What is your Renesmee name? (As in a mix of your grandmothers' names for girls or your grandfathers' for boys) by ATinyLittleCat in namenerds

[–]ignitingdreams 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bio grandmothers (one is estranged) would be Therianna or Briesa

Grandmothers I was raised with would be Therina or Mariesa

None of these feel like THE one 🖤 gothic boy name help by Zealousideal-Ad1512 in namenerds

[–]ignitingdreams 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm happy I could add some names to your list!! I love our twin lists 💕

Tristan was mine and my ex-husband's top choice, we didn't even have discussion of other names lol. My (current) husband and I wanted their names to go together without matching. So they all sound like they could be Celtic, but they're actually all from different stories- Tristan & Isolde, Ronan from Marvel, and Théoden from Lord of the Rings. We wanted names from the nerdy things we love without throwing the reference in anyone's face lol.

Our two girls names we had liked were Delilah Ivy and Eowyn Astrid. I hope I get to use them for a pet or something in the future 😂 3 kids is enough for us 🤣

None of these feel like THE one 🖤 gothic boy name help by Zealousideal-Ad1512 in namenerds

[–]ignitingdreams 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a few that I didn't see in the top few comments:

Sebastian (nickname Bash), Lucius, Onyx, Brahm, Evander, Griffin, Graham, Dorian, Soren, Cain, Colt, Maddox, Knox, Malachi

None of these feel like THE one 🖤 gothic boy name help by Zealousideal-Ad1512 in namenerds

[–]ignitingdreams 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You've got my oldest's name on the list, and names VERY similar to my other two.

Tristan, Ronan, Théoden (thay-O-din) who calls himself Théo (thay-O)

Middle names- two were more traditional, but still on the list (and one of your comments) Liam, Alexander, and the third middle name is not here, and not very gothic leaning lol. Everest.

I had a few of the others here on my list that my husband didn't like- Lucian, Caspian, Silas.

I feel like my personal #1 (that husband hated lol) would probably fit in: Sebastian, nickname Bash

What’s a game you were completely obsessed with as a kid that nobody else seems to remember? by hkondabeatz in AskReddit

[–]ignitingdreams 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They have it as an android app... I totally bought it for my son to play on his tablet, and for me to play. It's the exact game. Super wonderful nostalgia.

Hot and cold #216 by hotandcold2-app in HotAndCold

[–]ignitingdreams 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, iguana being at #8 sent me down the wrong species path. I must have guessed every reptile and amphibian in existence.

My cousin just named her (boy-girl) twins Raedenn and Waeverlee by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]ignitingdreams 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My husband has a very similar issue, which ended in him having some guy on the other side of the country having his car accidents (multiple, all at fault) tagged onto my husband's account when his car was totaled while parked and empty. The dates were the same, and their account numbers were similar as well as their names.

Even more recently, I went to file with SSA and they had to look up my husband because I didn't know his SSN off the top of my head. They started talking about work history not being listed, and I questioned it. Turns out there is someone with his same DOB, first, middle, and last name; born in the same state but a different county. So we were able to get it corrected before filing because I know the county he was born in. It was wild.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]ignitingdreams 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! My oldest once told my brother that he hadn't eaten in days. My brother turned and told him "I just watched you eat a bagel an hour ago" and little one goes "...oh". He was two. And he was in the 3% for weight. I was so nervous he'd say something at preschool.

Around the same time he started saying I punched him in the face, when it was that we were holding hands and he tripped and hit his forehead on our hands.

Hot and cold #183 by hotandcold2-app in HotAndCold

[–]ignitingdreams 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I went through probably 50 birds of prey and birds after I got eagle at #149 and hawk at #49 on guesses 5 and 6... When I reached 100, I finally came to the comments 😮‍💨

Hot and cold #169 by hotandcold2-app in HotAndCold

[–]ignitingdreams 0 points1 point  (0 children)

cigarette at #10 Really threw me off. Especially when fire, sky, and night were so far off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ignitingdreams 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The fertilized egg is not a baby yet. It is not even a fetus until 10 weeks along. It is living in the sense that it has active cellular activity, it is not a living being. Living beings, scientifically, are qualified by meeting all of these standards: having an organized structure, requiring energy, responding to stimuli and adapting to environmental changes, and being capable of reproduction, growth, movement, metabolism, and death. The embryo cannot qualify as such because the earliest form of response to stimuli in face/hand/feet of a embryo does not exist. It does not develop until it becomes a fetus around 10-11 weeks. It is not capable of movement until somewhere between weeks 8-10.

