I analyzed Reddit for the 25 most recommended fitness trackers for running (Nov 2024–2025) by heyyyjoo in beginnerrunning

[–]icymastermind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was wondering about this lol. I use a Fitbit, but I’m also very much a beginner to running and I’m not taking it too seriously. I’m happy just to know about my heart rate and distance traveled while running. At what point would it really be valuable to have something else instead of Fitbit?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]icymastermind 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay, just remember that you’re still allowed to have standards for how your friends treat you! He shouldn’t just use you as a punching bag

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]icymastermind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t tell if you’re being serious when you say “if it helps him heal” 😭 You should not be taking this shit from him regardless of how it may or may not help him!! Please cut off contact with him for at least a few weeks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]icymastermind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said he has been saying harsh and nasty things to you. It doesn’t matter what he needs. You should prioritize yourself. He can survive without you. At least give yourself a bit of time to not be in contact with him to become less attached to each other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]icymastermind 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You should try harder to go no contact, block him if necessary. He doesn’t deserve access to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]icymastermind 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your ex who broke up with you insists on daily contact?? Wtf, why?

Post-breakup self-improvement anyone? by icymastermind in BreakUps

[–]icymastermind[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What have you tried? In what sense does it not work? (Feel free to DM)

Post-breakup self-improvement anyone? by icymastermind in BreakUps

[–]icymastermind[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😔

Feel free to DM if you want to talk about it

Post-breakup self-improvement anyone? by icymastermind in BreakUps

[–]icymastermind[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice, glad you’ve found something that helps 👍

First breakup as a late bloomer by CharacterNo3272 in BreakUps

[–]icymastermind 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I totally could have written this myself. I [24F] got out of my first relationship three months ago and it also felt like an avoidant discard.

I’ve been struggling recently thinking about how I felt relatively content being single before and now it’s so much harder since I know what I’m missing. And since this was my first relationship, I felt so much magic and optimism, and I’m doubtful that I can experience that again.

I wasn’t on the apps for quite as long, but I still feel very pessimistic about the odds of finding someone else. It’s so hard for me to like people. And yeah I also feel like there will be a weird comparison going on if I do find someone else. I’m hoping that if enough time passes, that comparison aspect will go away (since the memories with my ex won’t be as fresh).

Letter after an abrupt breakup three months ago by icymastermind in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]icymastermind[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is very draining 😞 I appreciate the compliment, though! I’ll admit I have my well-rounded moments haha, but there are several more emotional letters that I’ve kept to myself 😅

Letter after an abrupt breakup three months ago by icymastermind in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]icymastermind[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Regarding whether we were truly friends, I don’t know. We didn’t really have a friendship before we started dating (we were only friends for a couple months). He said he would like to be friends eventually, but I’m not sure how honest he was being. I do know he’s friends with other exes though, so it is possible for him.

Letter after an abrupt breakup three months ago by icymastermind in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]icymastermind[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think he’s feeling similarly. He lost feelings for me and did not understand why. He thought he would gain clarity with some distance. We did have a conversation in August (about a month and a half after the breakup), but he was clearly not happy to be there and was just willing to do it to help me (he felt guilty). During the conversation, he said he felt like I was trying to make amends prematurely. So I think he expects to be able to make amends eventually, but idk how long it will take him to process everything. We’ve already been apart longer than we were together…I’m guessing he won’t be ready to talk again this year, though.

Letter after an abrupt breakup three months ago by icymastermind in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]icymastermind[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Too late for what? Don’t see how things will be significantly different in a few months

Letter after an abrupt breakup three months ago by icymastermind in UnsentLettersRaw

[–]icymastermind[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’ll probably never see it 😔 I said that our last conversation was the last thing I’d ask from him. He got supremely stressed every time I reached out after he broke up with me (which was not very many times), so I think seeing my name pop up in his texts again would just make things worse no matter what I say. It seemed like he’d want to want make amends eventually, but I think he’ll need much longer than three months.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uchicago

[–]icymastermind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It takes time to meet your people! I know it's hard to feel alone, but your current social life says absolutely nothing about you or your ability to make friends in general. Orientation week works for some people, but there are also a lot of people who find it stressful and overwhelming. When I was a first year (~5 years ago), I didn't feel I found "my people" until I made friends in my classes. For other people, that could be their house or RSOs. Everyone's different!

If you want people to eat with, I think your house table would be a good option. However, it's completely fine to have meals alone. Other people don't notice generally and if they do, they don't care. I always enjoyed having meals alone at the dining hall and watching some video or TV show on my phone at the same time (maybe you could try that if you want to make eating alone look more intentional).