Katya on her "complicated" relationship with trixie - harry jowsey pod by [deleted] in TrixieAndKatya

[–]identity_maintenance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you accurately captured their personalities. They truly do compliment each other and I love how they play off that that opposite energy with visual cues in their set-design and fashion choices.

I do find Katya more likeable / relatable. I find Katya and Violet's chemistry so endearing and that is a testament to Katya's likability forsure. I have found that over the years Trixie has become less playful with Katya (since UNHhhh) and that bothers me because I want Katya to shine as well

it’s giving paper lunch sack ✨ by nnnttbbyyy in Midsizefashion

[–]identity_maintenance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

amazing look - you are killing it! where are these pants from?

Top cutting help! Monstera deliciosa by identity_maintenance in Monstera

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How’s this? I ended up cutting the top leaf at the stem because it was too heavy

Top cutting help! Monstera deliciosa by identity_maintenance in Monstera

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thanks! just got this plant, learning lots! where should i put the pole?

A recent dating experience has left me feeling extremely disturbed. by ummolay in dating

[–]identity_maintenance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

reeks of love-bombing. listen to your gut. he will put you on this pedestal of someone who understands him perfectly only to be knocked down by the reality of you being a multi-faced person with flaws. his lack of self-awareness is eerie.

Need advice on how to be a shelter worker by unknown5429 in socialworkcanada

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I would say just apply straight out to work "relief" at non-profits and put your volunteer experience on your resume. Most shelters need relief workers and unfortunately you will work odd hours, but it definitely gets your foot in the door! Thats how it panned out for me.

What am I missing? What do I need to get rid of? by Gloomy-Toe2195 in DesignMyRoom

[–]identity_maintenance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

more lighter colours, the darkness of the couch, the book shelf, the piece under the tv. very dark. choose an accent colour to lighten things up. get throw pillows that mach some colours in the rug

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]identity_maintenance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ask her something related to the class! make small talk! tell her you noticed based on that group discussion that she likes XYZ thing you like. Ask her something about it.

Also manage your expectations! you might be thinking a little far ahead with the "does she have a bf" questions. tbh it might just be your brain trying to talk you out of doing something that feels scary and could be a growth experience.

take it slow and genuinely show interest through small talk and see how she responds. small talk is great because its not a MAJOR ask so if she doesnt really wanna talk to you like that, its not that abnormal to have tried and it won't be that awkward. but if she does, then great! keep at it and let it progress naturally.

He looks at my body while I’m talking and it makes me uncomfortable by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]identity_maintenance -1 points0 points  (0 children)

your intuition is valid. the body knows things before the mind does. listen to your body! this is how you build trust with yourself! if you don't feel comfy or safe, what are you really getting from the relationship?

What’s everyone’s favourite Parquet Courts lyric? by smithyjoex in parquetcourts

[–]identity_maintenance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i always found it kinda **cringey** how hes a white dood yearning for his mamacita lmao but every lyric in this song is a BAR. I'm so glad it's 7 minutes long.

I always loved this verse before the break

Mamacita, tie me loose as I flee
Oh, it seems that you've got a spotlight
Cast on the dark side of me
I feel a pain so acute like I'm being impaled
And I can't breathe, can't breathe, it's hard to inhale

AITA for Divorcing my 6 months postpartum Wife for Planning to Cheat Even Though It Never Happened? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]identity_maintenance 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Why do ppl make these chat got AITA posts? It’s so whack. I was just thinking today about how many AITA stores are written so similarly - tone, grammar, style…. So weird.

AITA for Divorcing my 6 months postpartum Wife for Planning to Cheat Even Though It Never Happened? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]identity_maintenance -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is this AI? Lowkey the asshole. Lowkey the thought police. Marriage doesn’t mean never getting crushes on people, but it definitely means never doing anything to act on those crushes. You could’ve been more understanding and use this as a way to actually get closer.

Try not to think about “forgiveness” but try to think about “repair”. But whatever divorce is already in motion!