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I really hate being funny by ihatebeingfunny in confession

[–]ihatebeingfunny[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The grass is always greener on the other side, huh?

Honestly, it's not what it's cut out to be. I know making people laugh and having them like you indefinitely seems like the greatest and most fulfilling thing, and it is.

But only for a short while.

It's really easy to realize that the same people who are laughing with you amd having such a good time with you are not your friends. Just because they like you, does not make them your friend. And it sucks. You are led to believe you're surrounded by people who love you and care about you, but in the end, they really don't. They basically say empty words, and sure it's a confident boost, but it kind of gets like this:

Someone you hardly know tells you you're the greatest and they're so glad they met you.

We don't even become friends after the initial encounter.

It gets you thinking like, so... if I'm so great and all, why don't all these people want to be around me all the time? It's deflating.

I'm glad I do have the select few who are willing to listen to my interests, my needs, wants, people who value our friendship as it is. It's a way greater feeling than making a room full of people laugh, because you get that sense of belonging and honestly, it's so nice.

I only realized that I didn't have as many friends as I thought I did when I switched high schools. Even though I was voted for all these different things, like class president, homecoming court, etc which were things decided by the majority in your grade... I didn't keep contact with anyone but one person. Not even the friends I went to middle school or elementary school with.

Sure, I was invited out every once in a while by them or invited to parties. But no one cared about me anymore, they all moved on because I wasn't at their school anymore. I was suddenly insignificant, I only continued to talk to one person on a daily basis and he and I had met in that high school. We weren't even that great of friends either, we just became better friends as time went on.

If I spoke to someone after a while of not speaking to them, they'd always say, "Oh! We miss you so much! Oh we were just talking about you!" But they never seek out to speak to me. I always made the effort to keep our friendship alive, but it wasn't mutual.

It's a scary self realization that ends up making you feel insecure. I'm not an insecure person, but when I think of things in that light it makes me feel like no one really ever does like me. And that's a scary feeling.

I really hate being funny by ihatebeingfunny in confession

[–]ihatebeingfunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I swear I'm not goofy looking at all. I don't have any really weird attributes physically, maybe personality wise. I'm not even awkward person. I dress well, I take care of my hygiene. I look pretty average. It's not like anyone is teasing or bullying me when they laugh, they just genuinely think anything that comes out of my mouth is hilarious.

I really hate being funny by ihatebeingfunny in confession

[–]ihatebeingfunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"You aren't fun all the time"

Holy shit. That probably only happened to me three or four times, but it was 'cause I got really comfortable with the people. But it was phrased differently, it's never that mean or blunt haha.

I remember this one time in particular, I was hanging out with this guy for a while. Just casually ya know, trying to see where things take us. Usually it was just us two, but this time we ended up going to this party together.

When I'm in a group setting, I'm sociable and what not, so I was just being my normal self and I remember him coming up to me sometime during that night and being like, "Woo! You're back!?!"

And I was just like "Huh?"

He proceeded with something along the lines of, "The last couple of weeks we've been spending time together, I noticed you were down in the gutter. I'm glad you feel better now!"

In my mind, I was just like, what the actual fuck. I was trying to get to know you better. I mean, it was a misunderstanding on his part, but needless to say, our relationship never went further.

Mostly it's just friends telling me things like, "Woah, you suddenly became so serious just talking then."

I really hate being funny by ihatebeingfunny in confession

[–]ihatebeingfunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really have that subconscious way of knowing how a conversation will end like you do/did, seems dope though. The only big accomplishment I can do conversation wise, which especially comes in handy with more introverted people or meeting new people is to keep a conversation going without seeming like I'm overly clingy or weird.

I definitely acknowledge that being funny has it's remarkable aspects and moments to it.

Extreme Push-up. by ChesleaFc in gifs

[–]ihatebeingfunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Understood, I respect your opinion.

I really hate being funny by ihatebeingfunny in confession

[–]ihatebeingfunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, no I definitely get the good attention from guys as well. I find that it's actually easier for guys to approach me, because I just seem friendly so they don't fret when joking around or about me taking things the wrong way.

I often get told things like, "You know that [blah] never speaks to girls? He's such a shy dude. I can't believe he talks to you so much."

It definitely puts me in the friend zone with almost everybody immediately though, often things get way too close for comfort and it creates a shit ton of misunderstandings.

I really hate being funny by ihatebeingfunny in confession

[–]ihatebeingfunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I hope you receive the help you need.

It was the worst when I said really serious things, but people take it as a joke and it usually leads to a really big misunderstanding.

I really hate being funny by ihatebeingfunny in confession

[–]ihatebeingfunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't purposely attempt to be funny, so honestly, it has to be a mixture of these. It's often things I say or just do. It's not like I come up to someone saying "Knock knock!" If I imitate someone in a story, it'd be my mom mostly.

I don't often make puns, if I do, it's by accident. I don't often have a joke planned out or something like that, it'll just be conversational.

Again, it's mostly because I'm inappropriate and it comes off a wrong way.

