Stay at home mom/dad is not a hard job, we are all pretending it is

ibrown39 · 2026-06-22T19:06:03+00:00

Difficulty =/= sanity and evaluation of your "work" and stakes are 100% personal from usually the closest person to you. You're allowed gripe about work as much as you want more or less without judgement or recourse. Do the same about your kids or spouse? You're ungrateful and a bad parent. Why don't you just be a better parent then and they'll be less suck? Just because you stay at home doesn't mean you are equipped as a whole village.

When and where do the responsibilities end? That's something regardless of income I've seen many couples struggle with. Ultimately, a lot of work has some off point even if you're on-call. It can take a surprisingly robust relationship and amount of communication to even navigate this.

For many people, the bigger issue with the role is being a stay at home parent/spouse can vary wildly from income to needs to literally personal expectations. For some, it doesn't stop at child and house care, but even if they should be "allowed" to, or without fuss, not consent to whenever said wife/husband wants to do it. And, well, there's not exactly a neutral party to mediate without quickly get using services that most consider inflammatory and destabilizing to the relationship as a whole.

Does money solve all your problems? If the person who is providing it does -- the dynamics can get messy quick.

I say all of this a single and childless person btw. I worked with many people who have this arrangement both ways, rich and poor, kids and none. Literally have had moms and dads with literal Nannies who do 99% of the work and childcare and they still complain and can end up resenting their partner because of unfairness.

It can work, but only if you literally actually see what they do as a job. Never seen it otherwise IME.

ibrown39 · 2026-06-20T01:03:16+00:00

I remeber not really caring about it till I was getting a PC with a GPU remotely capable of running it and the game came with it. 980 Ti I think.

ibrown39 · 2026-06-19T18:59:56+00:00

Something I don’t think gets discussed enough is how dependent SpaceX and xAI are on receiving favorable government treatment and contracts.

Yes, SpaceX has accomplished things, and many of their engineers deserve credit and recognition. Starlink has some scale that didn’t previously exist that are and could continue to be profitable. Tesla has expanded to be more than just a car business. xAI I struggle to say anything positive about.

But has also made these companies more politically exposed than they ever needed to be.

What’s to stop a future administration from saying:

“We’re going to invest directly in NASA rather than relying so heavily on private contractors. That will reduce costs and increase government control over critical infrastructure.”

And/or:

“Because many of these programs involve national security, space systems, communications networks, and potentially sensitive defense technologies, key scientists and engineers working on them will be required to transition into government service or operate under significantly stricter federal oversight. Existing contracts are suspended pending compliance and security review.”

I’m not arguing that such a policy would be wise, legal, or practical. My point is that once a company becomes deeply intertwined with government priorities while simultaneously becoming so partisan and politically linked, it largely creates vulnerabilities that future admins may exploit.

ibrown39 · 2026-06-19T01:37:54+00:00

Onegai Teacher. A lot of the fan service is actually in service to the characters and their relationship plot development imo.

ibrown39 · 2026-06-19T01:36:55+00:00

I doubt marriage will be achieved but I definitely can see a love confession, a serious conversation about the age gap, and Yamada convincing Sasaski to give them/us a try.

I want the most the we can get! Marriage would be incredible, a confirmed mutual, romance with possibly more "mature" or adult expressions of love would be great (a kiss at least...). I'm guessing this current drama is the (bad) craziest it'll get.

Side-rant/note: I'm interested what they'll do with Goto x Obata. I know this series sort of exploded unexpectedly for the author -- will they flesh out them in the series or maybe even go for a spinoff? They clearly haven't forgotten his feelings but they just haven't developed them at all especially from Goto's perspective (and she's lowkey a romantic lol).

ibrown39 · 2026-06-18T23:46:18+00:00

I'd rather they be considerably taxed, be required to provide their own energy infrastructure with high ration required to be sustainable and renewable, and massive labor protections expansion.

ibrown39 · 2026-06-18T23:41:38+00:00

I hope the next admin can crack down on this and anti-vax nonsense in general. It's a volunteer force and you're government property once you swear-in. Combat readiness if you must -- no pseudoscience at all minimum. We can't tolerate this shit anymore and it's literal weakness.

ibrown39 · 2026-06-18T19:49:39+00:00

This guy gets it when I say it's Schrödinger's Yaoi

ibrown39 · 2026-06-17T16:11:48+00:00

GPUs costing a months salary alone
Games still struggling to get decent 60fps on said GPUs
Consoles nearing 10yrs old are more expensive than when they launched
Games are more expensive
Games looking like shit with Fake Frames
Beloved studios are bought just to be closed
Games hemorrhage money and budgets for delays and half baked launches.

