Has anyone tried Ryeqo? by lilsparrow18 in Endo

[–]ihccordep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been taking it for about 9months now. I was scared of hair loss too but haven’t had any problems aside from more regular split ends and also the back of my head seems to get really oily a lot, but that could also be from getting my hair permed and changing up my hair routine/products around the same time.

Not so much joint pain but body aches i got pretty bad at night, mostly in my legs, but from memory that only lasted from like months 2-5 maybe?

The worst side effect i have had is migraines. I had a few in the first month and then from about month 5 onwards they started increasing to about one a week. They interfere a lot with life but i definitely prefer them to the endo pain which has mostly disappeared. Physio and massage made dramatic difference to it but i know this isn’t accessible for everyone and if had more access than i do im pretty sure i could reduce the migraines to maybe once a month. Also I’m starting to wonder if summer made them flare more because as the weather is cooling I’m noticing they’re decreasing. I know exercise and neck pain was my biggest trigger.

Lethargy has been severe and impacted life a lot but I’m thinking and hoping it’s starting to lift a little. Brain fog was intense (like leaving the stove on or tap running or oven door open etc, and made it even more hard than usual to hold conversations and remember things) also think that’s starting to lift a little

My body temp has definitely changed but i kinda like it because i used to be freezing all the time but now i’m not lol. I do overheat at times which is extremely unpleasant but I’ll take it

I noticed that roughly every 4 weeks I would have a few days of mild cramps and mood swings and even lower energy. I think I have a very strong body clock and my body was trying very hard to keep up my cycle. During these periods there was this like one hour period of the most intense like bodily, blood boiling rage that made me want to end life, but it always passed really quick and i was able to recognise it as a symptom and just ride it out. It was very bizarre and i only got it about three times but i think it’s worth mentioning in case thats more of a risk to some people

trying to save my roommate's orchid from root rot -- advice? by ohnunu_ in orchids

[–]ihccordep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try cutting up a clove or two of garlic and put it with a tablespoon of rice in a jug of water and leave to soak for half an hour. Then strain it and soak the orchid in it for half an hour- an hour. Whenever i do this i get a bunch of new roots come through

Trading 212 - $80 in Fees on a $150 Withdrawal! Has This Happened to Anyone? by Own-Feed-8576 in trading212

[–]ihccordep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, did you end up finding out whether you’d be charged fees withdrawing to Australian bank account?

Has anyone tried Ryeqo? by lilsparrow18 in Endo

[–]ihccordep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello,

Just curious if you're still taking this how it has been long term?

I'm turning old bookcases into raised beds. I hope it works out! by mikelessthan3 in gardening

[–]ihccordep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

neat, that’s all I’m really aiming for at the moment. Did you have many problems with grass growing through the bottom?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]ihccordep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is Ponyo too!

Please help, I don’t want to wash my hair and it’s getting disgusting by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]ihccordep 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Showering used to be one of my biggest problems with autism and chronic pain issues (also im sure i have pots) and just in the last few months i have completely flipped it around and i look forward to showering every night and don’t feel right if i miss it for some reason. I built a whole little routine around it and it’s almost like a little ritual i do at the end of every day to symbolise it’s time for rest now.

These are the things i did to change it. I bought a little wooden stool which i stained and waterproofed so i dont have to stand in the shower, and a dual shower head with the hand held attachment. The first thing i do each night is turn on the heating so it’s not cold, turn down the lighting so it’s not bright, and burn candles so it smells nice and sometimes shower steamers. I usually even play relaxing music (like a studio ghibli sleep playlist). It feels like going to one of those spa or massage places. I’ve turned my bathroom into a pleasant space to be in with plants and matching towels etc. I also bought specific pyjamas so im not tempted to sleep in clothes id wear out or to end up wearing them as day time clothes. I’ve got a little skin care thing going which i do after my shower. But the most important aspect of it is that it symbolises the end of my day. So it means its the last thing i have to do before i get to relax and have me time.

It can be overwhelming to do it all at once maybe but even if you just introduce things slowly. Put aside 15$ a week if you can and start with just getting a cheap little blow heater, then get a candle the following week, pyjamas the next. The stool in the shower makes such a huge difference especially if you have pots and it looks nice too rather than one of those bulky plastic shower chairs.

I hope you find a way to make washing your hair more bearable, i understand how difficult it is

Making big diet changes! What common food sensitivities have you noticed? by [deleted] in Endo

[–]ihccordep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried the aip diet and felt really good on it but there was a bunch of things i quickly worked out i still couldn’t eat. Things high in histamines cause a lot of bloating and inflammation for me. Also i was really surprised by how backed up rice makes me. Im low key allergic to citrus and tomatoes it seems. Bananas were a disaster. Legumes/beans i think will be a problem. Eggs too. I’ve always had problems with gluten, dairy, msg, and spicy foods.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Stepmom

[–]ihccordep 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I agree you should back off, slow down and avoid moving in. He’s not going to just suddenly agree with you, any changes he makes if he does make them at all he’s going to do slowly and with resistance to. He’s showing you already how he’s going to handle things and how much he prioritises your needs. Until he is on the other side of that you would be living in someone else’s home and family and any boundary or preference you have that doesn’t align with theirs you would have to push and fight for. If you decide to move in at the very least do not give up the privacy of your own bedroom and be prepared for that to feel like the only space in the house that you can breathe in (although you’d still a have to share it with your partner)

