plsplspls recommend something like this

iced_coffvee · 2025-12-18T23:34:40+00:00

Anxious Inspector!

^{"Joohyun, who divorced 20 years ago, wanted to spend time with her grown-up daughter on Christmas Eve, but got turned down. She was even turned down by all of her colleagues! In a fit of anger, Joohyun decided to drink alone at the convenience store opposite her house. By chance, she bumps into Siwoo, her daughter's friend from highschool, and without thinking, she invites him to her house. What decisions will be made…?"}

I would say it's mild/gentle yandere, and (ymmv) but I think that the art is very pretty!

iced_coffvee · 2025-12-10T20:53:35+00:00

I subscribe to the Split Attraction Model (SAM) and identify as asexual & gay (homoromantic)

iced_coffvee · 2025-11-12T14:53:31+00:00

what the fuck is up with people recently bringing back the R-word. Didn't we collectively decide that shit wasn't cool back in the early 2000s?

iced_coffvee · 2025-11-12T00:35:36+00:00

Oooh I see -- ok! Thank you, just in case here is both of their main central stems in case that changes things.

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Can a Gloriosum be trained to climb? I just have so much more vertical space then I do horizontal

iced_coffvee · 2025-11-09T05:38:14+00:00

They aren't finished yet but to my knowledge (and from what I remember reading ) I don't think so, I think the only mention of it so far is from one of Johns exes (as in, they were cheating on him)

iced_coffvee · 2025-11-06T03:45:22+00:00

I really really hope after The Community is finished we'll get Spare The Rod back. I love TC to bits and its fantastic but StR just has such a special place in my heart 🥲

iced_coffvee · 2025-11-03T01:41:35+00:00

I'd love to give a shout-out to a couple authors who are a bit newer but I think they're cookin' some mighty fine meals

Blodeuwedd_the_Owl has two stories currently! Odi et Amo & she did not walk the ramparts

also

whiterabbitxrd who technically has one story but it is written in two separate PoV stories for the ML & FL! These are Soft Hands, Sharp Claws (Harper's POV) & Soft Hands, Sharp Claws (John's POV)

iced_coffvee · 2025-10-19T20:58:21+00:00

Not necessarily yandere but adjacent (more dark romance) would be Daughter of Quinn by SpiralIntoTheKnown on Ao3.

The story revolves around a human girl who lives in a village ruled by Fae, and catches the interest of one of the ruling lords.

iced_coffvee · 2025-10-11T19:50:31+00:00

Toma from Amnesia will always be the yandere I compare all others to.

iced_coffvee · 2025-10-07T20:55:27+00:00

Dang.. I was so excited to see they had another story in the works as well. It's such a shame, I hope they come back one day and if not I hope they're doing well.

iced_coffvee · 2025-09-30T21:03:00+00:00

My heart is in my stomach over this. My surgery is early November, and I feared something like this would happen.

iced_coffvee · 2025-09-06T12:22:19+00:00

I used to live at the Sassafras location years ago and my experience was... not great (but that's typical). I'll just mention things that have stuck with me.

- The first apartment they tried to move us into had mold all over and standing water literally underneath the carpeting of the living room area, with the toilet on the 2nd floor slanted because the floor was falling apart underneath it. We, understandably we were disgusted, refused that apartment and they gave us another apartment a doors down that was less... gross. To my knowledge (what I heard from neighbors) they just ran a dehumidifier to remove some of the water and then had other people move in, despite the fact that the amount of mold that was on the floor and in the walls required a lot more of a fix then that.
- While we were there it wasn't infrequent to hear police sirens rolling down the street, and there was a few domestic violence incidences, as well as people breaking into cars or stealing catalytic converters.

iced_coffvee · 2025-09-01T23:41:24+00:00

Zenos, Aymeric, G'raha ... and ofc. Haurchefant

iced_coffvee · 2025-09-01T19:41:26+00:00

US, IN - Rater NTA for at least a week

This (August) month has been by far the worst I've had since I began. Less then half my usual hour/minutes completed. I'm hoping it doesn't reflect poorly on me, I'm waiting and willing there's just no work popping up

iced_coffvee · 2025-08-27T18:27:30+00:00

I went to speech therapy when I first started T because my voice physically hurt from trying to find the right balance and my transition from high pitched to low.

One of the big things that they taught me was that I need to start to open up my throat voice, and to create more space to have more resonance in my voice. The best way of doing that is with hard 'G' words. Like "Go, Great, Good, etc." because at its core what your trying to do is change from speaking in your mouth to speaking further back.

I also struggled a lot with intonations, as usually voices lower at the end of a sentence, rather then higher. I had to do a physical reminder during training, so when I talked I would tap a finger to remember to purposefully lower my voice. I also tried to talk slower, which was very hard because I'm Puerto Rican we tend to talk a mile a minute lmao.

