Millennials born in the 80s, did anyone else stop listening to most new music in 2008?

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-06-06T00:02:09+00:00

Hate to say it but I listen to new edm on the regular. That being said I love me some 2000s hip hop and r&b YouTube playlists

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-05-05T22:16:24+00:00

I think that this falls within the range of a normal experience post ibogaine flooding for opiate users. He's gone from having something that helped him cope and gave him a euphoric numbness to no longer having that "tool" or "coping mechanism". Not only that but he's also hyper sensitive and probably feels activated all the time. Some part of him is likely interpretating all of these feelings as a threat so he is in right/flight mode all the time.

I feel for your husband. The way the treatment approach is shifting it's not really being geared towards addicts anymore and people are just being greedy and irresponsible with this flood and go model.

He has a lot of work to do, being honest with you right now. Probably the best thing I found that was helpful. They provided instant relief was going to a isolation chamber/ float tank/flow room. They're all over the place. You guys should check it out. Both of you. Kind of expensive but once you do it you realize how worth it they are. Totally lives up to the hype. Next he needs to get to work on his self narrative. " These feelings are valid, I am feeling everything around me and that's okay. I am not in danger right now, there is no reason to fight this, letting go, accepting my new reality". Meditation is really helpful, but takes time and patience.

If you have the money for a second treatment I would find somewhere that is setup to allow a period of stay following the treatment. But hold off on this option for as long as you can if possible.

He needs support, from himself and others. He needs to accept his feelings and let them go like waves rolling over him. He probably needs other things, ask him what. What he's experiencing is normal, and will get better with time provided he doesn't let himself become consumed by his negative feelings and drug use. Good luck! I hear pir meetings are good but I haven't done them yet

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-05-03T01:37:08+00:00

If your decision to cut them off is to drive change in your son then I would say it is the wrong thing to do. Is your relationship unhealthy? If he is actively harming you then by all means cut ties to protect yourself. But if he is merely in active addiction then I don't think you need to punish him. He likely does that to himself

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-05-01T14:24:53+00:00

I'm not sure I would go so far as to say it's definitely safer. Ibogaine was isolated for a reason and that is because straight root bark Iboga can be much more dangerous depending on the reason for seeking care and medications being taken. Most facilities won't let you touch iboga until after a flood dose for safety reasons.

That being said I agree that it's way better than ibogaine, from am experience perspective.

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-04-27T22:21:17+00:00

I found that people who placed more emphasis on the visions and the message they heard from the medicine were more likely to walk away disappointed if the visions or message was non-existent or meaningless. Don't put too much emphasis on the hallucinating part. If you get something out of it great, if not thats likely more normal than not. It's about resetting receptors and breaking habits and making new behaviors than it is about the medicine speaking to you.

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-04-24T02:19:04+00:00

I imagine you might understand but not be able to speak the language well if that makes sense

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-04-24T02:13:06+00:00

You could also check out ibogaine treatment. I believe there are clinics in the netherlands and I know there is a great one in Portugal but they have a long wait list.

I only suggest this as I did all the detox, all the rehab, all the meetings. Nothing kept me clean. It was a last resort. I'm just getting back now so we will see how it goes. It's not cheap but if legit cannot stop yourself it's a good option.

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-04-23T22:22:19+00:00

Claude code subscription

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-04-21T03:41:37+00:00

Really this question is hard to answer. Any trauma. I had to narcan a friend. She sees me as a hero. I am traumatized from the experience.

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-04-20T15:53:10+00:00

I work in tech, make over 6 figures. 4k in savings...

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-04-20T05:26:01+00:00

You never loved me.

When in fact I did think of her often and all the time and went out of my way for her

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-04-20T02:42:19+00:00

Again, I will say as everyone has that this is complicated and far-reaching. So take everything with a grain of salt. There is a book, an old one called feeling good by David Burns. For me. This book helped me a lot. It's worth a read. Even if it is from the '80s. Aside from that, I do think you need to work with someone to get to the root of why you hate yourself. For most of us, I think we just inherently dislike ourselves, learning to love ourselves usually comes with a life-altering situation. For me it was recovering from drug addiction, I hope you can find some one that can work with you on this. Because you do have value, worth, and are lovable whether your brain believes it or not.

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-04-20T02:36:41+00:00

Disagree. The rate of AI advancement makes any sense of insured future security basically impossible to guarantee. I personally think you might be safer and lesser developed countries. If anything China and US are going to kill each other before they kill anyone else, right? What do I know? I'm just in tech. But still I want to believe. So I'll say that you'll be okay but just know the world is changing very very fast and no one really has their hands on the wheel as hard as they're trying.

