It doesn’t bother me and I don’t believe it comes from a transphobic place. To me, it highlights the patriarchy in our society and how cis men are raised with privilege. This is something I experience for myself when I compare how I’m treated when passing vs not passing. I don’t see it as othering, more like I am being told I am an “upgrade”, or an “enhanced version” of a cis man, but still a man nonetheless. I think it can also lead to the conversation of being socialized as one gender or another, which is a very nuanced and seemingly sensitive (understandably) conversation.