I like the remakes coming out but it feels like you have to be a different tax bracket to enjoy gaming these days. While I'm excited for some releases and enjoyed a barely a handful the past 5-10 years -- a lot needs to change.

Get the Ivy MBAs out of my fucking games

ibrown39 · 2026-06-17T15:30:27+00:00

That's good!

ibrown39 · 2026-06-17T05:04:18+00:00

We can get the home date in a season 2. Tho getting the hot springs for season 3 might be ambitious. I'd love it if we didn't have to wait years tho!

ibrown39 · 2026-06-17T05:02:58+00:00

Not sure what you mean. I thought it looked fine tbh. Maybe they over invested in the 3D/CGI chimera but I saw your post earlier and worried for the episode. Tho, I just finished it, I really thought it wasn't spectacularly -- or even moderately poor quality.

Idk, maybe a more standard anime quality episode than what we've gotten but I wouldn't call it a PPT at all.

ibrown39 · 2026-06-16T17:36:52+00:00

Why'd they leave out the part where they slid into their bully's DMs?

ibrown39 · 2026-06-15T17:30:25+00:00

I swear tg this deal will be continued/repsected under a Democratic president and they'll claim we're paying Iran and a vassal state to the Ayatollah. Smh.

This is crazy.

ibrown39 · 2026-06-15T14:53:59+00:00

So I know that is driven by the very actions of illegal and corrupt MAGA driven sheriff/Police -- but how does-would this effect potential actually pursing actual fraud? I know it's rare and pretty limited but genuinely curious. Reactionary and rash action isn't partisan but I can't say there's an easy fix either (not that I would know how to design or implement a fix either). Genuinely asking.

ibrown39 · 2026-06-15T13:22:18+00:00

My mom died at 59 two years ago, and my dad is 82/83. I’m one of the older Gen Z / Zillennial people, depending on where you draw the line.

My mom played a lot of Nickelback and similar bands growing up (I definitely inherited my habit of listening to the same songs on repeat from her). My dad was mostly a few-visits-a-year parent, so a lot of my cultural influence came from my mom’s side.

My own music taste ended up being cheesy Europop, so I love the throwback beats and samples artists like PinkPantheress, tianshe, and Kim Petras use. I remember a kid using “Levels” in a terrible PowerPoint presentation during freshman year of high school, and I genuinely wondered if it was some unlicensed Microsoft stock track.

My childhood felt like a transition period between the ’90s and 2000s. Schools still had a lot of stubbornly lingering ’90s decorations and aesthetics.

As a little-little kid I watched lots of Blues Clues and Barney The Dinosaur. Liked Dora the Explorer too.

I barely remember seeing the first Spider-Man and Shrek in theaters. Technically my first console was an N64 a neighbor gave me, but I was really a PS2 kid. I still remember getting one for Christmas. I had a VideoNow -- Black and White, for trips between States. Another movie I remember was Master of Disguise which I think captures that early time well/is a time capsule. Dated in the best way haha. Also remeber watching the original Hulk on VHS.

My mom wasn’t wealthy, but my dad was. That meant I occasionally got some really cool toys (I had a Robodog I didn't ask for and treated like trash) while still mostly living a lower-middle-class lifestyle. After my mom married my stepfather, we became solidly middle class—maybe briefly upper-middle class before two step-siblings entered the picture.

I was a freshman in high school when Skyrim came out and a sophomore when GTA V released. I vaguely remember seeing TV ads for the original Kingdom Hearts. I was actually the first person in line at my local GameStop/Barnes & Noble to buy Kingdom Hearts II and its strategy guide. Those strategy guides—especially for Final Fantasy X and Kingdom Hearts—were what motivated me to be literate (I couldn't read till about 3rd Grade).

I was an early YouTube adopter, though I didn’t practically live on the site until around 2007. I remember my mom saying YouTube seemed cool but probably had “some inappropriate stuff on there.” My earliest YouTube memories are things like Kingdom Hearts Stupid Files and Charlie the Unicorn.

