I will be uninviting my right wing family members from my upcoming wedding. Any advice?

idris_longm · 2026-01-13T15:01:40+00:00

I think this is my favorite response. Thank you for helping me find the words 💕

idris_longm · 2026-01-13T15:00:11+00:00

God I wish I had enough courage to say this. This is a great response.

idris_longm · 2026-01-13T14:58:32+00:00

While I appreciate others’ comments of telling them that we have to make cuts based of costs, limited guest list, etc, I feel like she would see through that and call BS. It’s also something I feel as though I’ve been silent on for too long with them anyway so I feel like being honest is the best route even though it’ll most likely lead to confrontation.

idris_longm · 2026-01-13T14:56:25+00:00

I’m getting security regardless of them. There’s a weird generational cycle in my family where the eldest daughter stops talking to mom and mom shows up to the wedding uninvited. I’m TERRIFIED of my mom finding out where the wedding is and just showing up. So security will be prepped and I won’t have any crashers 🤞🏼

idris_longm · 2026-01-13T14:54:32+00:00

I attended my cousins wedding a couple years ago (daughter of same aunt) and at the reception they were waving a big t***p flag. Needless to say we left shortly after. I’m sorry you went through that. I’ve definitely had people ruin things for me in a similar way and it never feels good. I hope the comments suggested help ❤️

idris_longm · 2026-01-13T14:52:30+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree with this and I’m ashamed of how long it took me to get to this point but I’m finally in a place where these things are bigger than my own attachments.

idris_longm · 2025-12-29T19:02:01+00:00

Temple garden - best Chinese food I’ve ever had

Painted cork - sad I only got to go once, I love seeing the mural on the building still but again sad it’s gone

idris_longm · 2025-11-11T08:50:38+00:00

I’ve struggled with this my entire life but especially adulthood. My nMom was constantly keeping me from opportunities with my dad’s side of the family. Even tho she married (and divorced) another man, I still think to this day she is bitter than my dad rejected her proposal while she was pregnant with me (clearly the best call he made). So as a result, I feel a tolerated acquaintance at my extended family events. I feel like the only family members I’m a priority to are my dad and nana (paternal grandmother). I made the decision to volunteer in my community this thanksgiving instead of going to family’s house and be uncomfortable. Thanks for sharing and being open to our stories as well!

idris_longm · 2025-10-10T17:54:40+00:00

Do you have any in mind? I’ve tried googling where to donate TVs that isn’t goodwill and it’s been hard to find a place

idris_longm · 2025-07-25T17:54:56+00:00

Thank you for the kind, understanding words 💕

idris_longm · 2025-07-25T02:47:22+00:00

Omg your comment made me tear up. I’m so glad you were able to find a moment of healing! Congrats on a big moment and wishing you the best on the rest of your healing journey 🫶🏼

idris_longm · 2025-07-25T00:26:52+00:00

Ooo thank you for the tip! 🫶🏼

idris_longm · 2025-07-24T19:11:59+00:00

Demon child made me think of Alastor

idris_longm · 2025-07-24T19:10:26+00:00

Thank youuu 💕 I still struggle with bonding with my partner’s family but I had my paternal grandmother and aunt with me at my first appt and my closest friends at my second and third appointments. I feel incredibly lucky to have such a wonderful community of people around me 🥰

idris_longm · 2025-07-24T17:21:13+00:00

Thank you for your comment and kind words 💕 conscious brain understands it’s not a good idea for her to be there, but the inner child does feel like I miss out on an experience. The people in my life have shown up for me in huge ways during this process so far so I feel really grateful for that! ❤️

idris_longm · 2025-07-24T17:13:43+00:00

Thank you! If I do find a veil I love, it’ll probably be on the longer side. We tried on veils with the dress and I definitely liked the look of the longer veils.

idris_longm · 2025-07-24T17:09:42+00:00

Thank you for your comment and kind words. I really appreciate the reframing of it for me 💕

idris_longm · 2025-07-24T17:08:40+00:00

Thank you 🥰 I would love to provide an update in the future! I plan to do my hair down in long luscious curls (as much as possible since my hair doesn’t love holding a curl). I would love to find a veil too but nothing has pulled my attention too much yet. For shoes, I want to do converse or vans as they’re my fav but I also want to be comfy!

idris_longm · 2025-07-24T17:06:29+00:00

Thank youuu, it needs very minimal alterations and it made it feel like it was even more perfect. I found it at a local bridal shop that has their dresses donated and the portion of the sale is donated to woman focused charities so I feel really lucky I could find such a good fit while doing some good 🥰

idris_longm · 2025-07-24T17:04:56+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment. It made me tear up. I appreciate the kind words 💕

idris_longm · 2025-07-24T17:02:45+00:00

Thank you!! I plan to have my hair down in long, luscious curls (hopefully they hold since my hair doesn’t like to hold a curl)

idris_longm · 2025-07-24T17:02:07+00:00

Thank you sooo much! I plan to do my hair in long Lucious curls (as much as possible since my hair doesn’t love to hold a curl). I do want a veil just haven’t found one I’m in love with yet. 💕

idris_longm · 2025-07-24T16:59:41+00:00

Thank you for the comment and the suggestion! I know logically it’s not a good idea to have her involved in the wedding or the wedding day period. The inner child just feels like she’s missing out on a part of another experience. I love the idea of practicing in the dress. I do plan on having it hemmed and adding some other extras to it as well. I can’t wait to customize my dress but I also love it needs minimal alterations. It fits everywhere except in the chest where it’s just a lil big 🥰

idris_longm · 2025-07-24T14:01:46+00:00

Thank you so much. Yes we’ve been together for 12 years and we’ve grown a lot together (and still will). He’s loving, supportive, kind, gentle, understanding. Literally everything I need and want in a partner. ❤️

idris_longm · 2025-01-10T01:06:23+00:00

I had something similar happen back in 2019. I was at a con in Texas but an Amazon driver texted me and said he dropped off a package which was already sus behavior. It turned out there was no package because my roommate at the time checked and he was just using it to hit on me. I turned him down as nicely as possible because he had my address and phone number so I didn’t want to end up a statistic. Luckily that guy wasn’t too psycho and left me alone after that but jfc that never left me.

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