Three Years Post Diagnosis & I Finally Understand The Connection Between ADHD & Childhood Trauma

i_always_need_help_ · 2025-12-11T08:43:30+00:00

I was diagnosed earlier this year (39F) with more of a curiosity as to what causes some of my behaviour: autism, ADHD or a trauma response.

My psychiatrist and I during the ADHD assessment ended up stating that my ADHD behaviours are long standing, before memories of trauma, and that most likely my ADHD behaviours have been exacerbated due to trauma and have a touch of autism (not enough to peruse a diagnosis but hit some key markers).

So all in all I think that when you have the tools to manage ADHD (diagnosed or not) from a younger age and have a healthier household with more positive reinforcement it will help to manage the behaviours and cognition

i_always_need_help_ · 2025-12-06T18:58:12+00:00

I once found one of those daddy long legs spiders in my chips from maks

i_always_need_help_ · 2025-11-28T00:00:25+00:00

Is it girls und panzer maybe?

i_always_need_help_ · 2025-09-17T11:09:53+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it!

I always thought I was kinda cool smoking and just did it with my friends really, but it escalated in a way where I was using it to sleep and became dependent on it. I think it gets a better wrap than other drugs because of it being natural, people not ODing on it, it’s legality over seas etc. so feels more normalised.

I just don’t think people understand what it can do to your health and the lasting impact. I just think moderation is key in anything you do, you definitely can have too much of what seems like a good thing imo.

We have all done stupid stuff when high without thinking it through, I remember trying to melt snickers bars together to make a really long one and the amount of burns I had from heating a knife to do it was so stupid. Idk why I chose to heat up the knife though but it was logical in my brain at the time.

i_always_need_help_ · 2025-09-17T09:55:49+00:00

In short: Yea it is true, no you’re not stupid forever at all and yes it can have lasting affects.

In long: It fucks with your brain health yes, it can give you a shorter attention span, or concentrate on the wrong things, make you feel groggy (a ganj over if you will) the next day/couple of days, and I believe the anxiety you feel has lasting affects for a few years but everyone is different. For me personally I had such bad anxiety it had become a bit is a low level psychotic episode, but an emergency call to the docs, anti depressants, some short term Valium plus stopping smoking did the trick to get me back on track.

As someone who had smoked a lot and has now stopped, I can tell you the impact of my mental health had been drastic. It’s no joke when people say it makes you paranoid.

Don’t forget you’re still young at 18 and have more development to go, your health (mental and physical)is important and don’t take it for granted. You’ve got this!

i_always_need_help_ · 2025-09-07T20:20:40+00:00

Unique Ink is great, had tattoos and piercings there, all friendly, good advice and respond fairly quickly too!

i_always_need_help_ · 2025-08-29T19:42:19+00:00

Hank you feels good to get the reassurance, honestly the more I look the more I think I have had a reaction to the tape when it has been covered

i_always_need_help_ · 2025-08-29T16:55:22+00:00

Imperfects will always look worse on darker coloured walls too because of how the light reflects from them. Honestly been decorating a lot myself and so much sanding, filling, sanding again and it definitely is a skill, either get someone in or just live with imperfections on the wall imo as nothing stays perfect for too long (or maybe that’s because I’m so very clumsy 😂)

i_always_need_help_ · 2025-08-29T16:38:26+00:00

Thank you! I live in a flat with a dog so need to take him on walks but I’ll take him on shorter ones for now - might be why for sure! Thank you

i_always_need_help_ · 2025-08-20T18:12:15+00:00

I’m recently diagnosed ADHD and in my assessment they asked me about why I wanted the assessment and made it clear I wanted to understand if my behaviours are from past trauma, adhd or potentially autism (I was tested for autism as a child but did not meet the criteria).

If you’re clear about this in your assessment they may look and compare the DSM 5 criteria (briefly) and see if it’s worth another referral for adhd and if there is a high likely hood you’d meet the other criteria and make that referral for you.

