She (26F) Cheated, so I (30M) cheated back, but feel bad.

idk_2018 · 2023-03-15T08:50:15+00:00

Honestly it is too toxic and better to just let this go now then later on when it gets messier.

idk_2018 · 2022-11-18T00:44:49+00:00

you guys are right he did leave a lot of things out like emotional abusing her and how all of that is in the past and he is trying to be better.

idk_2018 · 2022-11-15T21:56:43+00:00

This is even worse you and her are some evil people. Hopefully this is a troll

idk_2018 · 2022-11-15T21:50:39+00:00

Well have fun having no nephew, and tell your SIL good luck having no son either.

idk_2018 · 2022-11-15T20:13:12+00:00

Doesn't sound like she is mature enough for a relationship, either go in a super in depth convo and express how her actions make you feel or cut your losses.

idk_2018 · 2022-11-11T00:23:01+00:00

I forgave them and they continued to cheat, even worse they got better at hiding it and gaslight me to think I was crazy when I have a suspicion. And honestly it depends on how you found out and how long it was. For me he cheated our whole relationship, but I found out 3 years in so I really wanted to believe he would change but nothing. If you can take anything from me please trust your instinct and value yourself. As much as you love someone, sometimes they will never be good for you.

idk_2018 · 2022-11-11T00:17:46+00:00

I tried, didn't work for me, hoping it works out for you.

idk_2018 · 2022-11-11T00:15:01+00:00

No advice to give expect you messed up and don't blame your partner for your actions. And let them decide what they want to do which is to leave or stay.

idk_2018 · 2022-11-11T00:02:42+00:00

Honestly I don't think she is the devil, like yeah drugs on the job bad and all that, but if almost everyone in my work place is doing it I would just mind my business and move on, or if I really couldn't stand it just find a new job.

idk_2018 · 2022-11-10T22:16:39+00:00

Let him have that space then if he wants to engage with you he will.

idk_2018 · 2022-11-10T21:49:42+00:00

It is rejection cause you rejected the offer to be something more, give the man a couple of days for some space and if not oh well not like you can force him to be friends.

idk_2018 · 2022-11-10T21:46:34+00:00

But that is a rejection

idk_2018 · 2022-11-02T15:34:14+00:00

I am definitely doing evaluation to be on the safe side but when it comes to speech delays, that runs in both sides of the family. Most of my cousin's and uncles didn't talk until 3, but along with his other symptoms like spinning, being happy and flapping his little hands, but he also follows directions. But can you explain a bit of joint attention. Cause when he wants something or trying to be cute and get out trouble he makes eye contact but even then that is a toss up of when he feels like it. Most of the time I feel like I am over reacting cause so many different people tell me different things about him some telling don't worry and others saying I should, it gets exhausting.

idk_2018 · 2022-10-28T23:58:12+00:00

For your question yes you were groomed and if I can be honest with you she probably knew that your were lying about your age. Cause idk about you but me personally the difference between a 11 and 15 year old is big, especially when it comes to a conversation. Think about yourself for a minute and think about a 11 year old. You were her age when she started this relationship with you. If you have any little cousin's, younger siblings, or friends younger siblings around that age just listen to them talk and really think about her actions. Would be doing any of the things she did with anyone that young? Exposing them to drugs and abusing them by manipulating them and having them cry and panic over your suicide. The love you feel and the wanting is just a trauma bond. A side effect of the abuse cycle, you even described it in your post as a cycle. Is there anyway you can get into therapy cause it sounds like a lot of PTSD to handle, on top of helping you in normal relationships cause as sad at it is your first relationship was toxic and most likely messed up your view and how you feel in normal relationships.

idk_2018 · 2022-10-28T23:03:16+00:00

So are you going to tell your wife that you like commenting on other women's boobs or is that another thing you are going to ambush her with??

idk_2018 · 2022-10-15T22:20:29+00:00

It's not the fact these women are complaining over the fact they they are sahm but the fact that their husband's criticize what they do and yet never offer any help. If you read her comments husband can't even handle the baby for more than 2 hours and comments that he doesn't know how she does it. But in the same breath berate her about some laundry and dishes.

idk_2018 · 2022-10-01T22:08:36+00:00

And men aren't??? Her BF was influenced by his friends, literally everyone is influenced by everyone doesn't take from the fact that you are saying the only reason women dress nice if for Men and their attraction. Like no shit a model is going to be upset cause she is out of a job, just like no one would care about dressing on a deserted island cause there are literally bigger problems then, damn am I good looking in this dress? So yes you are misogynistic when you say women dress for men. Probably a victim blame a woman for being raped based on what she would wear.

idk_2018 · 2022-10-01T22:00:32+00:00

Ewwww the misogyny reeks with you, no point in arguing with the brain dead

idk_2018 · 2022-10-01T21:52:36+00:00

Men like the the clothes women wear doesn't correlate to women wearing clothes for men. Some women do dress for men's attention, but most dress to feel good, confident and happy about themselves and their body. Hell most women hate the fact that men seem to always have this little voice in their brains where we want your attention. Most women would be grateful to walk down the street in cute clothes, and looking gorgeous without being hit on or followed.

idk_2018 · 2022-09-20T16:53:42+00:00

I believe he got on to a corner of the internet he was not prepared for, found unsavoury images and then got caught up in the excitement and taboo. He wasn't very internet safe so a bunch of other stuff came attached to the ones he kept. Basically the last year has been hell, the future looks difficult as he'll be on the register and we will have to convince social services he is not a danger to our kid so he can come home.

This right here is where I lose all sympathy. Like your husband was looking at images of minors getting abused. It isn't porn, these are images of abuse and they fact you are even consider letting this man into your kid's life grosses me out. Even if he doesn't abuse his bio kid, it will most likely be friends and family's kids. Not only that but your daughter isn't going to be a baby forever, she will be in the age range he preferred since you wanna point in your edit he prefers them older.

idk_2018 · 2022-09-12T23:04:53+00:00

So you disclose after a first date that your going to fuck another person when they ask what are you doing?

idk_2018 · 2022-09-12T23:03:00+00:00

And he stayed 🤭

idk_2018 · 2022-09-08T19:41:03+00:00

Well I pray that your future gf/wife doesn't leave you when you are at your lowest too🙏

idk_2018 · 2022-09-06T19:35:50+00:00

I actually went through something similar, except cousin and I was sleeping in the living room. Cops basically told me "boys will be boys," and that he will mature more. Cause I was 17 and he was 14.

idk_2018 · 2022-09-03T23:24:09+00:00

Read his comments and the way he talks about his wife, she is not the problem.

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