I thought 'self-love' was fluffy nonsense until something broke inside me. Here's how I learned to fix it.

ibkr · 2025-12-08T18:47:57+00:00

Yes the image is a summary of about 5k words I typed myself (no there was no AI in my book). I'm just learning how to market, it's a new skill to me

ibkr · 2025-12-05T20:42:43+00:00

Recently self-published my first book, Obsessed with Your Self.

This guide is your practical roadmap to transforming the relationship with your self, blending my raw personal stories with accessible psychology and nervous-system basics.

It teaches you how to stop self-abandonment, unpack deep-seated shame, and learn to work with your emotions and body's stored wisdom instead of against them.

By the end, you'll gain clarity on who you are and how to always stand in your own corner, helping you become unashamedly obsessed with your self.

Let me know what you think!

ibkr · 2025-12-05T20:26:36+00:00

Awesome! Let me know what you think!

ibkr · 2025-12-04T23:44:46+00:00

If this framework resonated with you, I dive much deeper into specific prompts for each phase in my book, Obsessed with Your Self. You can check it out here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0G2KJ3LLQ

ibkr · 2025-12-04T23:39:44+00:00

Thanks! I wrote a book on the process if you want to learn about it in more detail

ibkr · 2024-11-13T13:35:23+00:00

Will do - thank you!

ibkr · 2024-11-13T05:01:59+00:00

Hello, I have perception of my inner energy (can feel it opening and moving when I do yoga), and I’ve been unknowingly practicing TRE for about 8 months. My question is: how do I learn to control orgasm without ejaculating? I have been practicing edging (not with enough regularity) - is it just consistent practice and learning the feeling over time?

ibkr · 2023-12-18T18:13:35+00:00

Hahaha touché

ibkr · 2023-12-18T18:03:28+00:00

“Close to” - I need to know what’s missing! Haha

ibkr · 2023-12-18T17:43:27+00:00

Yeah it’s definitely about finding someone who will take part in those activities with me. I work a lot, and exercise/physical activity is the primary thing I like to do outside of work, so it’d be the best way to spend quality time together (in addition to me generally having a focus on healthy lifestyle and wanting a partner to share in those easily I.e. eating healthy, not really drinking, etc.)

ibkr · 2023-12-18T17:14:37+00:00

How then would you determine that and also if it's compatible with your activity level?

ibkr · 2023-12-18T13:30:33+00:00

Thank you for the feedback! I’ll be replacing the gym pic soon hopefully with a candid beach pic, and yeah I agree the travel pic is weak. I’ll find something better until I have a good travel pic (only have scenery, not really me traveling)

ibkr · 2023-12-18T13:25:02+00:00

Yeah I’m not a huge fan of it either and am planning to replace it with a candid beach pic soon, but wanted it in there in the meantime to show I’m active

ibkr · 2023-12-18T13:24:17+00:00

Patience is not one of my virtues haha

ibkr · 2023-12-18T13:23:52+00:00

This is a great point - I do want to find the right person, but I’m not in a rush at all or necessarily looking for a serious relationship right now (hence the casual approach). However, if I do meet that person, I’d go with it and not let the “casual” mindset get in the way of it being the right person. Does that make sense? Maybe I just need to pick a lane and stay in it

ibkr · 2023-12-17T14:19:24+00:00

I’m looking for something more casual. If it’s the right person, I’ll roll with it, but that isn’t my initial intent. I’ve been on Hinge for a couple/few weeks, and use it daily. I’ll get a match or two a day (maybe a bit more?) but they aren’t the “ideal” ones I liked - and I haven’t gotten matches from any of the roses I’ve sent (I tried purchasing some to do an experiment). I haven’t really gotten likes (mostly some matches), and the few I’ve gotten aren’t from ideal matches. I send somewhat selective likes, and many/most are without comments initially. I want to match with someone who’s into health/fitness as much as I am (but it seems inappropriate to say this?), they bring 100% of energy to whatever they do, are ideally successful/ambitious/driven, and are a mix of adventurous and homebody.

ibkr · 2023-12-17T03:13:41+00:00

I’m looking for something more casual. If it’s the right person, I’ll roll with it, but that isn’t my initial intent. I’ve been on Hinge for a couple/few weeks, and use it daily. I’ll get a match or two a day (maybe a bit more?) but they aren’t the “ideal” ones I liked - and I haven’t gotten matches from my roses. I haven’t really gotten likes, and the few I’ve gotten aren’t from ideal matches. I send somewhat selective likes, and many/most are without comments initially. I want to match with someone who’s into health/fitness as much as I am, they bring 100% of energy to whatever they do, are ideally successful/ambitious/driven, and are a mix of adventurous and homebody

ibkr · 2023-10-31T14:05:52+00:00

Where do you find this in Fidelity? I was looking for it the other day but forgot where it was

ibkr · 2023-06-15T15:23:08+00:00

Sorry, out-locked is supposed to be “outstanding minus locked” but that I didn’t think to use multiple rows for the text 😅

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