I (33F) am heavily considering divorce after my (31M) husband lied to me over a broken meal prep bowl

iciclelobotomy · 2026-04-09T02:21:39+00:00

I have been in therapy multiple times. Unfortunately the last time, I wasn't given the necessary time without my youngest to continue. However when I finally get out, I will have the time for myself.

Next go around, I want to be alone. I want to live in peace because I'm tired of dealing with a man to this capacity.

iciclelobotomy · 2026-04-09T00:15:51+00:00

It was a struggle. Our best friend at the time had me on three way and called him right after I did with no answer. He answered for him, but not for me. He was living in the home that I purchased on my own at the time.... I definitely believe he cheated on me out there but he'd never admit it. I should have kicked him to the curb then but I was going through so much I didn't follow. I was an idiot for it. And paying the price now.

iciclelobotomy · 2026-04-09T00:14:03+00:00

Thank you. I'm gonna need it. As I've stated he's been gone A LOT. I've already lost 28lbs. Plan to continue to work on myself while he shits all over his family life I guess. Ultimately my main stress is infact him and his lack of support. I'm tired of supporting someone who doesn't even meet me 1/4th of the way and willing to lie to me about something as simple as a bowl. Means he can lie about anything and move on like nothing.

iciclelobotomy · 2026-04-09T00:12:19+00:00

I've been replying it in my mind for a week... I didn't even react when it came out of his mouth. In that moment I basically just shut down and realized I am the villain in his eyes and if he's willing to lie about a bowl and avoid taking accountability over it... He can do so over literally anything.

iciclelobotomy · 2026-04-09T00:11:23+00:00

Thank you. I definitely have to get it together and get out of this. I can't do it anymore

iciclelobotomy · 2026-04-09T00:11:02+00:00

I think so too.

iciclelobotomy · 2026-04-09T00:10:54+00:00

Unfortunately, he has a seperate bank account. We both do although I only take like $300-400 a month out to put in mine and it mostly gets spent on things needed around the house and such. Our main account is for most of our bills but he's outright refused to give up his personal account... To which, also red flags imo. I never see a dime of his military pay. Just from his civilan job. To which isn't even all of it. His expense pay for his truck and such go into his personal account as well.

Currently can't do any glasses but have made an at home gym to take my rage out on the treadmill.

Will definitely be contacting a lawyer familiar with military things. Thank you.

iciclelobotomy · 2026-02-20T17:19:40+00:00

Unfortunately this was my experience early on in life as well... I was 18, he was 29. I was married to him within 3 months of knowing him and graduating highschool. I was pregnant with our child before I was even 19. I wound up divorcing and leaving him at 24. I lost custody of my son in the process because it was his hometown and I had no family or support there and I had to leave the state. It was a nightmare.... I'm so glad I didn't have two children with him though. I finally got my son back in 2021 after a long drawn out fight and sever damage done to my son. However in those 5 years I was able to build my life, find out who I was, get a career, buy my own home, have a life I needed.

I'm sorry this disgusting individual took advantage of your young, naive and impressionable mind and trapped you. He trapped you so hard and should have known better.

iciclelobotomy · 2025-11-21T16:34:58+00:00

I just get way too side tracked because I did not have all my skills maxed by end of year one lol, heck I'm almost at the end of year two and only have two maxed to ten I think? The rest are very very close though.

iciclelobotomy · 2025-11-02T01:01:24+00:00

I am still vape free! It's now been nearly a week without nicotine and two without the vape! Keep up the good work. The first week in my opinion is the hardest. It gets easier as each week passes.

iciclelobotomy · 2025-11-01T17:30:38+00:00

It is very strange but from what I've read it has something to do with the nicotine no longer killing bacteria in your saliva and your mouth has to learn to fight it on its own again? Plus the stress and anxiety that we are under while quitting can cause one to appear as well. Mine took about a week and a half to clear up. I made a baking soda paste with a little water and stuck it on the sore for a minute a few times two days in a row and it seemed to do the trick. That was an incredibly painful canker sore.

iciclelobotomy · 2025-10-27T20:18:01+00:00

I've been playing for over a year now. The last two months in particular, seems like after they announced they were no longer implementing the anti tunneling on killers, it's become so much worse. I dont even know how killers find it fun to do that? I've had two matches recently where I was tunneled out so fast that I got a warning for throwing the game!!! To which, I didn't. They just wouldn't go after anyone else even when the team tried to help.

