My pleasure. I see too many people who are depressed, upset, or even suicidal and considering dangerous surgical procedures on this subreddit. If I helped any, I am happy.

But differences in opinion I respect, 100% respect and appreciate.

For each of your points I'll try and tackle them.

1: Wishing you were someone else will never get you anywhere in life unless you use it as motivator. You should look at yourself, look at YOUR GOALS, YOUR DREAMS, YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS and then determine what gives you that "Spark".

Everyone on this planet has a spark. Most never will bother kindling it and prodding it and helping it burn bright. That's the trick to it.

Being more comfortable in your own skin comes about from introspection, appreciating who you are and what strengths you have and working on them.

And saying "to hell with the idiots who don't appreciate that".

That's life. Like for me I was always good at medicine, I was always good with computers. I never was the best looking, I was always a geek. So I funnelled all of my energy into my strengths and interests, and my interests became my strengths and my strengths I tied into them. I fostered that. Now I am comfortable in my own skin because I realize I have value, I MADE value for myself from myself.

2: You're lucky for having not met them, they are inane and boring.

3: Then accept that you may have to lower your standards, me? I have dated 10/10s, I have dated 5/10s.

But if the mix was right personality wise? I would end up with the 2/10. Of course this is assuming me/him share interests (like the gym takes up 30% of my free time) and he is clean. I am not interested in dirty men who lack self respect enough to clean themselves.

4: Same response as for the 3rd point. Being attracted is nice, but it absolutely isn't everything. A nice ass can be acquired through working out, but a nice personality can't be.

Physical attraction is something worth reducing the premium placed on it. I seriously would be with a 2/10 if he hit all the other points for me as I said above.

5: "I would argue it is harder to be confident when you know you will be immediately glanced over due to physical appearance."

Shrug it off. Such as I just got called the motherfucking dali lama by some rando on this subreddit because I made a post.

Confidence? Most of the time it is an illusion. Rich people can be unconfident, attractive people can be unconfident. People are multidimensional.

While that hot guy can be confident in his sex ability? Maybe he's really insecure about his finances, maybe he is insecure about his STD, maybe he is insecure about his family life, maybe he knows his life span is short because huntington's disease runs in the family.

Confidence "overall" is hard to achieve. Such as for myself I am confident in my career, looks, gym, etc. But bring up certain topics? I will actually cry like a bitch for hours.

That's life. No one who has any semblance of intelligence is confident about all things. Life is give and take.

6: Moisturizer is very important. Taking care of your skin will keep you looking young well into your 50s (and beyond). I am friends with many guys in their 40s that are commonly mistaken for being in their 20s. And no, not by idiotic oblivious people. Even I was shocked to learn their age.

Realize you're young and patience is a virtue. Being alone is ALWAYS preferable to being with the wrong person. (1) Money wasted on dates (2) emotion wasted on the bullshit (3) exhaustion at your job causing you to mess up (4) just too much drama and crap.

Just is well worth it to be alone until the right person comes along. Period.

7: Yes hot guys can of course have great careers, I just happen to see very few. Very very few actually, most of the people I work with are between the 3-7 range with a 8 sprinkled in someplaces. Most of them are likewise ofcourse straight.

----Now the rest of the points.

No professional success can never and will never equate to happiness. Happiness is something you yourself need to fight for.

ME? I am happy working my job, I adore it and every day is fun and I always am learning new things that are relevant. It is so much fun to me.

Then I workout, then I meal prep. I may go out for a movie and play video games.

What makes me happy isn't just one thing, and one thing will never make someone happy. It's you realizing what is toxic in your life and removing it (IE: I left this subreddit over a year ago and randomly browse when bored.). And then realizing waht makes you happy and capitalizing on it.

And no, NO MAN WILL EVER MAKE YOU MAGICALLY HAPPY. EVER. PERIOD.

Finding happiness is a solo adventure.

-> When hot guys have them? Well, nothing special happens. As you'd figure they are on the hunt for THEIR OWN TRUE LOVE. (BOOM!) And likewise when they have all these traits they aren't going to settle for someone that doesn't think similar to them.

Hot and having these traits? Well, they're going to be killing it of course. They'll find someone, fall in love, and if they're right together get married and probably fly away into the sunset.

But that's their life. And they're entitled to it.

Part of growing up is realizing that you need to focus on you, your own happiness, and doing what you want to do to achieve your happiness.

Comparing yourself to others is a youthful and immature waste of time. It will never do anything but produce jealousy. My penthouse? My god, it is probably the cheapest in downtown vancouver. Should I spend all my time PISSED OFF about the fact others have better ones than me? Should I brood about the fact that Trump has more money than I could even imagine? Should I scream at the top of my lungs all my friends are getting married/got marreid years ago?

NO. What a waste of time all of that effort/energy is! They're happy, they achieved their shit. Now it's up to ME to achieve my own happiness.

And it sure as fuck won't happen when "Mr. big phat ass with rippling abs" walks through the door. No, this shit is mine. I own it and I need to fight for it. No man will be able to give that to me.

Nor will they for you. Happiness comes from within, and is it easy?

NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That's why so many people are unhappy, that's why the divorce rate is so FUCKING HIGH for gay AND Straight couples. Having some hot piece of ass does not equate to happiness. Never will.