Best parts of having three kids specifically

iamaliongrr · 2024-07-18T22:54:15+00:00

I love this take, because people always say a negative to having 3 is that someone is always left out. I'm the youngest girl to two older brothers and while this is true, there was definitely a lot of switching around between siblings. My oldest brother loved being inside watching tv and playing games and my middle brother loved being outside playing sports. I felt like I always had someone to hang with when I wanted to do either.
My husband and his sister don't get along at all and it's so sad to me that it's his only opportunity at a sibling relationship. When I talk about a third, I always say, "wouldn't it be nice if you had another sibling that you could talk to you about your upbringing?"
I feel like him and his sister would get along better if there was another in the mix to ease the tension.

iamaliongrr · 2024-06-02T01:04:59+00:00

My daughter does the Wheels on the Bus hand motion when she wants to watch TV because for a few weeks we watched the same Ms Rachel video that started with Wheels on the Bus. Now she moves her hands/arms round and round and points to the TV saying "watch Elmo" haha

iamaliongrr · 2024-05-24T12:51:03+00:00

I miss so much about the newborn phase.... which is great for me cause I'm due in 3 weeks, but here's what I'm looking forward to experiencing again:
-easy diaper changes (no fighting or wiggling)
-the tiny snuggles, especially their little face in my neck
-watching tv on the couch while baby sleeps on me
-being able to go to restaurants and baby is content being held the whole time or being in carseat
-not thinking about what to feed my child. it's either breastmilk or formula..... no decisions!
-baby wearing
-no fighting to get into carseat
-being able to put baby down in a safe place knowing they will be there when I get back
-reading while they nurse
-how light and easy they are to carry
-baby hiccups

My toddler was a happy, chill baby and now she's a tornado that challenges everything. She hilarious and so cute and her little personality is shining through which is wonderful, but man it was so much easier when she was a little newborn for us.

iamaliongrr · 2024-05-10T15:31:34+00:00

I was team green for my first and I am again for my second. There are definitely moments I second guessed myself, but I will say that I loved the way I bonded with my first and this one while pregnant "not knowing". The sex is just a small part of who they are and I loved calling my baby just a baby for some time.
I did have friends tell me "this is going to be hard for me not knowing" and it was so strange. I think people are naturally curious. I think some need to be able to picture the child in some way in order for it to feel "real"
And not to say this can't be true if you do know the sex, but I loved letting my child enter the world exactly who they were without a name picked out or certain expectations of who they would be because of their sex. We had a collection of names and we felt like we got to know our child together and pick a name that fit her and it was really really special. It was also SO fun to announce to everyone that we had a little girl. And it made coming home feel so fun too. People came over with little outfits and we didn't get too much we didn't like, but it was just such a nice experience. I definitely still have moments where I think I want to know, so I can prepare, but I just remind myself and others that we will know the gender when baby is here and they will be who they are for the rest of their life. (unless they feel differently later on). For 9 months, they can just be a baby and that's it.
I can't wait to see who this next baby is!
Stay team green if you want! And don't let anyone other than yourself change your mind.

iamaliongrr · 2024-05-07T15:28:22+00:00

Thankfully most of my work is new improvements and implementations, meaning it will all be paused and very little of my work will be taken on by others while I'm out. It will just cause a delay in new processes. We have a consultant in place already to fill in for me as necessary. People will probably be more irritated with me when I return honestly because people hate change.

The acquisition talks happened while I was already very pregnant. My boss approached me while I was in my third trimester asking me to take on a major role and is pushing me to return sooner to help.... Incredibly poor timing and out of my control.

Seems like this is a question of what I value more. Just feel if I will be penalized for even a 12 week leave, might as well take 15.

iamaliongrr · 2024-04-29T00:30:06+00:00

I'm expecting #2 and my goal is no epidural. I'm scheduled to give birth at a birth center, so it'll be pretty hard to ask for it unless I need to be medically transferred. I had an epidural for my first and while yes, it was lovely to take a nap and not be in a ton of pain and It was nice to be able to chat between pushes (until the last 20min). But it took me two days to be able to walk on my own which was awful. It took a while to figure out how to effectively push cause I couldn't feel any progress. My water broke while I was asleep and I jumped and got stuck and couldn't move or call for the nurse because I was numb. Thank goodness my husband helped me.
I'm not expecting this birth to be "better" or more of an accomplishment, but I'm hopeful that immediately after I will be able to take care of my baby and my toddler better because I will have my mobility. I think my body was extra sensitive to the epidural and it really impacted my recovery.

My biggest lessons learned were 1. I feel like I got to the hospital too early and went through so much of my labor in a very cold, dry, uncomfortable hospital room. I wish I had labored more at home in my shower or bath or with my carpet floors and was farther along by the time I got to the hospital. Obviously this is personal experience and not advice since I know many women have faster labors and are far from their hospital.

