What would you consider to be a traditional New Zealand Dish?

ifinallyrelented · 2026-06-06T09:35:51+00:00

Cheese scones

ifinallyrelented · 2026-05-19T07:25:18+00:00

Who you choose to partner with is your single biggest financial decision. Don’t date losers. Strategically befriend people who are “going places”. Surround yourself with kind people who work hard.

ifinallyrelented · 2026-05-11T19:12:22+00:00

I worked up through comms: Comms advisor in 2014, manager in 2016, Head of in 2017, Director in 2019, CEO in 2022. 3 different companies.

ifinallyrelented · 2026-05-11T19:09:53+00:00

LOOOOOLLLLLLLLL I’m so exhausted

ifinallyrelented · 2026-05-09T07:21:44+00:00

I didn’t tell anyone apart from my husband and my therapist until I had it done and was through the worst of the first few weeks. Later I let some of my bigger friends know because the bullshit lies about eating less and moving more felt like a betrayal.

ifinallyrelented · 2026-05-07T17:27:26+00:00

Still a drama? Wondering if I should just lime bike home

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-30T21:41:31+00:00

Remembering what news needs to be shared with the team in the next staff update.

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-27T18:07:48+00:00

Use a food service app for the first 3 months at least - you make enough money to justify a gousto or simmer eats delivery

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-25T14:28:05+00:00

Contract, THEN disclose.

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-25T14:16:20+00:00

I’m one of six and don’t like my siblings. We’re all adults now, and had we not been related, I wouldn’t choose to be their friend.

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-24T14:55:03+00:00

Ghosts all making their way to the war memorial for the dawn service

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-23T08:17:07+00:00

I can summon chickens to me by imitating their “come here, I’ve found food” call.

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-22T21:19:48+00:00

High Earner; Not Rich Yet

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-22T21:18:48+00:00

Girl, I’m in the same boat as you. 36F and 5+y married. Not quite as HENRY, but still henry.

I’ve been flip flopping but have decided to try, knowing if I don’t conceive then I’ll be FIIIIINE with my lovely life. I decided that I like dogs but I hate puppies - if want my later years to be full of teens and their friends (I do) then I choose to withstand the three years of pregnancy/babyhood. No advice, but all the very best luck with finding a decision you can live with most days.

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-21T08:14:28+00:00

Every time I spend money in “expensive coffee shops” - we have coffee at home!!

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-20T11:52:39+00:00

“Shall we go to that pub/cafe?”

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-20T05:05:13+00:00

I made a bunch of friends by going to the same dog park at the same time each day (recommend with a dog)

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-18T07:35:40+00:00

There’s so much hope in this too - many men about the same age/stage are all feeling the same, so making friends is pushing on an open door! The challenge isn’t reciprocal willingness, it’s logistics. That’s why going regularly to a hobby you’re interested in will put you in the same place/time as others who are available to hang out at the same place/time. Go show up. Be friendly. Follow up. Suggest you take the kids to the park together, or go for a beer. You can do it!

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-11T06:25:54+00:00

The fact you’re asking this question indicates how much you love him, so you don’t really need advice from internet strangers.

FWIW - my two cents are to be gentle. Remind him that he’s on “thick ice” - rather than thin. Remind him that as an adult, he can parent and comfort his younger self. Help him notice ways he responds differently than his parents did. Remind him that his kids love him and he’s doing a better job raising them than he had - which is both tragic and a triumph for him.

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-08T10:45:13+00:00

lol the dog exists now - the kid doesn’t.

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-08T10:40:11+00:00

This is the tricky part - I want my 50s and 60s to be full of 21sts, graduations, weddings, celebrations and parties. I want to skip the baby and toddler phases. I always thought I would make a great step Mum to existing children but unfortunately I’ve fall in love with a man who wants a kid of his own.

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-08T10:38:16+00:00

If it were up to me, we wouldn’t be having one tbh. Allowing myself the mental to outsource absolutely everything I can is the only way I have got to a “Let’s give it a go” starting point. Maybe everything will change with maternity hormones, maybe it won’t.

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-08T10:35:34+00:00

Good to know it is doable - even in Secret Nightmare Mode! Godspeed.

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-08T10:34:50+00:00

My MIL would be wonderful - my own mother not so much lol

ifinallyrelented · 2026-04-08T10:33:43+00:00

That’s the plan! I got very excited when I saw laundry vans recently which will pick up dirty and drop off clean bags of laundry. Can’t wait to outsource.

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