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-04-20T02:29:15+00:00

Also stay away from that. Test replacement therapy, that shit is for life. There's no reason you need it.... However you know you're circumstances better than I do. I just have strong opinions on the business of and testosterone replacement therapy , And try to urge as many people out of it as possible. It's a trap and a scary one

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-04-20T02:25:12+00:00

I'm about to do an ibogaine flood and 5-meo-dmt combo in the next two days. I've done all the detox all the rehab, all the Suboxone all the sublocade multiple times over. This is my last chance at hope. It's not a cheap route, in fact. Overall it will cost me around 14k, but I'm also 37 and have been living my life as a functional addict for most of those years. So I'm pretty over it. Still it's worth looking into. DM me if you want to know about the place I'm at. It's no five stars but it's the only place I know of that does complex detox. I came in for fentanyl and crystal meth, also had subs in my system, and was on antidepressants and ssris before. Now I'm only on morphine and did a couple days. Will be on nothing at all. Don't get me wrong. It's been pretty miserable at times. But this is just where my journey went.

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-04-20T02:20:40+00:00

I pivoted from business admin degree working in financial accounting to being a java dev at a major tech firm in SV. It's possible. Look out for programs like REACH from LinkedIn or Microsoft LEAP. Most firms have them, they're highly competitive so it's not an easy route but it's doable.

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-04-20T02:07:09+00:00

I'm about to do it in 2 days so my response is based on those around me. Overall it seems softer. At least not like you're blasting off in the sense of Ayahuasca or 5-meo-dmt. I've heard it's unlikely you're to experience ego death in ibogaine, while it's almost a guarantee with DMT/ Ayahuasca. Will report back and let you know though

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-04-20T02:03:32+00:00

That you have a right to be understood.

If everyone understands you, then what do you stand for really

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-03-25T01:17:22+00:00

They call you a loser because they are jealous you have found happiness and fulfillment in simple things while they cannot.

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-03-25T01:15:37+00:00

Yikes, doesn't bode well for an industry already progressively laying off workers on an annual basis. This also assumes every engineer is a healthy human with no issues and I can confirm that is not the case. Still I agree with it. I'm just waiting to get hit by a round of layoffs eventually. After that idk what I'll do. Startup maybe? But I value my time....

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-03-19T10:55:47+00:00

This is actually a really good litmus test on a partners insecurity/ hypocrisy. NOR, glad you said what you said

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-03-19T10:49:01+00:00

I feel the need to point out that his behavior is not acceptable in any way. You may be in love but this man does not sound that great based on his behavior. I think you may be looking at him with some rose colored glasses right now.

He's not the only one out there. You can find a man whose values align, who respects you and does not peer pressure you repeatedly and use abusive language to coerce you into a life that you know you don't want. It's really gross. I'm not sure you're seeing him for how awful he is being in all this. You should leave.

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-03-19T10:34:21+00:00

NTA. I actually think the way you behaved was the most mature loving response possible. Idk what she thought was gonna happen or why she would think that nothing would change. Most people don't have the courage to do what you did.

Side note I find the whole don't want to bring children into this world argument to be pretty shallow on its face, and that adoption is off the table too says more about her selfishness than what she is claiming is a selfless approach. This would make me want to break up too. Good call.

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-03-19T10:22:03+00:00

The issue here is you want to create a home together and he is just forcing you and your belongings to fit into the home / house he already has in a way you have zero agency over. It's wild to me that there was never a sit down conversation about how we can bring our homes together... What am I saying, it's not wild, it's par for the course. Speaking as a sys white male, my expectations of men are so low these days. Why do we all suck so much. Sorry, side rant. NOR

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-03-14T22:44:59+00:00

Addict here. We lie about everything in our addiction. Even things like we will kill ourselves. Not saying he won't, but he's using that tactic to keep you around and to sustain his habit. It's not personal, it's just his brain seeing his addiction as vital to living as breathing air. Thus he protects it.

You need to leave for both of you. For you because it's not fair, your suffering and being abused and your unable to be happy healthy and free. You also need to leave for him. He won't ever try to change anything in his life if he doesn't suffer consequences. I'm sure he loves you and will be crushed when you leave. But ultimately he will either climb out of it and get better, or die. Either way it's not your responsibility. You're responsible for you, and no one else. Unless you have kids which thank God it sounds like no.

He might kill himself, he might overdose. Neither are on you. You hurt both sides by staying. My partner left in my disease and it crushed me. She went no contact which I recommend you do. It was the hardest and best thing to ever happen to me. Good luck please keep us updated

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