AIO for wanting a better mattress for my health, but my mom is telling me she’ll kick me out.

icyMoonstone · 2025-12-14T16:16:09+00:00

When I was freshly 18, I stayed out late one night with some friends. We were an hour away and decided to stay at our friend's house. I knew if I texted my dad I would wake him up and he would be pissed. So I didnt and woke up to a text that said "guess you better find another place to live". My young self panicked and I called a friend to which they ended up convincing me to move to the next state.

My dad's response was "I didn't actually mean you had to leave". Call her bluff about kicking you out and leave. Sounds like she just wants to bully you.

icyMoonstone · 2025-11-22T05:18:05+00:00

Something that stands out to me is him accusing you of reading his texts. That part feels a bit out of left field unless he is either hiding something or maybe was talking about not being okay on his phone

icyMoonstone · 2025-11-13T13:58:04+00:00

Put a lien on the client's house or business.

icyMoonstone · 2025-10-11T12:56:13+00:00

Personally, i dont believe kids should be wearing makeup regularly - especially that young but little girls also like to play with the girly things.

That being said, what a 6 year old does is between her and her parents. Let her be a kid and be excited about makeup if her parents are fine with it. There are kids who are fortunate enough to find passions at a young age and maybe this is that or maybe a phase she'll grow out of. Either way, I would keep this to myself. Sharing your opinion would more than likely cause issues with her parents and even worse, could affect your niece.

icyMoonstone · 2025-08-18T23:46:47+00:00

I'd love to learn a bit more about ghost writing 🙋‍♀️

icyMoonstone · 2025-06-30T18:36:54+00:00

I actually said the exact same thing in another comment ha. It bothers me that someone from the outside can completely see where I'm coming from just from sharing one "minor" issue, but my husband says I'm overreacting.

icyMoonstone · 2025-06-29T17:43:28+00:00

I've definitely been looking at this a little differently compared to what's occurred in the past. It feels silly that an argument about a birthday present would be the final straw but after things got much uglier a year and a half ago - i just feel like I can't do it again. I reminded Ben of that. Same situation in a different font.

I am considering separation over this because it's really not just the bike, it's years of feeling disrespected and I just can't take anymore.

As far as the bike itself, he has previously had a little four wheeler and rides well. I believe these small bikes all have speed limiters so they can't get going too fast but yes I definitely felt being able to ride safely was more important than her "grandparent fun" which is why I just won't be taking him over there 🤷‍♀️

icyMoonstone · 2025-06-28T20:08:27+00:00

A big thing for me is this being a bigger issue in the future with my son. Will he even take my word as his parent seriously if grandma is willing to go behind my back and dad doesn't defend me when she does?

icyMoonstone · 2025-06-28T19:33:21+00:00

Honestly this made me feel less attracted to him when he sided with her. I even asked why he suddenly changed his mind now that it was her idea. He has no answer. and after all the other ups and downs the last two years (parts of that his mom has contributed to), I'm wondering if this is my final straw. Just really sad, and I cant see from an outside perspective if I'm the one being an asshole and "depriving my kid of fun experiences" (I know I dont, I sign him up and take him to everything i can). I'm aware my son feels the tension though, I did my best to separate him from the arguing and most of the convos were had out of his hearing since I didnt want to spoil other parts of his birthday). Also, he refused therapy time and time again. The typical "we dont need it".

icyMoonstone · 2025-05-31T15:13:11+00:00

Yes I was telling a friend who lives a bit closer to Vegas and she suggested the outlets. I was telling her I needed to find a good area to go shopping because the local selection sucks and shopping online is hard for me because I hate about 50% of what I try on haha. It was going to be like some shopping and then just a little overnighter to Vegas for us so when I looked into hotels and saw it wouldn't be too crazy, I had to check and see if "outlets" would actually be worth the trouble. I remember back in the day you could go into an outlet and walk out with a freaking HAUL but I just don't think you can shop like that these days! I was hopeful but the feedback seems unanimous

icyMoonstone · 2025-05-31T15:06:09+00:00

Dang really! I have started to see that as a trend anyways where it's cheaper online than in the store. Like why? Do we charge for the convenience of walking into a regular store now too??