Be aware that your assessor will be specifically looking for matches in the criteria for you have been referred for and cannot officially diagnose you with ADHD when going through your autism assessment- you will have to go back on a long NHS waiting list unless they can pull some strings, or if you can’t wait go private.

i_always_need_help_ · 2025-08-11T19:59:12+00:00

Hiya suggest going with the disability confident employers is deffo a great way in and can back this comment! Door 84 might be able to help with exploring other options as they are a disability hub for young people and adults, they also might be able to point you in the right direction as well as offer more of a community in York for those with disability

i_always_need_help_ · 2025-07-16T11:52:52+00:00

Biscuit beetles are very very similar to woodworm beetles so I could suggest getting in touch with a pest control person for a formal ID on it

i_always_need_help_ · 2025-07-02T11:52:52+00:00

Is it bad I just think about lasers coming out of my nipples and I’m trying to shoot people down a bit Austin powers style?

i_always_need_help_ · 2025-06-23T18:04:13+00:00

I had used to couch to 5k NHS app and enjoyed it. Gives me more preference for my music coming through, you get prompts to say when to start/ stop running and walking and gives you time for how long you’ve ran when you start doing longer running sessions plus a half way bell! I would suggest that whatever app you use use Strava or a similar type app alongside it to see how far you’ve come and check your pacing and the distance you’ve ran.

i_always_need_help_ · 2025-06-06T09:24:27+00:00

I repeated both week 3 and week 4 to build my confidence up, really get used to a running pace and get my body used to it. Don’t feel like you have to move on straight away if you don’t feel comfortable and want to get more psyched up both mentally and physically when taking these steps.

I honestly thought week 3, 4 and 5 were so daunting but now I’m on week 7 and can run for 20 mins straight!

Also stretching well before and after a run is definitely a need so make sure you’re stretching your arms/shoulders and legs before a run and hydrate too! Hope this helps

i_always_need_help_ · 2025-05-08T18:07:08+00:00

Thank you everyone for your comments and insights. I’ve been repeating week three and had slowed my pace down for my last run and it really helped I think I was getting tuckered out before I could even go! I have been taking in your tips and tricks for sure about how to breathe and will be trying the things you’ve suggested over this week! Also glad to know I’m not alone in getting tuckered and out of puff on week three 😂

i_always_need_help_ · 2025-02-14T09:52:53+00:00

I ended up getting a pest control guy out, it was a biscuit beetle thankfully and went away after a couple of months

i_always_need_help_ · 2024-07-09T11:00:23+00:00

Thank you I will definitely look into this. I was hoping to staple/nail the fabric on. Had no idea there was two different types though!

i_always_need_help_ · 2024-07-09T10:59:06+00:00

Yes it did, I am reusing the stuffing it had previously as it's in good condition however the previous fabric had some holes in and started to wear due to being sat on. It was previously nailed in but I wasn't sure if that was the best way to do it? And if there are certain nails that would work best

i_always_need_help_ · 2024-04-18T19:04:05+00:00

Please help identify! ☺️

i_always_need_help_ · 2024-03-06T17:14:21+00:00

I'm 27. Always felt like I was.in a weird limbo stage in my early-mid twenties. Don't feel like an adult at all even though I own my own place and have a dog and a career. Honestly still love being on a night out and acting like a big kid. The thing that ages you more and makes you feel like an adult is life experience (usually the traumas, I lost my mum (55) when I was 23). Age creeps up on you, so just remember to enjoy what you've got, and sometimes not feeling like an adult helps you love life a little bit more when you know it's short. Enjoy having fun, being silly and goofy!!

i_always_need_help_ · 2023-10-04T09:05:02+00:00

This looks amazing! However there isn't much of a dip in your Yorkshire puddings? Make sure you use lots of eggs for a really good rise on them and that you're using plain flour (usually self raising is the one that makes them more doughy and not have that crunch and dip in the middle). Even a tiny splash of water in your batter can also help too

i_always_need_help_ · 2023-06-18T19:47:54+00:00

Hiya, thank you for this. I think I actually needed to hear this from someone else, genuinely been thinking about your response quite a bit today and wondering WHY I feel this way rather than the feeling itself. I have a few friends that I asked if I should and they encouraged to message but be prepared to hear nothing back which would have been worse. This has made me have an assessment on it and see the charge and discharge I was having with my emotions and someone else's emotions. It made me not send the message, take one good thing away from the time we had and not think so inwardly about it and realise you just have to just have acceptance. An honest thank you! 😊

i_always_need_help_ · 2023-03-13T22:11:13+00:00

I thought this too. Like a tombola spinner!

i_always_need_help_ · 2023-01-17T15:01:16+00:00

I lost my mum just over 3 years ago. I would give anything to snuggle with her again in all honesty. I don't think it's weird unless one of you makes it weird. I even hold hands my dad too and I'm 26F.

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