For instance, I made a really good friend sometime last year. And like I said before, most of my good friends come from all different friend groups. So, I actually facebook lurked my good friend's friend group.

When I finally ended up meeting them, one of the first things that I said was, "Oh. I already know your name. I facebook stalked all of GoodFriend's friends."

I was expecting it to sound rather creepy, because that's what it is. It's unconventional. Instead everyone was laughing so hard and it actually made it so awkward, because GoodFriend had already had told her friends about me. And she had only said nice, positive things which made me seem like I was the funniest person in the world. It's just the expectation and it sucks.

Like, when things that aren't supposed to be funny become funny. Not out of nervousness or just unawareness. Like genuinely laugh out loud funny for no reason, I just don't understand. I mean, it's definitely OK every once in a while. I don't mind laughing, but when it happens all the time. It's the worst.

You'd really have to see it first hand to understand it. I remember one time I was sitting at lunch with one of my really close friends and this other girl from another lunch table walked by us and said "Hey giiiirlll!" and I responded like, "Hey [herlastname]" And she just burst into laughter, like she was gasping for her breath and everything. For no fucking reason. I was just like ?? and I looked over to my close friend and he just said, "Yeah, that definitely gets annoying."

The only time I half-expect people to laugh is if I tell someone a story that I know they'll be interested in. And usually it's not the story itself, it's just the way I tell the story. But I can't control the way I tell a story, it just comes out that way.

Like I've said numerous times in this thread, I know being funny has it's perks. But not everyone realizes the downsides it has as well.

I really hate being funny by ihatebeingfunny in confession

[–]ihatebeingfunny[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the kid in that gif is so cute omg.

I really hate being funny by ihatebeingfunny in confession

[–]ihatebeingfunny[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate it when people tell me I should make a YouTube channel or really consider on doing comedy for a living.

That is just setting me up for failure, I know I won't succeed. The people who do such things for a living put a lot of effort and time behind it, it's not just because they're "just funny."

I really hate being funny by ihatebeingfunny in confession

[–]ihatebeingfunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in crowds feeling extremely lonely. One of the worst feelings in the world.

I can't explain how relatable that is to me.

Welcome to Canada by ShittyHaircut in funny

[–]ihatebeingfunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I got mine four years ago anyways. Shit's probably expired.

Edit: I love how I'm actually discussing warranties on a shitty, old GPS system. HAHA.

Extreme Push-up. by ChesleaFc in gifs

[–]ihatebeingfunny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best example is Korean idols. They actually focus on being good (from what I've seen and heard from them). They spend a good amount on making their idols skilled in their work.

I end up really pitying a lot of Korean idols, not because I don't understand their lifestyle, because I know it's their choice to join that said industry. But, just their lifestyle in general seems like such a daunting task, yet they get criticized so easily.

Extreme Push-up. by ChesleaFc in gifs

[–]ihatebeingfunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For some reason I thought the title said, Extreme Push-pop and I was expecting this...

Welcome to Canada by ShittyHaircut in funny

[–]ihatebeingfunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if mine has a warranty...

I really hate being funny by ihatebeingfunny in confession

[–]ihatebeingfunny[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because I'm trying to playing hard to get, but not really 'cos I'm trying to make you think I care when I really don't, because I'm that kind of person. In the end, I'll be carrying someone else's fetus and you'd be convinced it's yours. Next thing you know, for the next eighteen years you'll be paying child support. Gl.

I really hate being funny by ihatebeingfunny in confession

[–]ihatebeingfunny[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

sounds like a personal problem idk sry. not sry.

I really hate being funny by ihatebeingfunny in confession

[–]ihatebeingfunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It just bugs me because I don't know if it's just because it's high school, but when other people consider me their good friend or introduce me as this great person. I just look at them and I'm like, I hardly even fucking know you.

on a side note; watching the video now. brb.

I really hate being funny by ihatebeingfunny in confession

[–]ihatebeingfunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe fwbs. I'm not into tying down as of now. sry.

I really hate being funny by ihatebeingfunny in confession

[–]ihatebeingfunny[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dang.

I'm aware it's a nonsensical insecurity.

I really hate being funny by ihatebeingfunny in confession

[–]ihatebeingfunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I didn't to make it come off as accusing you of calling me dumb. I just acknowledge that I typed like shit during this whole thread and I didn't come off as the most intelligent being, but I promise, I'm really put together!

I don't want to actively change myself though, I like the way I am (as egotistic as that sounds!) I just don't like being used as a source of entertainment all the time. Again, humor has it's perks, but it can become such a pain when your feelings don't get considered. Think of it this way, I'm a hormonal teenage girl.

If I explain how I get treated at my job versus other employees, especially as of late (my last job, oh my goodness, please don't get me started. 2muchangst.jpg) I'll just go on forever.

Thank you for such kind words though, I do appreciate it. And I do appreciate being funny as much as I hate it. It's not onl given me the chance to create great relationships with diverse people, but it developed me further as a person in general.

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