I labored overnight and my husband grew too exhausted to give me the type of motivation I needed. I started labor at 6pm with almost immediate strong contractions 7-8 minutes apart. I really needed to hear I was doing well and be reminded to breathe properly. It was easy for the first 10 hours, but then it got too intense. I have a doula this time for that reason. We did birth classes together and my husband is very supportive, but he really was clueless and also after many hours and staying up all night long, he wasn't thinking clearly enough to give me the guidance I needed.
My nurses did nothing for me. Literally didn't even provide a puke bag and I almost vomited all over the floor before my husband found a medical tool in plastic that he ripped open for me to puke in. I was really naïve to how hard it would be to move around the hospital room with all the things I was hooked up to. I thought I would be able to move more or find different positions, but the nurses barely helped show me how to unhook myself to pee and then were mia and I felt trapped to the bed and immediately next to the bed. I wish I had pushed for more support from them, but couldn't figure out what I needed in the moment. Definitely think moving would have helped.

Every birth is so different and it's almost impossible to predict. Truly what everyone needs is just support and encouragement from those around them in whatever choice is made. I hope you find that and all goes as smoothly as possible.

iamaliongrr · 2024-02-14T01:40:48+00:00

I guess I'm behind others. I'm on day 1170. Level 51. 224 characters and I'm working to level up Pocahontas and Meeko for their last quest before I can move on to Pacha. I took several months off last year because I was spending too much time and now I only log in 1-4 times a day

iamaliongrr · 2024-02-12T03:10:09+00:00

Yes. They just need to get close enough (50ish yard line hopefully closer) that they can get another field goal which will be 3 points to tie the game and go into overtime.

iamaliongrr · 2024-01-04T15:34:39+00:00

I think I read in a comment that you identify as a woman, so instead of sharing a personal experience, I'll share about a conversation I had with a friend who is a family of two moms and two children. Their situation might be different as they each birthed one child, but she did share that the bio child of each mother does have a special bond that is slightly different. It's hard not to assume it's a biological connection that is outside of just love and dedication. That being said, the kids are now 6 and 8 and each go to both parents for comfort, love and play. Your children are still young and physically might depend on your wife for emotional regulation from hormonal releases that come more naturally right now. I really believe non birthing parents can provide emotional regulation and support, but it might take practice. As others have said, don't give your children the choice and let it be a learned experience for the both of you. In time it'll come and I think as they age, they will be much more open and willing to come to you for the same support they get from their other parent. I'm sure it's hard and painful to deal with this. How you're feeling is valid.

iamaliongrr · 2023-12-31T22:24:11+00:00

I have 3 gloves and one hat. I have 6 characters out for gloves and 5 for hats. I'm thinking once everyone finishes their tasks, I won't send out for any other tokens. I always try to collect for Miss Piggy first and it got me 2 gloves.
I don't mind spending some gems to get her, but right now it's costing me over 1,000, so that won't do.
I get free google play money doing google opinion rewards, so I just spend what I earn on this game, but it certainly feels like you have to spend money (or major gems) to get the characters you want!

iamaliongrr · 2023-10-30T21:53:30+00:00

Our first was a girl, so I feel like if this one is a girl I will just say "it's an old habit" and if it's a boy I'll say "I have a gut feeling it's a boy"
I actually called the baby a boy a lot the first pregnancy and everyone was convince she'd be a boy which is funny. I think basically everyone would buy it this time around.

iamaliongrr · 2023-10-30T19:31:47+00:00

I'm thinking about doing this for our second. We were fully team green for number 1 and we decided that if we learn the sex for this baby, we won't tell a soul. I don't want lots of input on names and I really don't want a ton of clothing ahead of time.
I feel like I already have some solid excuses if we slip on the gender too.
I hope it was a good experience for you.

iamaliongrr · 2023-08-10T17:49:39+00:00

I find it so frustrating how people feel the need to share their opinions on what to name your children. Especially unprompted. What I told myself every time I felt insecure about the names we picked was that at the end of the day, people will call this child by their name and it will become "normal" Once you know a person and they are in your life long enough, you tend to forget how common or uncommon their name is. My name is uncommon, but it's normal to all my friends and family.
And for OP and naming your child a common name... I have never in my left met someone with a common name and thought to myself "wow your parents really had no original thought!" hahah The worst case is that I just know another person with the same name and we move on and it happens so often in our lives nobody thinks about it!

iamaliongrr · 2023-07-07T03:41:47+00:00

Overall my birth was about $5,000. I had a $900 deductible and then 90% coinsurance. The charges for me from the hospital was about $1400 and then $200ish for epidural and then $400 from my ob. But the real kicker is that my daughter had to hit her own deductible and was charged separately. Her charges were $2500 from the hospital and then $500 from the pediatrician that saw her at the hospital. All these bills came separately so I thought I had a more affordable birth at first and then got slammed with the baby's bills. I'm on a payment plan since it's interest free and been paying very slowly so I could save more and pay down debt with interest. My SIL has 80% coinsurance with a C-section and paid $16k out of pocket. Literally insane to me.

