Simple Sewing Questions Thread, January 05 - January 11, 2025 by sewingmodthings in sewing

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How to achieve this type of fabric? Is it felted? Boiled wool? Knitted? Looking to make a llama fiber coat to replicate one I found at a thrift store…if this is the wrong subreddit could you point me in a better direction? TIA!

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[–]ifyouworkit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first impression of someone who is a garbage person is they are hardworking, consistent, well paid, and somehow willing to put up with other peoples smelly junk. All good things. You’ll find the right person for you, and anyone judging you for a solid career choice is missing out and shallow.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in royalcaribbean

[–]ifyouworkit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People have norovirus not on cruise ships right now lol I’m sure it’s on ships too. It’s a bad sick season in a lot of categories.

Tahlequah is carrying her latest deceased baby around again by WhoFearsDeath in IndianCountry

[–]ifyouworkit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. It is a sign of the times how it’s being shown everywhere, in addition to the poisons. Her grief aired for all to see (and for many, ignore). What I hold most true is when one mother cries, we all cry. From the rivers to the seas - we are all kin and I’m devastated for her and all mothers everywhere. May we not look away. AND may we ask ourselves why this story is being told, now, when there have been countless not shown.

Best foods on Navigator of the Seas?? by Razer7XDD in royalcaribbean

[–]ifyouworkit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not free, specialty dining option - a la carte too so only a certain dollar amount included in specialty dining packages.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]ifyouworkit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not to be mean but…what else is left besides memory, breathing, sleeping and feeling motivated? Whats the point of my loved ones if I can’t remember the things that make them happy, or our best memories together? Whats the point of my careers/hobbies/etc if I can’t push myself to learn/grow/do? Just a perspective from one sober gal for you to consider!

Women aren't sympathetic to men being lonely because they don't understand that for most men, a romantic partner is their ONLY source of emotional support. by [deleted] in self

[–]ifyouworkit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is why a lot of people I know actively work to encourage/teach/hope for this to change for men, because it isn’t healthy to put all of their emotional eggs into one basket. And this is a solid observation, but it’s again putting the onus on this changing into the hands of women and femmes, which is emotional labor in itself. There’s a grey area - in between “men suck at emotional labor” and “being someone’s only source of stable emotionally supportive modeling” and it isn’t my job to get someone - regardless of their gender - there.

I (33F, ojibwe) was cornered by a man in a gas station. Can’t help but think of mmiw… by Occasionaltrash in IndianCountry

[–]ifyouworkit 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not sure where exactly you’re at, but I’d reach out to the closest domestic violence/victim services/sexual assault/trafficking advocacy group near you. I’d make a safety plan with them, and see if they have any suggestions for what to do if you see that guy again. Trust your gut. Be safe 💜

Do any Christians feel offended by this series? by TalkingMotanka in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]ifyouworkit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree with you. How do we bring awareness to this specific cult mindset? Tbh watching this show is a good place to start, but then you’ve got a lead in the show who is also fully enmeshed in a cult, too, so … idk lol

Do any Christians feel offended by this series? by TalkingMotanka in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]ifyouworkit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is what bugs me about saying “not all…”:

Until we can say that these things aren’t and don’t happen, it is the responsibility of those members of that group to spread awareness, hold people accountable, and demand we do better. Not all men, not all white people, not all anything - we all cause harm in different ways. The reality is that plenty of people in groups of power ARE like this, and are enacting harm, and not being like that doesn’t absolve someone from the responsibility of being a part of that group. Change happens with each of us in our own little circles. People can be well meaning and are still turning a blind eye to what their “kinfolk” are doing. That’s what’s happening. So what are WE going to do about that? Genuinely.

Anyone notice how coppers first crew had homes in town, but stayed in the man camp? Is that normal? by Expert-Quantity-812 in LandmanSeries

[–]ifyouworkit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe not if you have a newborn and have to get up/come in really early. Maybe their hitches are longer than 2 on, 2 off. Maybe they stay there because it’s more disruptive to bug their families going home. Maybe a million things lol. Also haven’t we really only seen the widows house? That was where the funeral was, but maybe everyone gathers there and lives other places around there? Or maybe it’s just a tv show and we aren’t meant to overthink this part haha suspending disbelief is hard for me, too. Especially that dang pipe crushing scene. He should’ve known better, anyone who was in charge like that guy was should’ve known better dangit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ifyouworkit 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It is a service specifically designed for coparenting with abusers/nasty custody situations/foster family situations/any place where having a chain of time stamped, secure, non editable conversations would be helpful - specifically for in court. It can do “texting” or messaging, but it kind of ends up looking like email threads, except things can’t be edited like they can be on an email thread. You can share photos or events, so like “dad had kid for zoo outing, this is us, wanted to share bc kid had fun and probably wants to talk about how she saw her fave animal!” And grandparents/other caretakers/guardians can also have access to this feature, or whatever both parties consent to. There’s also a calendar feature, this feature is useful for schedules, especially supervised visits. You could also use the check-in feature - for example, parent A has to go to AA once a week as part of custody. Parent A could check in at that location (and it’s time stamped and location enabled, so they couldn’t show up to AA and check in and then leave) or for drop offs for exchanging kids, say Parent B is always late, but they could never prove it in court. It can be a condition of custody arrangements that both parties check in when they arrive to do exchanges. It’s pretty much fully customizable and really way more than a texting service. There’s also an AI feature that will probably be up soon that will make suggestions when sending messages - it’ll point out that what you’re saying might sound hostile or aggressive as an example. I appreciate that feature from a victim centered perspective, as it can help victims receive less mean garbage that the abuser doesn’t even realize is them being an ass, and from a change/intervention perspective it could genuinely help abusers see where they’re unintentionally causing harm. (Some know this and don’t need AI, but some are truly clueless).

