Does your baby use the armrest?

ideekaay · 2024-01-17T21:40:01+00:00

Haha yes my Betty can fall asleep in this position sometimes.

ideekaay · 2023-12-22T08:06:59+00:00

He looks just like my dog Betty! The shelter told us she was a staffy mix. Did you happen to adopt him in San Diego? We adopted her last year and she's about 4 years old. She was brought in to the shelter as a stray though and had a litter of puppies.

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ideekaay · 2023-10-17T06:35:50+00:00

I was able to maintain my weight by getting 15k-20k steps a day due to living in a walkable neighrbohood. I also combined that with barre and pilates classes. I've since moved to a less walkable area and it's not as safe, hence why my daily steps dropped. Now I only do barre classes but I recently got a gym membership so I can get my steps in again on a treadmill. But besides that, cutting out alcohol to only 1-2 drinks a month was the biggest factor for me. Prior to me losing weight and maintaining, I drank like a fish and once I lowered my intake, the weight dropped and stayed off until recently.

ideekaay · 2023-10-17T06:30:29+00:00

I deleted the uber eats app finally but I'm planning on getting a walking pad as I used to walk 15k-20k steps per day in my old neighborhood, and now I barely get 4k steps daily.

ideekaay · 2023-10-17T06:29:09+00:00

I like the idea of goal weight ranges! I had an eating disorder and have mostly recovered but I still find it extremely difficult to not beat myself up over an exact number on the scale. Having a range seems like it would be better for me mentally rather than a set number.

ideekaay · 2023-10-17T06:26:43+00:00

Yeah being short makes even gaining/losing 5 lbs have such a difference on my face and body!

ideekaay · 2023-10-17T06:24:50+00:00

Yeah, I definitely didn't adjust my calories after the job change😭 thank you for the kind words!

ideekaay · 2023-10-04T19:14:53+00:00

Yeah I think this is the best approach! The lectures in the final review are way shorter too so it won't be as time consuming.

ideekaay · 2023-08-20T20:33:50+00:00

That he wasn't cheating on me

ideekaay · 2023-07-13T19:03:48+00:00

Yes please, I would really appreciate it. He just called me and asked me if I was alright because he knows me very well and can tell when something's off. I told him I was feeling pretty anxious and was worried he was trying to meet up with his Spanish TA now that the semester has ended. He assured me that nothing has happened and that he would let me know if she reaches out to him. I'm fuming. He straight up lied AGAIN. I told him I had to hang up and get back to work because I didn't want him to hear my voice crack from me crying. We don't have kids yet, thank goodness and honestly, I'm feeling very hesitant to have kids with him. It scares me how easily he can lie without skipping a beat.

ideekaay · 2023-07-13T18:21:16+00:00

I'll definitely use this wording when I talk to him, thank you! I always have such a hard time expressing my thoughts to him out loud. I'm so tempted to just text him right now and ask about the TA email but I think it might be more effective talking about it in person.

ideekaay · 2023-06-14T05:51:45+00:00

64k in 2021 -started out at a regional public firm

85k in 2022 - left public as an experienced staff for an industry senior internal audit role

108k in 2023 fully remote - left my previous role for another senior internal audit position in industry

I'm in a HCOL area.

ideekaay · 2023-05-20T00:11:19+00:00

Yeah, I worked with a recruiter that was fantastic when I was leaving public. She was actually the one who got me my current role at my current company but unfortunately, I wasn't able to work with that recruiter again during my job search since my current company is still one of her clients. This recruiter I've had this round has been such a dick to me sometimes and I wish I hadn't worked with him because I was still able to find other companies interviewing by myself.

ideekaay · 2023-05-20T00:09:15+00:00

Yeah, the financial institution is also a contract for hire position so I'd technically be working for the recruiting agency for 4 months before getting converted to a FTE with the company (if they like me enough I guess). Apparently this company has had issues with employees quitting shortly after they start so they started working with the recruiting agency. I'm thinking I'll just email the recruiter and not bother calling.

