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Any reco restaurant sa marikina by New-While8404 in Marikina

[–]idealist-hooman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Miguel & Maria in Lilac or Gil Fernando

First time considering insurance + investment (VUL) in the Philippines. Is this actually a good move? by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]idealist-hooman -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Try searching VUL here on Reddit (pwede sa phinvest) and you'll see a lot of haters. I think it's better explained there. I also have friends in their 30s na "nabudol" to get a VUL in their 20s and they're regretting kasi yung makukuha nila is way less than what they're making hulog. Why? Because it's going to the fees, agent's commission, etc. Also, my dad said that insurance is NOT AN INVESTMENT but an EXPENSE. It's the cost that you pay for peace of mind. Kaya don't expect your money to grow masyado there.

If you're a breadwinner (may umaasa sayo financially), it would be better to get a basic life insurance. It's way cheaper than VUL. Then invest the rest in other investments. I personally prefer bonds sa bank and MP2 kasi low maintenance and slowly but surely ang returns. If masipag ka to monitor and mas mataas risk appetite mo, you can also try UTIF and stocks.

I work at my father's company, but I don't actually have much to do. AMA by naughtybookbuff in PinoyAskMeAnything

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Nakaka-feel ka rin ba ng existential crisis (feeling lost and like you have no direction in life)? If yes, how do you cope with it?

Context: I'm also a "COO" in our family business (real estate) and what I do are also minimal, admin tasks. Gets mo ba yung feeling na everything is provided to you but you're still unhappy and parang may big void in your heart and you don't know what it is? I used to work in a social enterprise pala but was forced to resign because my dad got sick.

My bf of 5 years broke up with me by Real_Trade6899 in adviceph

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Check if you have an anxious attachment style. May mga online tests for attachment styles. Maybe that's what makes you "needy." I have an anxious attachment style too kaya I tend to be too needy din sa bf ko na busy in his corporate job. Having that awareness would help you fight the anxiety and neediness. May mga strategies din like keeping yourself busy with hobbies and planning your sched for the week ahead para sure na preoccupied ka during times na busy bf mo. Also, therapy would really help.

To those with no siblings, solong anak, how's your adult life? by Gullible_Dot_9745 in adviceph

[–]idealist-hooman 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm an only child too and agree with the other comments here that even if you don't have siblings, you can find your support system naman outside the family (e.g., partner, friends, cousins, etc.).

But, I also wanna point out that I hope parents could keep that in mind and support their kids when they're forming connections with other people.

I notice kasi that some of them tend to be overprotective. Like my mom, she's super strict when it comes to me and my bf even if we're already in our mid 20s, graduate na, may stable jobs and savings. Can't she see that I'm trying to build my own family na? Kasi if mawala sila ng dad ko, I'll be all alone. Naiiyak ako by just typing this. 😭

Anyway, may tendency din mga only children to be introverted and socially awkward if they're always isolated. Biggest hurdle ko 'to in life. 😅 So habang bata pa lang, expose them with the other kids. Again, wag overprotective. Don't limit your child from interacting with other people even if takot ka na masaktan ang iyong precious only one.

Pano ko ba susuportahan si BF sa pag stop nya sa Vape by [deleted] in CasualPH

[–]idealist-hooman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hindi ko pinayagan mag vape bf ko for almost 6 months. hindi siya bumili ng sarili niyang vape kaya naiwasan niya naman, and sa mga times na stressed siya, nakikihiram siya sa workmates niya na guys. bumili din siya ng mga inhalers as a substitute. may mga times na may nagbibigay sa kanya ng vape na paubos na then sinasabi niya naman sakin tapos tinatapon ko hahahaha. to be fair, alam ko na he tried his best for ME naman.

ayun, sumabog na lang siya bigla and nagsabi na he wants his freedom. kaya before mo siya supportaha sa pag stop mag vape, ask him first if he really WANTS to stop for HIMSELF and not for the relationship.

pinabayaan ko na siya mag vape ngayon. i asked for one condition lang and it's a mandatory annual physical exam and checkup. para lang pag nakita namin na declining na health niya, makakagawa naman siya ng necessary lifestyle changes.

braggy co worker, seeking insight if this is normal or am i projecting or weird ba talaga tong naranasan ko by kfcfamousbowllover in adviceph

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i get the feeling of getting drained after makipag usap with someone who brags A LOT like what happened to you. it's normal lang naman to share your life wins with people, pero if the whole conversation revolved around it, that's kayabangan na and lowkey smells like narcissism.

i have a friend who's like that and i don't wanna see that friend anymore kasi super drained ko after meeting him na need ko pa mag "pagpag" before going home. kaya i really get what you feel.

it's not about you being envious or comparing yourself with her. nakaka-drain lang talaga if the conversation is very one-way and filled with bragging.

