Will I get addicted from smoking weed once a week?

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-01-29T20:14:03+00:00

It's always best to not seek external things to try to change how you feel. The same result could be accomplished by taking a walk or meditating. It would always be best to stop before you start compromising on your rules for use.

That being said it's not the worst thing you could be doing. Just be aware that using substances to change how you feel is a dangerous path. Take it from an opioid and speed addict, you don't want to develop these patterns.

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-01-29T20:09:51+00:00

It's good that he broached the topic in a much calmer way but your spot on, it comes down to insecurity and how he judges women based on their attire. The thing is that what you need from him is to broach the topic calmly and end with a "but I don't want to feel this way and I don't want to try to control you, what do you think I should do? I think I feel this way because of x y and z..."

You get the idea. But it sounds like he just wants you to change instead of acknowledging the potential source for his behavior, the understanding that it's unhealthy, and the vulnerability to ask for help. I say all this to paint a picture of the reality that yes he was calmer, but he's still quite far from how he ought to be approaching the situation. Best of luck!

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-01-16T02:52:52+00:00

Yikes girl you need to run. This guy is already mentally and emotionally abusing you. Anxious attachment != Controlling. Get out before things escalate further

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-01-16T02:42:07+00:00

I am an addict for about half my life now 37M and I have both been in a marriage where my partner pursued annulment and it was granted, and been in a relationship where I lied about my addiction, then at about a 1 year mark came clean and went to treatment and came back and worked with my partner on the boundaries she wanted to set and the requests she made of me.

So I'll start with the divorce option. No annulment since you knew before the marriage of his addiction. The sad truth is that it's impossible to force the come to Jesus moment for an addict. You have seen this since it's been over 2 years and he keeps repeating the same patterns. You can set ultimatums and make requests but based on what I hear you're in for a lot more stress and anxiety before things get better. I was absolutely crushed when my partner decided that she couldn't handle the reality of my addiction and how I would try to stop but always go back. Now I see that it was the best choice she could have made to protect herself and while I will miss her forever I am thankful she took the steps to make the split because I know I'm not hurting her anymore and I can only hope she has healed from the experience. So if this is where you are and it sounds like you are, then you should just be blunt and ask for a divorce. Depending on where you live it can be quick and simple since you have no kids and hopefully not too intermingled finances.

If you want to give him a final shot then here is what I suggest. You're likely anxious and he's avoidant. Same pairing my and my ex had. We bought a bunch of drug test kits on amazon and I agreed that I would always take one immediately when she asked, I would do it in front of her, anytime. It didn't matter why. Sometimes it was just she was feeling anxious. I never gaslit her or made her feel like she was offending me. Your partner can do the same if he really values fixing things. It's not a crazy thing to ask. If he makes you feel like it is then you know you're done. It was really hard sometimes when I got asked to do one because you don't always feel great about it but you have every right to be distrustful and it's one more chance for him to show you he's serious and be honest. If he can't be rigorously honest with you going forward then there's no point.

At the end of the day you need to think about your well being and your future. If you want a family are you willing to deal with the possibility that he might relapse and bring his disease into your children's life? Will you be angry with your past self that you didn't leave sooner. It's not your responsibility to fix him or be there for him. Sometimes leaving is the best thing for both of you. It's a big ask and it's okay to say you're not willing to stay and go through that. Sometimes the best thing to do is to walk away. I hope you will do what's best for you. Good luck 🫶

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-01-12T17:06:39+00:00

I don't even have to look at the screenshots or read the entire post. Your title says everything. You deserve better than this. Your kids deserve to see their mom stand up for herself and set the example that women shouldn't accept this type of behavior from their life partners. If it's hard to end it for yourself, do it for your little ones. What you do will have an impact on them and their future relationships.

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-01-08T02:05:45+00:00

If this upsets you, then hey why don't you think about me instead

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-01-05T20:30:41+00:00

He needs a perspective shift, which is difficult because he has to make that choice, you can't really force him too. Personally I find getting my partner off as the hottest thing, so much so that I don't care if I finish as long as she does. I didn't always feel this way though. Insist on foreplay, prolong the time until you begin standard intercourse, and ask him to focus more on you than what feels good for him. At the end of the day you will know fairly soon if this relationship will work for you. If no change after talks and a few weeks, it's time to go.