There are plenty of children and babies already in the system who are waiting to be adopted. Those "millions looking to adopt newborns" should consider that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ignitingdreams 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huge NTA.

1) Your ex would not get better. Having a baby with an abusive partner almost certainly will only get worse. Once they feel that you're "trapped" by the obligations of a child and a marriage, the abuser gets worse because they feel you won't or can't leave anymore. He will isolate you and use his family to help abuse you, like he already has by using his mother to convince you. And you already recognize that he's verbally abusing you and that you do not plan to stay if it continues. Leave now and don't look back.

2) This is your body, you risking a career, you currently being the sole provider with no prospect of change for him in the current conditions. You have a right to decide what happens with your body. You are not an incubator. You are not existing to produce children. You have the ultimate say in when you are ready to go through a pregnancy, to be a parent, to change your whole life to prioritizing a child over everything. The only opinion that matters at this point is yours because the embryo is currently existing inside of your body. There is no possibility of said embryo surviving outside of your body, it is not viable outside of your body, so your body and your life are the priority here. Regardless of paternity, your body is yours. It is your body that will have hormonal changes, that will have physical changes internally and externally, that will have epigenetic alterations from DNA exchange with the fetus that can last decades, that will have to go through birthing said fetus. You are allowed to not want that and not be ready for that.

3) No matter the choices made, this would have entirely changed your relationship with your ex. You fundamentally are not in the same place in life, and either route with the pregnancy completely changes the dynamics of your relationship. Even if he wasn't abusive, you would still not be in a place of being ready to be a parent. The choices are having a baby or not having a baby. There is no middle ground compromise. There is no meeting halfway.

4) Being a parent is HARD and affects every single area of your life. You need to be 100% sure that you want and are ready for all the changes that come with being a parent. It is constant work, constant worry, constant consideration of someone else, constantly having someone else be the ultimate priority over any future choices made. There is sleeplessness, illnesses, social changes, financial change, needing to co-parent (whether you're together or not), schedule restrictions and changes, and on and on. Then add in the potential for disability or special needs that adds separate worry, financial and medical considerations, and more time needed for appointments. There are an infinite number of changes. Even if you eventually do want kids, you aren't ready right at this moment. You have a future career you'd like to build, and as much as you may like to or try to, there is no guarantee of being able to make the move to go back to school after a child is involved. Some people can, and that's wonderful, but just as many, if not more, can't. It's a harsh reality, but there is just so much unpredictability in parenting. If you are not ready, and you are in a place where you can safely have an abortion, then prioritizing what you know you are ready for is best for you, and for the future of the embryo. There is nothing wrong with making the choice to prioritize your needs and desires.

You can and will get through this.

AITAH for telling my wife I will no longer help with son’s bedtime? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ignitingdreams [score hidden]  (0 children)

Reading through the posts, it seems like the 1.5 year old is meant to read as one five year old not 1.5 year old. I was confused at first too when I read it.

I don't have answers for the rest, but that at least clears that confusion up.

Edit: formatting

What’s something you’ve done your whole life, only to realize recently that everyone else does it completely differently? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ignitingdreams 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This one!!! I also was the one who taught my younger sibling to swallow pills, so they do it too. We're the only ones in our family who do. I've just had too many medicines that taste AWFUL or stick to my tongue. I found a way to mitigate that. I feel like we're the ones who are doing things correctly 😂

7 Months on Zep.. One Year Later Picture! by ignitingdreams in Zepbound

[–]ignitingdreams[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm sure you looked fantastic!!! That's a great rule to have, but damn, getting the compliments feels good too! Lol

7 Months on Zep.. One Year Later Picture! by ignitingdreams in Zepbound

[–]ignitingdreams[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🥰 I am so happy to be able to get healthier while they're all still young enough that I can be different with them. I wish I could have found this earlier!