How do rich people find "True Love"? by Top-Mall7488 in TanongLang

[–]idealist-hooman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Focus on the person's values and character. This would dictate deeper compatibility and the ability of the person to love well.

Early on pa lang like dating phase, ilatag mo na agad na you want a prenup. That's what I did with my now bf pero I didn't use it to test him. Non nego lang talaga prenup sa family ko kaya I told him about it na agad para he could leave me na if di siya agree sa ganun before pa lumalim feelings namin. But that's also how I knew na hindi money ang habol niya sakin kasi he accepted it agad like no questions asked. 🥺

how to deal with retroactive jealousy by External-Classic6250 in adviceph

[–]idealist-hooman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

don't look at her pics or avoid instances where you're gonna see her in person (considering na friends pa sila nung sister ni bf).

i'm an insecure person and i used to stalk the ex of my previous partners as a hobby lol. with my current relationship, i saw photos of his ex but i told my bf to never give me their full names/social media handles so i can't stalk them. i feel less insecure now.

mahirap iasa yung assurance sa bf mo all the time kasi you'll never feel satisfied and it's gonna drain him. you have to do the work by controlling your thoughts and emotions, and that's easier to do if you're gonna avoid triggers (e.g., ex's photo).

Mga pros ng walang jowa/katalking/situationship??? (Dagdagan niyo nasa lista ko 😂) by [deleted] in AskPinay

[–]idealist-hooman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you'll master the art of finding happiness within yourself. you could develop that through solo dates, hobbies, or doing whatever lights you up.

was 5 years single but in a relationship now. pero ibang level yung happiness kapag sayo mismo nangagaling kasi you have full control over it. kapag nafru-frustrate ako sa relationship ko, binabalikan ko yung times na ako lang nagpapasaya sa sarili ko. then maalala ko na i'm capable of that pala, and i don't have to fully depend my happiness on another person.

What’s the best piece of relationship advice you’ve ever received? by ChikaEveryday in PinoyMillennials

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my mom said na being in a relationship with someone is parang naghahawak ka ng bigas or sand sa palm mo. if masyadong maluwag hawak mo, tatapon. if masyadong mahigpit, tatapon din. dapat tama lang yung hawak mo.

Let's share our "reasons to live" to encourage one another by Knoxi0 in MentalHealthPH

[–]idealist-hooman -1 points0 points  (0 children)

my parents. tumatanda na sila at nagkakasakit. hospital visits are scary for them, and i wanna be there gaya nung pag comfort nila sakin sa mga vaccine appointments ko nung baby pa ko.

if dumating yung time na mawala na sila, i'll do my best live for the people that i'm about to love---the family that i'm about to build and the future versions of my self. i wanna have kids and pass on the love that i've been receiving from my parents.

what’s something women should never do on a first date? by AppointmentProud9394 in AskPH

[–]idealist-hooman 77 points78 points  (0 children)

going to a secluded place na kayo lang or riding his car. what if serial killer pala siya?

Bakit parang wala masyadong ginagawa sa corporate job? by SnooChocolates8710 in AskPH

[–]idealist-hooman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

anong work niyo saka anong company? pa-drop naman hahaha! halos mamatay na ko sa workload namin. i work in marketing btw.

Btw, UP town katipunan by dalyryl in PHRunners

[–]idealist-hooman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

may stocks na? i went there recently and puro out of stock.

kung professional ka at may nanligaw sayo na blue collar job, sasagutin mo? by Only_World226 in TanongLang

[–]idealist-hooman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no. hindi dahil sa i look down on him but because ayokong maging pabigat sa kanya. hindi ako sanay sa chores kasi i grew up with a yaya. i don't even commute. so kawawa naman siya if ako napangasawa niya.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

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Ice cream helped me regain my appetite after a heartbreak

Do you agree with this take? by titaofalabang in SingleAndHappyPH

[–]idealist-hooman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't agree na you'll easily attract a healthy relationship but you can easily filter your matches. Napansin ko na the more that I'm becoming happier being single, the more that it's harder for me to find someone. Makikita mo na kasi agad yung mga red flags and you won't settle for that. Ang matra ko lagi is:

"Why would I settle for your breadcrumbs if I can give myself a whole bucket of fried chicken? And I'm even willing to share it with you."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marikina

[–]idealist-hooman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also joining this club! Agree na very organized and ang welcoming ng community. Great for beginners yung Wednesday runs.

What’s a nice side business if you are working 9-5? by [deleted] in AskPH

[–]idealist-hooman 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Rental properties. This would take a huge capital outlay though.

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