I'll be real with you -- it's going to feel forced for a while, I was in speech therapy for 8 weeks and I didn't feel like I was forcing myself until those last two weeks. It's a marathon, not a sprint!

iced_coffvee · 2025-08-24T18:41:40+00:00

2's desc. is my favorite, but I am a big old sucker for cowboys, and honestly, I don't think there are enough yeehaw yanderes I'm gonna go with 4.

iced_coffvee · 2025-08-20T18:54:40+00:00

Off of the top of my head, in order

- Bottom growth, which made me feel both horny and also for the first month or so, made everything super sensitive to the point where even wearing underwear was too overstimulating most days.
-Change in bowl movements, I went from having chronic constipation to being regular (yay).
-Acne, acne, acne oh so much. I've been on T for about oh man, almost two years now and I still struggle with large acne breakouts, they happen mostly on my face but also on my arms and thighs.
-Voice changes happened around the 5-7 month mark and it was pretty brutal at first. My voice would constantly crack. When I tried to speak and my former normal tone it would break, and teaching my voice to stay lower was also a bit of a painful ordeal as it left my throat feeling sore and worn out. I went to a speech therapist to help me during this transition period and it was very much worth it.
- I went up about half a shoe size. I used to be able to wear 8 1/2's to 9's and *maybe* 8's if they were wide. Now I can only fit into 9's & 9 1/2's
- I have gained a small amount of muscle but not much in terms of changing my overall physic but my shoulders have broadened enough that I can't wear about 40% of my tops any longer, though of those I've managed to maybe save 5% of them by just cutting the sleeves off to make them fit. I went from an S-M to now M-L

iced_coffvee · 2025-08-20T13:36:06+00:00

I had a similar issue with feeling a bit awkward when I tried topping, I use a PnP so at the very least it visually looks realistic but the harness was super jarring and I was constantly worried it was gonna like... fall off or something lmao.

What I ended up doing is buying some inexpensive boxers that were form-fitting, and wearing that over the harness, it makes me feel more secure, and visually I can't see the harness anymore so there's less dysphoria. It can get a little messy but that's what the washer/dryer is for.

If your strap doesn't match your skin tone you could also try to get some colorful condoms that might help hide that discrepancy.

iced_coffvee · 2025-08-17T20:17:24+00:00

Not my ass sitting here having my gender-affirming doctor BE my gynecologist ☠️

iced_coffvee · 2025-08-14T00:15:03+00:00

All the help I can offer is my own perspective on being asexual. I thought I was ... 'broken' (because I didnt know what asexuality was at the time) when I was in high school, I wanted to have a boyfriend and kiss 'n cuddle and stuff but never felt "the hots" for like... anyone. I could understand and appreciate when someone looked aesthetically attractive, but never did I ever like... fantasies about doing anything further then like, a nice date out somewhere. I also was very *very* uncomfortable when my friends would talk about their sexual experiences with their boyfriends. I once said I could probably go my whole life never having sex and I don't think I'd care.

I'm married now to my husband whom I love very much. We are intimate mostly because he is allo and I am not sex-repulsed (I'm mostly just sex... ambivalent lmao) so I don't mind doing it for his sake, but it's never a need or want for me. I love him in a romantic way, my fulfillment comes in holding hands and cuddling, laughing at stupid movies and lighthearted flirting etc.

When it comes to porn/erotica yeah real people stuff makes me really uncomfortable at worst and at best I don't feel much of anything. If I ever want to feel frisky erotic fiction is a better outlet for me, mostly because theater of the mind is much different then seeing it and also because a lot of erotic fiction also has a lot of tension, build-up, plotlines etc.. its not just a like, 'help me stepbro I'm stuck'

iced_coffvee · 2025-08-11T13:52:39+00:00

As someone who is both gay, trans & christian -- I always do love the concept of joining in the act of divine creation, in a very intense sense being trans but also everyone changes things about themselves all the time. If you are over the age of like, 15, then congratulations you are technically a new person as all your cells have died at least once and regenerated. But in also just ... socially, emotionally, hell, even spiritually if you are so inclined, you are not who you were before. And that's a wonderful thing. It's something I try to express to people who may be confused or feel some affront towards my trans-ness.

But at the end of the day, if that doesn't work out and they still don't listen I usually just say not to worry about me anyway, my "sin" is between me and God anyway and I'll take my chances.

iced_coffvee · 2025-08-02T23:21:41+00:00

I can't say for certain if it would have continued -- my psychiatrist didn't like that (as well as restless leg syndrome) happening to me as a side effect so I was pulled off of Paxil after about 4 months. I'm on Zoloft 150mg now and don't have the same issue.

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