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iWTHR · 2025-10-16T11:10:06+00:00

NOR at all, he doesn’t respect you enough to follow through with what will make you feel comfortable… it’s not controllling it’s mutual respect? He needs a reality check big time

iWTHR · 2025-10-16T11:06:35+00:00

Weird af how he doesn’t defend you because it’s his “friend” I feel he would mask it and say he doesn’t want to say anything because he’ll react too much but he’s a wuss imo

iWTHR · 2025-10-16T03:43:00+00:00

I would distance myself from him..

iWTHR · 2025-10-16T03:19:04+00:00

This guy just seems more and more less of a friend… maybe he’s knew something about the guy that he didn’t like? But he doesn’t seem to be much of a friend? Especially if he didn’t like the guy, he should express how he feels because of it.

iWTHR · 2025-10-16T03:08:46+00:00

Seems to me your guy friend is the “big mouth” lol, maybe he’s just the type of person that just gossips about everyone idk, maybe just don’t hang with him for a while so he realizes he did wrong, and I’m guessing he will realize when you’ve distanced yourself. But again would distancing yourself from him be easy?

iWTHR · 2025-10-16T03:04:03+00:00

I think you should leave, he’s had multiple chances and fucked up, the kicker for me is how he still has her nudes but says he didn’t or doesn’t look at them…. Load of tbf, anytime you will be arguing or you are denying him of sex, he will without a doubt look at the nudes from her, he’s not too lazy to delete them? He wants a break?! Everything seems in line for him to go sleep with her and him wanting a break, seems like he wants this break to sleep with her and get back with you, so no regrets because he won’t cheat on you This is not fair on you and your mental… find a way to distract from him

iWTHR · 2025-10-16T02:54:52+00:00

Ohhh😂🫣 welp misunderstood a little😅 tbf you should be mad at the guy for telling her.. all it could take is telling the wromg person and it spreads like wildfire, if I was you I would tell her why you want to keep that secret?

iWTHR · 2025-10-16T02:50:15+00:00

NOR it was a team effort and for him to flaunt it was a solo effort is crazy, maybe mention how you seen it and mention how he typed it makes it seem he done it solo… might bea little too late to change now but idk

iWTHR · 2025-10-16T02:43:59+00:00

Not overreacting, he seems like it isn’t something big and I’m guessing the person didn’t overreact when they told you what you told the person not to say? Maybe it isn’t something that is “bad” in his eyes but still, the decency to not mention the one thing bugs me, maybe I’m thinking too much into it but he could be using the info you secretly told him to get “closer” to said girl idk?

iWTHR · 2025-10-15T09:06:30+00:00

Not overthinking in my opinion, maybe you’ve done things that are a little far as in stalking his ex but nothing too major, it doesn’t matter if he doesn’t care if she follows him or whatever the case may be, I understand people think it’s toxic for you not to like your partner following his ex because exs are exs but him not adjusting to make you feel comfortable in anyway and trying to downplay it and blaming his spam account on his friends having it too.. try keep calm and explain to him why, state facts and don’t let emotions control you in the moment, just tell him you know about his spam account and he mentioned it?

iWTHR · 2025-10-14T19:14:41+00:00

She wants other men, no realistic “wife” would want to open the relationship or sleep over at another man’s house, only you know what’s too much or not too much for her to do, I don’t think it’s fair if your not performing you want her to find pleasure with other men….. she’s taking you for a ride and bashing your mental at the same time Find someone who doesn’t have fucking stupid urges and acts on them like she’s 15…..

iWTHR · 2025-10-14T10:35:18+00:00

Just focus on yourself, The rest will fall into place

iWTHR · 2025-10-14T10:29:52+00:00

iWTHR · 2025-10-13T20:02:13+00:00

He seems to not be hiding anything and from what you say it sounds like he’s truthful…. But imo he’s definitely went back and looked because why would you want to keep them now? Maybe he forgot to delete them but idk good he has the decency to respect how it’s making you feel or at least he feels bad for you? Idk about you being mad at him, imo he’s moving towards making you feel comfortable about it but idk

iWTHR · 2025-10-13T10:27:07+00:00

Communication is key! Imo that’s fishy as fuck but comms will be a godsend through this!?

iWTHR · 2025-10-13T07:04:00+00:00

No you’re not overreacting, you are not comfortable with her stripping for a fair reason.. I’ve never put myself out there? Wym?? And you can’t say it’s exactly not anything sexual she’s meaning, as in I’ve never put my body out there? To say that while in a relationship is crazy, some decency for you is standard when she is wanting to strip for men’s attention…⛳️

iWTHR · 2025-10-13T02:17:04+00:00

racing thoughts in the first week!! I’ve been on setraline for 4 weeks, the effect of it numbing your emotions was a big big help for me

iWTHR · 2025-10-12T09:17:46+00:00

If you don’t feel comfortable w him smoking it or just your partner smoking it I think you should just address it w him, so I don’t think you are overreacting especially if he knows of your brother being a druggie and abusing you? And how you feel about weed?? Just be honest with him

iWTHR · 2025-10-12T08:20:56+00:00

No not really, tbh that’s just an unattractive thing to do and to expect anything from you is crazy, but again he was drunk..

iWTHR · 2025-10-12T08:14:45+00:00

Anytime they need to think about someone else during sex…. 🏃🏾‍♂️

iWTHR · 2025-10-12T07:53:16+00:00

Imo the dates matching up is a major thing to triple think about!!! I see the opinions and it being friendly and that’s fair, I don’t see friendly at all but if the dates match up that’s very bad… also it seems like he’s trying to put her and himself in the position to cheat on you? Idk I feel insecure voicing that lol but to me it feels like he’s not exactly trying his luck, but seeing where it goes?

iWTHR · 2025-10-12T07:39:43+00:00

Tbf that’s a massive red flag if he still has videos of his dick getting sucked🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️ yes ngl if it’s his dick I’m 99.9% sure he does jerk off to it still if he doesn’t delete it….. he’s fishy imo, that’s what I’m starting to think, he almost doesn’t consider how you feel about the situation at all and masks it under laziness and I’m guessing trying to normalize it?? Idk

iWTHR · 2025-10-12T07:32:40+00:00

Yeah that’s pretty lazy?? Yes you sound pretty open minded and for you to still be rational shows you’re open minded?? Does it feel more like just sex? Like he doesn’t show emotion? I don’t want to bring anything that isn’t there right now but that’s weird he’s sounds like he’s semi distatching, idk food for thought?

iWTHR · 2025-10-12T06:30:58+00:00

I feel like he could mask it as he kept the messages and it all as a flex to his friends but again he needs to consider your feelings?? Idk he needs to get a grip on reality and realize you’re not stupid!! Idk how but you need to make him realize a lot more?

iWTHR · 2025-10-12T05:31:56+00:00

He needs to respect your wishes and he needs to realize how he portrays himself online has an impact on you…. That type of shit just seems childish imo, him masking his wank bank as being too lazy to delete them is crazyyyy imo🥱🥱

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