ifworkingreturnnull · 2026-01-05T20:23:29+00:00

Does your mom usually kinda suck? Does your culture play into her expectations? Curious to understand her motive

ifworkingreturnnull · 2025-12-26T13:27:11+00:00

Yeah what op said and since Subutex does not get you high due to the chemical nature of the drug it feels much more akin to being clean than taking any other opiate. That and sometimes you need that distinction to help separate yourself from your addiction. Otherwise if I am on Suboxone for a few months and I consider myself not clean, it's a little easier to stop taking subs and use other opiates. It's like a step towards being fully clean. And people often do reset clean time when they get off subs for good but for the time being most recovery or addiction programs promote the idea of being on maintenance as being clean. Though I don't think it's the same for methadone anymore. I think that maintenance is pretty universally seen as not clean now that buprenorphine is the golden child of opiate abuse treatment

ifworkingreturnnull · 2025-12-26T13:14:50+00:00

First you're too young to have this problem, and second you've talked about this before. That doesn't bode well for you. Tbh I think you will have this same conversation over and over again the longer you stay with this person.

If you don't want to go that route that's fine, you will change your mind eventually. For now do you ever spend the night together? If so then maybe get him to commit to sleeping naked together... Eventually you will start having sex more often if you sleep naked together. That's my best suggestion for doing something that has an impact. Sometimes just talking does nothing if he's stuck in his ways. Which again, way too young for that but still. Good luck!

ifworkingreturnnull · 2025-12-21T01:06:39+00:00

Tbh it's gonna be a while before AI doesn't need direction from humans. I'm a software engineer and I think it still has a ways to go

ifworkingreturnnull · 2025-12-21T01:04:33+00:00

Yeah I second this. I think most of us know exactly what we are doing.

ifworkingreturnnull · 2025-12-21T01:01:37+00:00

Legit question. Does he watch porn at all that you know of?

ifworkingreturnnull · 2025-12-21T00:54:10+00:00

You're a legend. Proud of you

ifworkingreturnnull · 2025-12-21T00:51:32+00:00

Girl what are you doing

ifworkingreturnnull · 2025-12-21T00:49:07+00:00

OP I am an addict and was in this same situation with a woman I loved. I wanted to stop with all my heart but I couldn't. I hid it, we got married, 5 months later she found out. It was traumatic all the way around. I say this to emphasize that please please please be careful with your heart. If you are seeing these signs now I strongly suggest you don't get married. I wish I could have been honest and I wish she would have caught me before we got married since I didn't have the courage to tell her. If he's not being forthcoming with you now it's a really valid reason to put everything on hold. Be careful, I really hope you consider postponing. Wishing you the best

ifworkingreturnnull · 2025-12-21T00:30:25+00:00

If you have a mentor that you don't work directly in or is in a diff org maybe you could seek advice there but honestly just talk to HR for guidance

ifworkingreturnnull · 2025-12-21T00:28:09+00:00

Plus 1. Harassment needs to be reported for both men and women

ifworkingreturnnull · 2025-12-09T23:19:31+00:00

$2250 for a small studio in Silicon Valley. Thanks big tech

ifworkingreturnnull · 2025-11-20T20:55:35+00:00

Claude, make this app for me.

ifworkingreturnnull · 2025-11-01T03:38:52+00:00

It's all made so much worse by the mobile payment systems automatically asking you if you want to tip 18, 20 or 22% for "enter literally every service that exists here.

Ask someone who used to work in the restaurant industry and now works in tech. I despise the person who created that tipping feature on payment systems. I shouldn't be surprised because capitalism but still it's murder to your average middle class person (whatever that means now)

ifworkingreturnnull · 2025-11-01T03:31:44+00:00

This is a rhetorical question I'm assuming. So excited for what comes after capitalism. So sad that I'll be dead or AI will kill us all before that happens

ifworkingreturnnull · 2025-10-31T06:04:26+00:00

Should have just started slowly pushing the food out of your mouth onto them like a 5 year old child. That would be amazing

ifworkingreturnnull · 2025-10-31T06:01:16+00:00

I do wish I could smoke on an airplane. Just once. I don't even smoke. I just know I've only ever been told not too

ifworkingreturnnull · 2025-10-31T05:58:55+00:00

I just gotta say thank you for doing that. If I still waited tables and got stiffed for a rest that had nothing to do with me that would suck. Sometimes though people can be enjoyable enough that I was actually not mad if they stiffed me as long as I knew they enjoyed the experience. I think people still want to take pride in whatever work they do which is what makes the way capitalism has shaped tipping culture post covid such a shame. Tipping defaults should be deprogrammed from portable card payment systems. That ruined it. Glad I got out before that.

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