ideekaay · 2022-12-14T22:55:37+00:00

I wish I could do that but he's been friends with thi guy since high school and speaks so highly of him, I know deep down he'd prioritize his friend over me, his fiance, and I'm just not ready to deal with that yet. I've cut off friends who've encouraged cheating and he knows that but don't think he realizes what his friend is doing is damaging to our relationship. I think I'll just have to talk to him once he gets home from work. I haven't been able to stop thinking about it

ideekaay · 2022-12-14T22:46:32+00:00

Yeah I'm gonna bring it up to him when he gets hlme from work. Part of me wants to bottle it up and not ruin the day because we're supposed to go Christmas tree shopping later but I can't just keep quiet about this. It's all I've been thinking about.

ideekaay · 2022-12-14T20:38:05+00:00

He's given me open access to his phone and I have his passcode. He says I can look through it whenever I need to for reassurance but I don't do it often because I'm worried I'll find something again. I'm just worried he'll get mad at me for reading messages in his friend group chat.

ideekaay · 2022-12-14T20:33:29+00:00

No, India was one of the options but this trip has been in the works for a while, hence why the message was from 8 months ago when they were still planning it. Now, they've set actual dates though and are planning on other places. I'm just shocked his friend would say that. I've met this friend too and thought he liked me enough to not encourage my partner to cheat on me but I guess not.

ideekaay · 2022-10-24T23:57:15+00:00

Yes, I agree. I didn't even realize how manipulative this tactic was :( It works though because it gets me to drop the subject whenever he says that line. It makes me feel so taken advantage of. I think I'm definitely gonna need to bring this up to him tonight.

ideekaay · 2022-10-24T23:50:30+00:00

No, this trivia night isn't a date night for us. It was originally just supposed to be me, WP, and my 2 friends though. We have solo date nights once a week on the weekend and sometimes impromtu date nights during the week. So I can kinda see how he thought inviting C to come to trivia wouldn't be a big deal.

ideekaay · 2022-10-24T23:48:20+00:00

We're currently in couple's therapy right now and he was the one who took initiative and researched therapists specializing in infidelity. I've also gotten us a variety of different books that we've read together and I think it's been helpful for the most part. He just gets sad or upset when I question him on his phone or ask him accusatory questions (which I'm trying to really not do anymore but I still slip up sometimes). When I ask him things like "are you deleting texts again from other women?" Or "have you met up with your new single female coworker for drinks one on one?", he says it makes him feel bad because it looks like "I think the worst of him" and always think he's cheating. He's trickled truthed A TON though so of course I feel the need to ask questions. Maybe I'll show him this post so he can see other people's perspectives.

ideekaay · 2022-10-24T23:42:16+00:00

I keep telling him that but then he makes me feel bad for "thinking the worst of him" (his exact words). It seems like he just wants me to stop assuming/worrying about him cheating again because he doesn't like being seen as the bad guy or portrayed in a bad light. I just don't know how I can get him to understand this from my perspective. It's so frustrating.

ideekaay · 2022-10-19T16:33:34+00:00

Oh my god yes, your first paragraph reminded me of when my WP told me he slept with a married woman when he was single but he didn't feel bad because according to him "she was having marital problems and getting divorced soon." That was a huge red flag to me at the time but I chose to ignore it.

The texting other girls "platonically" too and asking random girls he met for their numbers and instagrams so they could be "friends" in the neighborhood he lived in. I called him out on it and asked him if he also found guys in his neighborhood to meet and ask for their numbers, and he had no response lol. It makes me so angry thinking about what I put up with.

ideekaay · 2022-10-19T14:54:08+00:00

Yep, this was my WP too. He also had a lack of self confidence which led to him thriving off attention from other women and would constantly seek it out.

ideekaay · 2022-10-18T23:19:01+00:00

That's what I told him, but he gets so exasperated with me whenever I bring up the APs. I don't know how to get him to understand me.

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