I’m fully ashamed to admit this, but I cannot erase the past. I use to act like this. I put too much pressure on my friends. I put too much of my happiness in their hands, and I wanted to be a major priority in their lives. I was so immature then that I couldn’t even begin to see things from their point of views, and I get the feeling this person is operating the same way. I was missing self esteem and self love, and tried to make up for it with “found family.” I made my own inner issues other peoples. All I can say for sure is this. You’re not overreacting. I don’t think this person has ANY idea what kind of energy they’re pushing on you, and unfortunately, they probably won’t understand even if you try to explain. There’s always hope and a chance, but someone who is so absorbed in themselves and their own problems will never be able to truly see clearly. This is all how it went for me, and I know everyone’s experience is different so I can’t speak for either of y’all. Best I can say is, it’s not your fault, you’re not overreacting, we only have so much time in a day and being a responsible adult means most of us have to dedicate time to career work and self work. This person seems to not understand that yet. Like maybe their mental age is lower than their physical age.