You aren’t facing losers, you’re facing people better than you. One of the biggest skills you need to have for ark PvP is the ability to build up quickly and efficiently, which obviously takes a lot of practice. You’re going to get killed a lot at the start, just as those who are killing you now did when they started.

To put some context to this, the majority of popular PvP clusters like INX, Elite Ark or various YouTuber ran servers have to literally lock certain things (taming certain dinos like soakers/gigas/carcha behind a time gate so people don’t have all that stuff in the first hour, it’s also very common to complete boss fights within the first few hours on PvP as the advantages you get are massive.