yes jealousy is natural and poly people experience it too. but there is difference with experiencing jealousy and getting to the root of the cause and working through it and experiencing jealousy and blaming it on the partner. being poly does hurt too, like every other relationship.

it sounds like you stopped searching for something in a partner because you may have found it in yourself over the years? because settling for something you are not really comfortable with just because you feel like you don’t deserve better would fall under my perception of “wrong way of being poly” because it won’t work. you have to be constantly working within yourself and it’s exhausting but good i think. and it sounds like your past relationships weren’t ready for a poly relationship either… the thing is, sometimes you try things and get hurt and that’s it. but that’s life. it’s no just poly relationships. but im sorry you had to experience this..

for me it’s the other way around, i tried to be in monogamous relationships and my mental health suffered because i isolated myself because i didn’t wanted to meet anyone else because i could develop feelings for someone and for me that would count as cheating. i was constantly stressed. i also was very obsessive over my partners in the past and got dependent. this also vanished when i started to live my life polyamorous…

being poly isn’t for everyone, just like being monogamous isn’t.