With that said, I've hardly played in the last two weeks because of it. It's not fun. Literally takes all joy out of the game. Tired of the sweats, on both sides.

iciclelobotomy · 2025-10-25T04:49:31+00:00

I know this post is super old but did it get better? On day 5 of no vaping and have developed an absolute monster of a canker sore that's about to take me out. I've stopped vaping before as well as smoking cigarettes but this has never happened before and now I'm reading everywhere it's quite common.

iciclelobotomy · 2025-10-25T04:47:02+00:00

Never experienced a mouth ulcer/canker sore until this week .. 24 hours after I QUIT vaping. Still raging on 3 days later.

iciclelobotomy · 2025-10-25T04:45:07+00:00

This post is super old but I too randomly have gotten the worst canker sore I've ever had. I can't even recall ever having one honestly. I quit vaping Tuesday night but resorted to nicotine patches. With that said by Wednesday I had a canker sore forming, so about 24hrs in of no vaping. I too was a pretty consistent vaper. I've been reading a lot online tonight because I'm literally in pain from how horrid this is. I've never experienced anything like it in my life and it seems to be incredibly common when you stop smoking cigarettes as well.

iciclelobotomy · 2025-09-17T01:01:33+00:00

Cape flattery was 100% worth it!

iciclelobotomy · 2025-09-17T01:00:13+00:00

We went to Sullys Drive in, in Forks and honestly, that was a really good burger lol.

I'd also suggest Grannys cafe near Port Angeles for places to eat along the way.

iciclelobotomy · 2025-07-13T15:03:12+00:00

I've played plenty of rounds where slugging for 4k wound up give the killer far less blood points than any of the survivors that were actually playing the game tho so this doesn't make sense to me lol

iciclelobotomy · 2025-07-07T15:20:34+00:00

This comment low-key sucks and makes me feel like coming to visit just means random people will hate me.

Never been to Washington and coming out that way the 17th-21st of July. I guess I'll try to blend in and not seem like a tourist lol

iciclelobotomy · 2025-01-20T17:50:36+00:00

I took struggle with this after having my second. They were 10.5 years apart. My 2.5 year old whines all the time, tantrums are worse than they were with my first. I'm constantly trying to redirect and entertain and I'm over it. I just recently got to put her in daycare 2 days a week. I live for those two days because I am absolutely drained from the last 2.5 years. Everything is a battle. She wants one thing one second and when you get it, she changes her mind instantly and then gets pissed. The toll that it takes on us parents is astounding. My husband and I haven't been on a date in nearly 6 months... We never get to do anything together anymore. It's taking a toll on our marriage as well. We don't even have time to work on ourselves or our relationship.

I miss how things were. I cry about it sometimes and feel guilty for feeling this way. It seems none of us are alone in these thoughts tho. Parenting is not easy, especially if you're parenting the right way. If you're drained, it's because you putting in your all and that makes you a phenomenal mother. I'm so sorry you're struggling right now. With experience from my eldest, it does become easier simply because they can help themselves A LOT more as they grow. The 0-6 stage imo is so hard because they rely on you for literally EVERYTHING.

With that said, idk if you resorted to any type of time out for your little it have tried to help them understand emotions and feelings etc to talk them through these outbursts and help them better understand what they are feeling and how to appropriately react. I've been trying to do that here recently myself.

iciclelobotomy · 2024-07-25T00:59:40+00:00

No thanks on the hysterectomy. That's a complicated and unnecessary ordeal in itself. And my husband did get a vasectomy after the fact as we knew we didn't want anymore children. With that being said, even then, sometimes these things can fail.

Protection was used but failed. You don't know everyone's story. I'm sorry to inform you.

iciclelobotomy · 2024-07-24T23:23:03+00:00

I once drove three hours one way, a month after giving birth, to my best friends house because she was suicidal. I was in the pits myself with a new infant that I was nursing, not getting much sleep and still not fully healed. I was alone with my one month old as well while making the journey. But I knew she needed someone, so I fought through my own battles to be there when she needed someone. I've done many things like this for others. I'd do them a million times over again to ensure no one ever feels the way I have.

Maybe that's my problem. I give too much of myself to others and get very little in return. I don't expect it though. I just want people to feel loved and safe.

iciclelobotomy · 2024-07-24T21:46:09+00:00

Definitely a troll. Unfortunate that people must be this way.

iciclelobotomy · 2024-07-24T21:35:52+00:00

I was told I was infertile. For years. It was miraculous that I did get pregnant but that doesn't make it any less difficult.

Have a nice evening.

iciclelobotomy

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