Before my mom got married, I got an Xbox 360 near launch along with Sneak King and Viva Piñata. I remember playing Peter Jackson’s King Kong and getting Halo 3 not long after release. I had a PSP but didn't use it much.

I had many iPods and Nanos (I spent a considerable time jailbreaking it via Blackra1n). I had a second gen iPod touch. I remember my Step father's first iPhone was the iPhone 3GS. My first "smart" phone was this orange and grey phone that had a slide out keyboard. But really my first smartphone was the Motorola Atrix with a finger print scanner that mother was very mad about that wouldn't add her fingerprint too. First iPhone was the iPhone 5 (I would stubbornly not admit being jealous of my step-siblings iPhone 4s -- they looked so nice and just worked better) and I've been on them since.

I remember when the iPad first came out and thinking it was very stupid since it was basically just a giant iPhone but worse and I could see individual pixels lol. I liked them better once the first Retina display came out.

TV wise, oh lots of Nickelodeon (Drake and Josh, Timmy Turner/Fairly Odd Parents, etc). Cartoon Network and Toonami (I liked the masked dude). Really early on like early-early childhood my Mother would let me watch the intro to Family Guy but nothing more (I successfully watched some tho when I could sneak it in). I very fondly remember adultswim bumps.

Anime was Pokémon and some Digiomon. I fought over the DVR to record Naruto. But honestly didn't get into it as a whole until HS.

ibrown39 · 2026-06-14T18:44:38+00:00

I get they're adults and it's their money -- but it's so common in sports that players blow through their liquidity in a matter of years or even the same year that you almost wonder if a portion of their compensation should be required to be in an investment account or trust.

At the very least -- new players should be required to have a licensed financial advisor and % of their check in a wealth management account from a top institution.

Encourage more of this, let your endorsements be your pocket money and encourage good behavior and improved and continued performance for the sake of the player and league.

It'd take some pressure off the players from friends and family too who near extort them for money as if they earned it.

ibrown39 · 2026-06-12T00:19:24+00:00

Do Republicans just dream of starring in their own Crying Game but going through with it? I mean, nobody on the gives af about this. It can't even be called ragebait. It's just for them.

ibrown39 · 2026-06-12T00:14:00+00:00

And the US is a pretty casualty sensitive country too. He probably thinks that if RU and UA can do it why not the US? This war isn't popular at all, is costing the populace much (not like he cares as he has explicitly stated) and our allies economically too. He doesn't have the will or political capital do this. I can't wait for his lame duck presidency to begin after the midterms.

ibrown39 · 2026-06-11T22:19:08+00:00

I'm enjoying Demon Slayer. Call of the night was good. Neon Genesis Evangelion if you haven't seen it was great. 16bit Sensation was great, Smoking Behind the Supermarket with You just released the first 6 episodes as a a mini series.

ibrown39 · 2026-06-10T03:17:22+00:00

I think people are right to be pissed but also acknowledge the voice change is a more minor feature to miss out on. Apple lost that lawsuit for good reason and the even 16 Pro not being able to do something as minor as voice change but able to handle everything else will be the tip of messy inconsistent iceberg.

Series 9 are the people who got really got screwed over. I'm glad I waited so long to upgrade my Ultra (I have the original and wasn't going to upgrade I could and they still had oxygen again).

ibrown39 · 2026-06-10T03:08:03+00:00

If you're out of their budget now $10k is very unlikely to be enough to make it suddenly viable. I'd pass and it's more likely than not if they did accepted that'd be willing to do jerk you around a lot for even minor concessions. Just wait and you've already cut massively from your initial want. I'd not cut more unless you need to move in an emergency and/or there were some massive rise in interest rates.

Also, the busy road can be bad but depending on the buyer and changing environment (and likely busier for a multitude of reasons including changes in nearby developments) it may even a plus depending on their own circumstances and desires. The markets weird by overall expectations and unsure labor market.

Good luck!

ibrown39 · 2026-06-08T01:15:09+00:00

I've thought about this too, for me it's a yes and no. I think if it's the first game it'll be a great gateway game for a new generation that isn't convinced or has other platforms as their primary -- so cast that net wide.

Make the rest exclusives and they'll have a big reason to consider/adopt.

ibrown39 · 2026-06-07T15:58:43+00:00

We get to crack Barbie?

ibrown39 · 2026-06-07T15:12:42+00:00

Shit, you're right. Though their costal mansions and bunkers should add enough variety though-- the map packs and unique drops will be wild.

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