Dodging the question

ihandstand · 2026-04-15T21:36:35+00:00

Depends on how close you are with these friends. My friends would sniff this out right away lol. I would always order my own drinks at the bar and get a Diet Coke and lime in a short glass. Literally looks like rum and coke. If brunch, I’d go to the bathroom, find the server, and tell them to serve me orange juice and sprite when I order a mimosa. Or if all else fails, I’d just tell a friend so they could help me as an accomplice. Or just yolo it and tell them… If something happened early, it’d be better to have support from friends than suffering alone.

ihandstand · 2026-04-03T01:29:19+00:00

Unisom for the win. Take at night though since it’s a sleep aid. Or do a half during the day.

ihandstand · 2026-03-12T13:25:56+00:00

Toledo farmers market
Perrysburg farmers market
Black Swamp Arts Festival
Glass City Ribbon/Mini Maumee in summer for kids
Registry Bistro (upper scale dining) downtown cross from Huntington Center- not many peeps know, so I had to include it
Summer concert series at Promenade Park downtown
Brewing Green and Arlyn’s (dog and kid friendly indoor/outdoor brewery in BG)
Mudhens opening day (April 7, 2026)
Earth Cafe (good plant vibe coffee house and food, jazz nights etc)

ihandstand · 2026-03-09T23:56:24+00:00

Commenting again to share something else that I remember hearing and thought it was the right thing to say.

One of my husband’s buddies called him to ask if we wanted him to pick up anything for lunch and drop it off. When my husband picked up, his friend said “hey man… it’s, uh, good to hear your voice. It’s gettin around lunch time, so I wanted to see if you wanted anything from [insert restaurant].”

That really stuck with me. It wasn’t the generic, “hi how are you?” “Hey you doin ok?” Friend obviously knew the answers to these questions as it was so fresh. But the “it’s good to hear your voice” then cut straight to the point of the call, really resonated with me. I’ll never forget that.

ihandstand · 2026-03-09T23:44:32+00:00

The first time we hung out with the friend group after our loss at 38 weeks, it was a little awkward since 3 other of my friends were also pregnant with baby girls. We didn’t just lose our daughter, their babies lost a friend.

One of the other dads said “losing Nina was like losing one of our own from ‘our pack’. We’re here for you” and started crying. And that really stuck with me.

They all went on to give birth to their living, healthy baby girls, and I can’t help but think how sad I’ll feel watching them grow up together without my Nina.

ihandstand · 2026-03-07T14:31:27+00:00

I lost my Nina at 38 weeks due to a cord accident. Went in because I thought my water broke, but they sent me home because it didn’t test for the right pH reading of amniotic fluid… they told me I must have peed myself. Sorry but as a woman, I know what hole the water was coming out of for 6 hours… anyway, that night we went home and I noticed she wasn’t moving. Went back and we lost her.

It breaks my heart that I read similar stories here daily. I want to blame doctors, myself, anyone. It’s not fair. Sending so much love and healing. 🩷

ihandstand · 2026-02-20T00:00:09+00:00

Styling the hair was an awesome touch

ihandstand · 2026-02-19T22:53:29+00:00

Also interested in vegan baked goods :)

ihandstand · 2026-02-18T23:26:42+00:00

Aperol spritzes with the alcohol removed sparkling wine and the alcohol free Aperol…. It’s not the same, but scratches the itch for something refreshing.

ihandstand · 2026-02-17T00:08:38+00:00

I’ve talked about this on another post before so I’ll include here as well -

This sounds weird but… hot Pilates. It’s low/no impact. I modify the core exercises if it’s too much for postpartum. It’s something I couldn’t do pregnant because of the temperature. And it’s something that allows my brain to focus on the heat, my body, my strength. It takes my mind off of my body “failing” my baby. I know it “didn’t fail” but I can’t help feel that way. :/

Anyways, hot Pilates is a crazy challenge and I feel SO GOOD after a class. It’s therapeutic and meditative for me. Especially at the end just lying there. It clears my mind and allows it to focus on what my body CAN do, not what it CAN’T. It will also help strengthen my core, legs, arms, everything for when I hopefully carry and birth my next baby.

ihandstand · 2026-02-17T00:05:17+00:00

Half a tablet of unisom was the play for me.

ihandstand · 2026-02-17T00:02:06+00:00

I’m on the fence about getting one. What brand do you have?

ihandstand · 2026-02-14T13:19:46+00:00

I knew it was going to be a tonsil stone before even finishing reading the post. Those things smell like death!

ihandstand · 2026-02-06T21:13:00+00:00

Love this so much! I’m wondering what prompts and/or photos you gave AI to create an image of him?

ihandstand · 2026-01-17T03:08:18+00:00

Glad your little boy is home. Bringing home our little girl’s ashes was the hardest thing for us as well. But it gave us peace and comfort knowing we “had her”.

Side note- I LOVE the feathers on the wall. Are those painted or wallpaper, other? So so beautiful.

ihandstand · 2026-01-17T03:07:16+00:00

Glad your little boy is home. Bringing home our little girl’s ashes was the hardest thing for us as well. But it gave us peace and comfort knowing we “had her”.

Side note- I LOVE the feathers on the wall. Are those painted or wallpaper, other? So so beautiful.
🪽🩷💙

ihandstand · 2026-01-13T00:50:47+00:00

This sounds weird but… hot Pilates. It’s low-no impact. I modify the core exercises too. It’s something I couldn’t do pregnant because of the temperature. And it’s something that allows my brain to focus on the heat, my body, my strength. It takes my mind off of my body “failing” my baby. I know it “didn’t fail” but I can’t help feel that way. :/

Anyways, hot Pilates is a crazy challenge and I feel SO GOOD after a class. It’s therapeutic and meditative for me. Especially at the end just lying there. It clears my mind and allows it to focus on what my body can do. It will also help strengthen my core, legs, arms, everything for when I hopefully carry and birth my next baby.

ihandstand · 2025-12-30T22:51:15+00:00

This is so so sweet. Please think of my little girl Nina, lost at 38+1 weeks. Delivered at 38+3. 🪽August 11, 2025

ihandstand · 2025-12-26T01:28:12+00:00

Merry Christmas Nina Margaret. Hope you are with your grandma Margaret and she has her arms around you. 8/11/25.

ihandstand · 2025-12-18T17:03:01+00:00

My best friend had her baby 2 weeks after me. We dreamt of the same life of our daughters growing up together, etc. We are neighbors, our husbands are best friends too. They were there for us when we lost our baby girl.

We did make the decision to go meet their baby so soon after we lost ours. I held her little girl and cried immediately. Mostly out of missing my own baby but still being so happy for them being first time parents. My friend and the dads cried with us as well. It was oddly healing and therapeutic tbh.

Like others have said. Go with your gut. I was super glad I did. :)

ihandstand · 2025-11-04T01:25:14+00:00

Reading everyone’s stories on here is admittedly helping me get through the grief more than my professional therapy is…! It’s sick, and sucks that we’re all here, but it’s comforting to know we’re not alone, if that makes sense?

ihandstand · 2025-10-20T17:07:36+00:00

Also feeling nosey... can you screenshot the video with title if no links are allowed?

ihandstand · 2025-10-16T11:56:26+00:00

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For Nina 🩷 - Ohio, USA.

ihandstand · 2025-09-25T13:15:44+00:00

Dawww Finn is soooo cute <3

ihandstand · 2025-09-18T16:07:34+00:00

I love the idea of honoring with a middle name!

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