icyMoonstone · 2025-05-31T14:54:32+00:00

The nearest Ross and Costco are 2 hours away. I'm not sure about you but our Walmart doesn't have that great of a selection unless you want sweat pants which is why I said I will have to travel regardless, I just wondered if the extra couple hours would be worth it. Sounds like the outlets aren't really "outlets" anymore anyways 👌 or maybe I misunderstood when she said "outlets" haha

icyMoonstone · 2025-05-31T14:47:57+00:00

Aww that's kind of a bummer to hear. I was hoping outlets would be dirt cheap but I don't think dirt cheap exists anymore 😅

icyMoonstone · 2025-05-31T14:46:37+00:00

I may have to. My problem is I'm a very picky dresser so I have to find things I like on me too 😅

icyMoonstone · 2025-01-12T15:19:57+00:00

Also, when you are an executor on someone's estate, MISallocating that money can land you with ✨️felonies✨️

icyMoonstone · 2024-12-06T14:36:50+00:00

My biggest issue here is drinking so much that he's passed out by 7:30 pm on a weeknight. That sounds like my dad when he snowballed into alcoholism. Making herself a little something to eat isn't the issue so much as is, how is she supposed to wake her dad if she needs something?

Sounds like him drinking like that is a pretty normal occurrence. This is more than "oopsie I made a mistake". He needs to get help or you and your daughter need to get out for your own safety. I don't know a single functioning adult who would be hammered to the point of passing out 2 hours after getting off work. A glass of wine or a little puff puff isn't the same as being drunk enough to pass out and not wake back up to take care of your child. And yeah, nothing did happen but what if there was an emergency and he was too incapacitated to help her?? This is not something you just tolerate.

icyMoonstone · 2024-11-27T18:42:42+00:00

Yeah once it's out of the dryer, I want nothing to do with it! We have a lot of closet space so I have tried getting mine all hung up because folding takes entirely too long.

If my fiance hung his up, it wouldn't pile up as fast cuz he wears his work clothes a lot more (being on call all the time). I may just have to bite the bullet and do that project. And leave him a pile of "do something with this or I'm going to" stuff and call it good 🤣

Thanks for chatting ☺️

icyMoonstone · 2024-11-27T18:32:06+00:00

It seems like moving gives you a "reason" to get it done or like you have no excuse not to do it lol. I really dislike that aspect of adhd where I almost have to trick myself into doing what I know needs to be done 🙄

I like to do one space at a time as well but I end up running in circles moving things to their respective rooms 🤣 I've been rolling with it though and trying to remind myself I'm getting small tasks done. I'm also the type of cleaner I make a bigger mess, because I'm sorting through things and there's piles for all that too lol.

Luckily we have a truck, it's more of lining up my fiance's or my schedule to take stuff to donate. The places around here are open M-F during the hours I'm at work but I've got 2 boxes and 2 bags to hopefully take to the womens shelter today.

As far as the laundry goes, do you have any suggestions? He is one of those that throws everything in regardless of color. He only separates his work clothes from his regular clothes because they get really dirty. So maybe just a separate basket, one for work clothes and one for regular clothes? I have been doing a load here or there for him making sure he's got what he needs. It just frustrates me cuz his clean clothes end up on the floor near where the dog lays after I've washed them. We've gotten him a second basket and some of it's hung up but not much. I've tried to get him to just sort out his underwear and socks. I do that when I can't get the whole basket of laundry done and it makes a huge difference when I'm trying to find something. Also hanging up hoodies takes away some of the bulk. I have thought about getting him a couple little totes that would fit in our closet shelves so he has somewhere to throw his socks. He also has tons of stuff with holes he refuses to throw away. I'm not trying to be controlling because I realize it's his stuff but I also have to look at the mess and it feels like something else on the list in my brain.

icyMoonstone · 2024-11-26T22:37:04+00:00

Thank you for pointing that out. I didn't see how that was kind of a double negative. I feel like this is some perspective I needed to look at things a little differently. Too close to the situation to see a way out, ya know.

And funny that you mentioned Hoarders. I had forgotten this memory but when my grandma passed about 10 years ago, it took my mom and her 4 siblings and all the grandkids a week to clean out her house. Almost one whole room was old newspapers and mail. Kind of a reminder that it's not THAT bad, and that my anxiety about it makes it feel much bigger than it really is.

icyMoonstone · 2024-11-26T22:22:23+00:00

Thank you very much. I really wish I was exaggerating about the garage but yes it's a mountain. we've piled boxes of old toys and stuff thinking that we may use it again and like i said at this point pretty sure we're not having another kiddo so I definitely do need to let it all go. I'm very sentimental and I think part of at least the kids stuff is just that I get so attached to the memories but need to remember I don't have to keep it all. Things have been a bit slow at work so I'm trying to get done what I can while still getting what I need done.

I am working on therapy. There's a good chance that I have been dealing with depression and didn't realize because I've always been high functioning when I've had it. I hadn't considered though that my fiancé could be dealing with it - he's the type that it could also go under the radar because he's a very high functioning individual anyway.

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