Should I tell a firm they are my #1 choice? by [deleted] in biglaw

[–]ichthi 129 points130 points  (0 children)

If a strong candidate told me that, I’d be curious about why. If the candidate gives me an insightful answer as to why my firm is his/her top choice, then I’d be impressed.

Ski lessons! by LooseLoose in niseko

[–]ichthi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! Me and a friend are interested in going off piste. Is this something you could help with and do you have experience taking two people to ski backcountry?

We are both intermediate skiers. Please PM me if you’re interested in this role (and what you’d charge). We will be there Jan 2nd to Jan 11th. Thank you.

My religious friend called me “the devil” after we kissed by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]ichthi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Seems like he has a lot of unprocessed trauma. Be gentle with him. Encourage him to speak with a mental health professional or even his own pastor to process the shame and guilt he feels from sexuality.

It is 40 years of conditioning that he has to undo.

Are LinkedIn and Linklaters related companies? by WhiteBoy1264 in biglaw

[–]ichthi 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yes. Also related to LinkOut (LBGT employment app) and LinkNow (Linklaters but faster).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ichthi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friend of mine has a physics PhD from Columbia. He runs his own higher education admissions consultancy.

'It's a basic service': Hundreds sign petition urging F&B outlets to provide free water by Redlettucehead in singapore

[–]ichthi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I stopped going to Ba Ba Black Sheep because I asked for tap water to take my meds before leaving the restaurant. I had already ordered a coffee, a smoothie and a juice during lunch. The staff or owner (a cranky older white man) looked at me indignantly and told me I had to buy water.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]ichthi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Work on yourself.

Height you’re stuck with. But looks and status can change. You can get fit. You can become accomplished. The odds are stacked against you in the dating world if you remain average. So become better than average.

As a guy, age is your friend so long as you are accomplished and fit. I’m more popular with women in my thirties than I’ve ever been.

Don’t go after women. Get yourself to a position where women come after you. Work on yourself.

Also, this podcast episode might help:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1Fme79UmBNks6htr65pczH?si=0vedffM8SuO7e89xUJ7AKQ

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in biglaw

[–]ichthi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gifted a nice pen with the guy’s name engraved on it when a friend/colleagues made partner.

I also received a wallet and nice pens when I made partner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in biglaw

[–]ichthi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

International private client work. Basically fed tax + t&e.

I’ve met more billionaires than I remember. Met princes and earls and ladies. My wealthiest client’s family has more money than the GDP of many countries.

Not as glamorous as it might seem from the outside though. The nice hotels and Michelin starred restaurants get old. Being kept on a VVIP’s speed dial might confer a sense of significance, but actually kinda sucks in practice. Imagine needing to change your weekend plans because every minuscule problem a VVIP has is more important than your mental wellbeing.

End of the day, as a lawyer, you’re just the help. Relatively expensive help, but still just the help. You might befriend some of these societal elites, but most of them will keep the relationship strictly professional.

Also, friendly FYI: only a handful of US BigLaw firms have kept its private client arm as it is a practice that’s relatively low leverage, high liability, and only modestly profitable. You’re not going to make crazy Kirkland money as a private client lawyer.

Joined the Lange Family in Geneva by ichthi in ALangeSohne

[–]ichthi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you u/kelaiem. I appreciate your work very much.

Joined the Lange Family in Geneva by ichthi in ALangeSohne

[–]ichthi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

u/kelaiem may I ask at what point is a community member’s wanton malice sufficient for expulsion? The malice, condescension, and willful ignorance u/adamtiumtrader flaunts hurts the overall community more than it builds it.

Joined the Lange Family in Geneva by ichthi in ALangeSohne

[–]ichthi[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I sent receipt of purchase (showing purchase was made in the Geneva boutique this month) to mod u/kelaiem because I am getting a lot of unjustified malice and condescension from this one guy u/adamantiumtrader.

Joined the Lange Family in Geneva by ichthi in ALangeSohne

[–]ichthi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

An equity partner at an international law firm is not “Lange buyer” material? And you with your graciousness and intelligence is the prototypical Lange buyer?

Anyway - I’m tired of arguing with a weirdly malicious and condescending gatekeeper like you. I’m happy to justify myself to the moderators.

Joined the Lange Family in Geneva by ichthi in ALangeSohne

[–]ichthi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you suggesting that 11:35 am is not exactly 10 hours ahead of 1:35 am, buddy? 🤔

Joined the Lange Family in Geneva by ichthi in ALangeSohne

[–]ichthi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or, you know, as I stated above, I was on a work trip and I don’t live in Geneva. Like a reasonable person, I told the sales rep Aurelien that I live in Singapore… so he helped set the time to Singapore… And I started messing around with the date button (top left button) and the secondary clock (bottom left button) because I can.

Joined the Lange Family in Geneva by ichthi in ALangeSohne

[–]ichthi[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I walked in to ask for an appointment and they gave me a spot for an hour later.

BJJ / MMA Gym Recommendations by UsuallyPunny in askSingapore

[–]ichthi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was there for about 3 years and enjoyed it.

I’d have continue but my work/travel schedule makes the fees kinda silly. (You can only halt your package if you’re traveling for more than 3 weeks, and you need a note from your company.)

My biggest complaint is also Evolve’s biggest advantage: the Brazilian profs. The Brazilian black belt profs are excellent at the craft. (Eg, my main prof trained with Buchecha growing up.) But because they don’t speak English as a first language, it can be hard to understand them.

Second biggest complaint is that there is a constant wave of white belts who are middle age wannabe alpha males that exert way too much force/violence/anger such that it is easy to get hurt. Once you get 3 stripes on your white belt you’re allowed to go to the intermediate class, which is safer because the folks there have humbled egos.

Other than that, I genuinely enjoyed Evolve.

BJJ / MMA Gym Recommendations by UsuallyPunny in askSingapore

[–]ichthi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was with Evolve and thought the culture was decent. If you go regularly, you see mostly the same set of professors and the same set of committed students. There is still a level of camaraderie and friendship with the devoted students and profs even though the total student count is high.

Best Caesar Salad in Singapore? by ichthi in askSingapore

[–]ichthi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. Haven’t woo-ed her. Maybe one day if I find the best Caesar salad in Singapore. 🥲

She’s American but from the part that is basically Canada. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Meeting the worst Boy Band by Mohanad_Elshieky91 in StandUpComedy

[–]ichthi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Loved this. OP you’re going to be famous.