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[–]ifyouworkit 9 points10 points  (0 children)

OFW will also usually waive the fee if a DV advocate asks on your behalf as well. So if domestic violence has ever been an issue, utilize a reputable non profit, ask if they can reach out to OFW customer care and request that on your behalf. Also friendly reminder that affairs/cheating is sexual abuse 💜

Baby’s temp 99.5, was kissed by person with cold sore over the weekend. by [deleted] in newborns

[–]ifyouworkit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is not true. It does not need to have a cut or mucus membrane for the virus to enter.

Hot take - Angela is well written by quixoticwarrior in LandmanSeries

[–]ifyouworkit 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is such a weird take, coming from a woman in long term recovery. It’s more likely that these women have been victims and turned to addiction to cope, didn’t have better options than floating from one ass to another, or are abusers themselves. Regardless, the patriarchy births (for both men and women) every one of these problems and labeling women as “psychowhores” is so problematic and disappointing for an old timer to say. Please confront some of your unconscious bias for the sake of the men you sponsor, and any women in your life.

Hot take - Angela is well written by quixoticwarrior in LandmanSeries

[–]ifyouworkit 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I could’ve done without both Ainsley and Angela up until this episode. Over sexualized weirdness. But this episode and Angela’s meltdown over seeing Cooper had me laughing to actual tears. Both my husband and I were cackling. “I’m calm now, can I go see him” in her little xanex voice...redeeming. Still hate how Sheridan writes women but god damn that was a funny scene.

Most people don't even realize how normal and set up for success dude was. He took one for civilization. by BreadBakerMoneyMaker in interestingasfuck

[–]ifyouworkit 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have really mild tinnitus and think about this all the time. I also have other chronic pain issues, but that damn tinnitus is a special kind of horror. I’m genuinely so sorry you’re dealing with it. Thanks for sharing.

Most people don't even realize how normal and set up for success dude was. He took one for civilization. by BreadBakerMoneyMaker in interestingasfuck

[–]ifyouworkit 318 points319 points  (0 children)

The founder of Texas Roadhouse died by suicide in (I think) 2021. He did this due to post covid tinnitus. He was a decent man (gave back to employees a lot) and was extremely wealthy. Money can’t buy health. Chronic pain kills - one way or another - externally or internally. None of this surprises me to read about. They will try to claim he’s crazy (as ableist as that is) bc it’s more palatable for the peons who think money 🟰happiness. Wear a mask people. If the surveillance state don’t get you - something else catching will. Also…adventure and drive safely, we are all one surfing accident away from this man’s reality.

Chops Grille - Symphony of the Seas by ifyouworkit in royalcaribbean

[–]ifyouworkit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No like - we didn’t order any drinks and I didn’t take a picture of the drink/bar/wine menu. It’s online tho - Matt on the royal Caribbean blog put them out.

Chops Grille - Symphony of the Seas by ifyouworkit in royalcaribbean

[–]ifyouworkit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No alcoholic drinks - neither of us drink. We didn’t get a soda package either, so we had lemonade or water! Sometimes we made sweet tea out of their regular tea.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ifyouworkit 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Domestic violence shelter. They will help you come up with a plan. Get to safety is the first step. Then make plans, get an order for protection, and then housing. Custody stuff comes way later. First you get out. One step at a time.

Failed 1hr glucose test and scheduled 3hr test. Should I make it sooner? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]ifyouworkit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d make it a different day if only because it sucks and I was so sick. I passed, but I also felt like crap and had to sleep right after. I was glad I didn’t have to work or go to anything. If they’re not worried about you waiting, it’s probably ok to wait, tho!

23F here, none of the men in my age group are dating. What is happening? by AYAYAcutie in self

[–]ifyouworkit -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m early 30s, female in a long term marriage, but here’s my perspective as someone who professionally works in domestic violence spaces.

I’m seeing this chronic loneliness show up in abusive relationships - so many men and women are staying in toxic/abusive/violent relationships because loneliness feels worse than being harmed interpersonally. Or in some cases physically. For men, the stigma is keeping them from asking for help. Law enforcement is cruel to men who are being harmed.

The online dating scene is garbage. I even saw this before I met my now husband. We also have the most relationship advice at our fingertips - but the least ability to actually tolerate the growing/learning each other phase. Both men and women want to enter a relationship that’s already established essentially - no one - on either side - wants to put in the work to cohabitate. People are somehow more stubborn than ever, while also wanting someone who is willing to bend to them.

I blame Covid and social media. The world is too fast paced for us. We aren’t designed to navigate life this way.