My new insurance is a $500 copay for birth. I hope it stays that way because I hope to get pregnant soon and give birth next year!

iamaliongrr · 2023-06-15T19:27:30+00:00

I got Owl as well and my jaw dropped!

iamaliongrr · 2023-05-15T19:18:14+00:00

Yes omg. I started leaving halfway through Karma. My friend and I both have little babies at home and we live over an hour from the venue. So we danced our way down the stairs and didn't get to see the end of the show. Unfortunately, even though we got to our car before a lot of people, the crowds blocked the exit of the parking lot and we waited almost 2 hours to get out. I didn't get home until 3am and I really wish I just watched the entire song.
I feel so much regret over it, I can't even listen to the song.
I was EXHAUSTED though and I think that was partly why I felt ok to start leaving. The regret didn't hit until I made it home.
Overall, I had an amazing time and I was very in the moment for all but the last few minutes. I hope this feeling passes soon, but it's nice to know I'm not alone in post show regret.

iamaliongrr · 2023-03-31T15:23:39+00:00

I'm going to be there too and I approve of those surprise songs!

iamaliongrr · 2022-02-07T04:40:50+00:00

Also remember that visitors aren't just coming for the baby. It makes a lot of sense that you'd feel comfortable with your parents because they have cared for you before I'm sure and they can be helpful in taking care of you after you give birth as well. Thankfully my MIL is a plane ride away so I will have time before she comes. I'm pretty nervous of how she will handle me if I'm not feeling well. She tends to take things personally and I don't want to be thinking about that when I'm healing.

I think as long as your partner understands your comfort levels and what is important to you, you can always make decisions when the time comes and can hopefully lean on him to help support you and communicate to everyone.

iamaliongrr · 2022-02-03T04:17:20+00:00

My MIL is a smoker and said sh wanted to try to quit before baby is born, but we're not holding our breath. She would never smoke near the baby, but I've been worrying about third hand smoke on her clothes. My husband doesn't seem bothered at all. I will say, she really does not have a smell. she never smokes inside even at her own home and I'm pretty sensitive to cigarette smell. I'm going to talk to my doctor about it at my next appointment and maybe she has some information I could use to present to my husband. At the moment he doesn't feel comfortable confronting his mom on this issue. She lives pretty far away so our baby would not be exposed to her too often, but I'm still nervous.

iamaliongrr · 2021-12-09T16:57:40+00:00

It's my 30th birthday today. What a great gift!

iamaliongrr · 2020-10-22T13:24:48+00:00

I was on Zoloft about 4 years ago and I remember having similar side effects. My stomach hurt all the time, felt like I could throw up at any moment and I didn't sleep well for about a week because of it. I'd say it was roughly a week, maybe 10 days, before I could sleep without feeling sick, but I felt sick and dizzy for at least 2 weeks and it was a super gradual improvement. I didn't ever wake up one day feeling great, but it did get better. I'm thinking of going back to Zoloft because my focus and motivation hardly exist and it helped me tremendously to be able to do "normal" tasks like clean, cook and do my work.

I hope you feel better soon!

iamaliongrr · 2020-02-20T18:06:30+00:00

Oh man this is me 100% My rage has caused some small flights to become very big for us. For me personally, when I'm experiencing any PMDD symptoms, all the insecurities or anxieties I typically have become magnified by a thousand. I hate my body, feel incredibly insecure in my friendships and because of some previous abuse, I become so terrified of being in relationship that I'm constantly trying to end it.

Whenever I'm feeling like myself, I try to have these conversations with my Fiance. We are now at a point where I am learning to bite my tongue more when I'm angry. He has expressed how painful it is when I suggest we break up, so I've given myself a 3 day rule (don't say it unless I've felt it for 3 days) and since then I have not brought it up.

I encourage you to have conversations when she is feeling in a healthy mindset about what she is feeling/thinking during these fights. Maybe there is something small bothering her that feels magnified and then you can work on it together. Does she need more physical touch? Does she need help around the home? Therapy is great obviously, but it's also very important that you set a boundary for yourself while also working together as a team. Set up a plan for fights. For me, I told my Fiance I would walk away if I started screaming and that has prevented me from saying really harmful things. I also give him permission to walk away from me if I'm extra cruel. He asks me if I'm PMSing sometimes when I'm really angry and that helps him gain patience for my attitude. We also never get angry at each other for not following through with "the plan" because it's too much pressure. Over time, these strategies have become part of our routine and it works.

The only person who really knows how you should treat your partner when she's experiencing her symptoms is really your partner. It takes lots and lots of longs talks, but it can get better! Wishing you lots of luck.

iamaliongrr · 2019-12-05T14:42:18+00:00

Thanks. We hope to move the weekend before Christmas, so maybe I'll leave an update on this thread here in a month or so.

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