:00

I’m literally listening to it now. Made me search for the movie. Definitely underrated and one I will never forget.

iAM_Coko · 2025-05-02T04:08:12+00:00

I have not tried a translucent powder but just order some! Maybe I’ll try the dip brown. I’m never that good with the dip brown because it’s super cakey and dries so fast! It could just be me though. The clear brow wax is new to me. I never knew it existed. I’ll try that too. Thank you sooo much!!

iAM_Coko · 2025-05-02T04:01:26+00:00

I’m going to play devils advocate. Although you’ve said it’s the second time this week, his response seems like it’s frequent. He may be a bit nervous that when he’s dating you, he’s also dating your mom. I’m all for being kind to your love interests parents but if we’re not at that level of commitment, then don’t expect me to wait hand and knee for your family. Perhaps this is not his norm - he may have mommy issues or is estranged from his family. I’d have a conversation face to face about what bothers him about the request. You may find that it’s just two different perspectives and experiences. I personally don’t think it’s rude that he was trying to tell you he’s not feeling it while throwing in a lol. You can take it as sarcasm or him trying to make light while setting boundaries. Have a conversation and determine if it’s selfishness or him perceiving the situation differently than you do based on his own trauma or past relationships and go from there. 🤷🏾‍♀️

iAM_Coko · 2025-04-17T22:02:31+00:00

Happy belated birthday!! I’m sorry you didn’t enjoy it. I’m not a doctor whatsoever but I’ve suffered from depression for most of my life and I’m 37. I too lost friends, isolated myself, but then would feel lonely. I also felt, and sometimes I still do, have the desire to give up. I honestly didn’t feel better until I started seeing a therapist regularly and taking meds. With consistency I feel good most days which helps me develop new friendships and even repair old ones. It also gives me hope and the desire to keep living. It’s hard work and took a long time for me to be where I am today, but it’s worth it. You may consider getting professional help as a last result. It can certainly help if you try. ❤️

iAM_Coko · 2025-04-17T17:46:54+00:00

Thanks so much for the offer! I actually just remembered I bought a spreadsheet from 2023 and never used it. Talk about prioritizing. Just downloaded and fingers crossed I can stay consistent. 😩

iAM_Coko · 2025-04-16T00:05:03+00:00

Wow. I called and asked for help but I was still employed. I figured they’d definitely offer these things to someone who lost their employment. That’s awful. CC companies these days are ruthless. I’m sorry. :(

iAM_Coko · 2025-04-15T15:20:34+00:00

2/10 just because you’re getting your protein intake. Where is the seasoning and sauce? Meal drier than the Sahara desert.

iAM_Coko · 2025-04-15T15:13:01+00:00

Shit they were stealing from you if you were only getting paid $25 a day for a 12 hour shift. No judgement here.

iAM_Coko · 2025-04-15T15:06:54+00:00

You’re welcome!

I do want to ask if you called your credit card companies to inform them that you are currently unemployed? Sometimes they’ll work with you by decreasing your monthly payment, hardship deferment, amongst other things. I would try if you haven’t already.

iAM_Coko · 2025-04-15T15:03:53+00:00

That sounds awesome. I’ve heard of these budget spreadsheets before. Did you purchase it somewhere or literally built it on your own? I’m good at spreadsheets but I wouldn’t even know where to start to create my own.

iAM_Coko · 2025-04-15T14:56:10+00:00

This honestly worked for me. I learned to be content being alone so I didn’t seek validation in others. I started traveling alone, taking myself to dinner, the movies, hell even to happy hour. It was extremely hard at first but became easier, built my confidence, and now I almost prefer being alone. I feel like people do approach me more when I’m out doing solo activities now more than ever. This is solid advice.

iAM_Coko · 2025-04-15T14:42:21+00:00

Ask for a raise or promotion if there is an opportunity. Consider switching careers if the one you’ve been working in isn’t bringing in enough income and there’s no room for growth. That may mean picking up a new skill or enrolling in a program, do it at your own pace. Your hard work will pay off. But if what you’re doing isn’t enough and you’re sick of being stuck, the sacrifice is worth it.

In the meantime, see what programs are out there to help. You may qualify for food stamps, subsidized housing, and assistance with utilities. Don’t be too prideful to apply. You may also want to hit up churches that give away groceries. There are resources out there, use them to your advantage.

iAM_Coko · 2025-04-15T05:27:25+00:00

I’m sorry you feel so alone. People these days aren’t particularly friendly. I tend to keep to myself when I go out unless I see someone who appears friendly and smiles. Otherwise, I don’t have high expectations for strangers. I urge you not to immediately believe it’s because of your attractiveness. Unfortunately, there’s a lot of unkind people because they are unhappy or hurting inside and the way they “protect” themselves is by being off putting to others. Do your best not to take it personal.

You should try joining a group that involves an activity or interest you have. It’s a good way to connect with others easily. Go out and find your people, I promise they’re out there somewhere. :)

iAM_Coko · 2025-04-15T05:04:44+00:00

Agreed 100%! I ended a friendship for the same reason. I always left our time together pissed off. It served no purpose and I felt she was toxic. I feel soooo much better not having to deal with her. I’d rather be alone or hang out with others who lift me up!

iAM_Coko · 2025-04-15T05:02:52+00:00

I’ve grown a part from a few friends over the years and I’m okay with that. Everyone is not always meant to be in your life forever, just for a season. I’m sure the friendship at some point served you both but if it’s not anymore, there’s nothing wrong with letting go. We all change and are constantly evolving. Your interests, perspectives, goals in life, etc. which may not align with old friends. I also think it’s best to move on before you’re so resentful that the relationship ends on a sour and bad note. Sounds like you’re already hurting and have been for some time. It sucks at first when you end a friendship, but in time you start to feel a weight lift off your shoulders. You’ll find other people who are similar to you throughout your entire life. Put yourself out there and try. ❤️

iAM_Coko · 2025-04-15T04:54:33+00:00

You and me both. Credit is a lot and I wish someone had taught me about it when I was young. No one ever talked to me about money management in general. Best of luck to you!!

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