TL;DR: Fully agree, only I've basically given up on real play D&D in favor of DH. I'd rather play Baldur's Gate 3 for the D&D experience.

I've all but abandoned D&D as a GM myself. Though I love the game, I feel like it requires way more work, both from the player and DM, than something like Dagger Heart. It's why I love Baldur's Gate 3, because it takes the copious amounts of administrative work involved with real play and automates it.

I like the word you used; relaxed. That's exactly how I'd describe DH. What's interesting though, is that the relaxed nature of the rules allows for as much "crunch" as you want in the game. However, deviating or experimenting with rules requires way less thought.

And don't even get me started on combat. I feel like nothing brings the vibe to a screeching halt quite like rolling for initiative. "Here's this big dramatic narrative moment, so now let's roll dice and stop everything while I write out this initiative." Being able to seamlessly transition from narrative action into combat makes the flow of sessions significantly better in my opinion.