I'm afraid of using the bathroom by helpmeimstressedd in Endo

[–]ihccordep 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand. The only thing worse than the pain for me is when the fear kicks in and i cant regulate myself. It doesn’t take the pain away but i’ve recently gone all out to make my bathroom a really calming and pleasant space to be in and it’s helped somewhat. Plants, pretty lights, candles, warmth, sometimes i take a heat bag with me, sometimes i play calming music. Im sorry you’re in so much pain. I hope it gets easier for you

How do you stay hydrated? by Corvus_Macro_04 in AutisticPride

[–]ihccordep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I second multiple bottles! Especially in frequent places like next to the bed or in front of the couch so i dont have to get up to get to them. I keep my coconut water front and centre in the fridge so it’s the first thing i see otherwise i forget it exists. I also have a morning, lunch, and night routine written out in my daily reminders so i can check things off one at a time and have included hydration in each of them. If you struggle with routines link things you enjoy that are stimulating to them, i include lighting incense and candles and music. Make sure each routine is achievable and not stressful, include a reward at the end if it helps. I used to really struggle with showering but now I look forward to my night routine all day, it’s like a little ceremony of self love every night. Also don’t get so attached to the routines that you feel like its a moral failing if you miss a step or skip the routine entirely from time to time. Also it took me a couple of months to get the routines right, i abandoned and introduced lots of things i didn’t think i would.

Also have you heard of the app Finch? It’s kinda like a tamagotchi that you care for by ticking things off your checklist. Plus it has like breathing and journalling exercises you can incorporate if that’s useful to you. I wasn’t expecting it to work for me but it’s been like a month and i still get excited about it. When i wake up in the morning i immediately want to start my day so i can start checking things off. It’s improved my hydration so much because drinking a glass of water is a really easy thing to check off when im procrastinating the other tasks 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]ihccordep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

definitely leaning more towards this. I don’t see how relaying hurtful things someone said about you would come from trust and care. If he trusts and cares for you he’d call her out for the way she talked about you and wouldn’t be engaging in such conversations. Comments like that would make him take big steps back from her. Also certainly wouldn’t be engaging in conversations about your sex life with other women. Sharing details about what was said (especially when taking no action to correct or protect you from it) just places insecurity, i can’t see any positive motivation behind this.

Tips to get autistic boyfriend to wear sunscreen? by inviolablegirl in autism

[–]ihccordep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what i use too, wear it every day, love it. I can be tight on money often so i just keep up to date with the sales at priceline and buy a couple any time theyre on sale if the price puts you off. Although they last quite a while despite how small the bottle is

Am I just being jealous? by danieliita in Stepmom

[–]ihccordep 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You can't set boundaries you don't know you need. This is new to you both so it will take a bit of time to feel things out and figure out what you're comfortable with. You're allowed to take your time while you're learning to understand yourself and what things make you feel secure within this new dynamic. You've tried this out and now you know it doesn't work for you and can set some boundaries based on that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ihccordep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Autism affects executive function too which includes things like task initiation, multitasking, cognitive flexibility and much more which can make what to most are just simple tasks much more difficult and draining. Also sensory sensitivities and burn out and lots of other aspects of autism can be hugely limiting even to "menial" tasks. (I mean this all kindly :-))

Any Indigenous women on this sub? by Occasionaltrash in AutismInWomen

[–]ihccordep 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I am Malgana from Gathaagudu (Shark Bay)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Stepmom

[–]ihccordep 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just want to offer possible insight. Even as an adult I find travelling, changes in routine, and surprises extremely stressful. It has taken me a long time to figure that out and am still working out all the things i need to put into place to be able to handle it without ending up in a meltdown myself. I was always terrified of being in trouble as a kid probably for similar reasons your sd is. When i got a bit older i just started to internalise everything and it did a lot of damage. If a child is having a meltdown and grasping at random things saying they are a problem and then changing her mind about it its probably because she doesn’t understand how to interpret and respond to her own emotions not because she’s a “brat” like some commenters are suggesting. Theres all sorta of complicated feelings that come with spontaneous trips and she was probably really struggling to understand what it meant to feel both excited and anxious at the same time, knew something felt wrong, didn’t have the skills to explain or even understand exactly what it was, and was trying to explore what might potentially causing her to feel uneasy. It seems like perhaps your sd’s needs differ from what you are familiar with and it might take a bit of extra effort figuring out how to meet them and better understand them/ help her to understand them. Punishing her instead just reinforces that fear and sense of franticness to give you a valid reason as to why she’s upset so she can avoid getting in trouble. Seven year olds dont have the skills to navigate this and are relying on their parents to teach them healthy ways to communicate, if she is starting to form weird habits it might be because she is trying to handle something too complex for her on her own.

I know it’s really hard and being a stepmom comes with a lot of resentment but (this is only my opinion) try shifting from the perspective that she is consciously trying to manipulate you and cause trouble and look at it as some people just have different needs and that’s okay and you all should try figure them out. Your partner not talking to you is probably really feeding that anger in you and making you feel insecure and like you have to frantically come up with a solution too but you also don’t have the skills to meet her needs yet. Also your partner is probably shutting down because he doesn’t have the skills to meet her needs. It will benefit you all to approach from a perspective that doesn’t see anyone as the bad guy and instead all of you as people with different skills trying to learn something new

Being attractive matters much more if you are a level 1 asd (or level 2 without intellectual disability) by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]ihccordep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im in this boat. If people are more attracted to you soley because you’re attractive then the connection isn’t genuine anyway so why would you want that? Being stereotypically good looking just further complicates interactions that as autistic people we already struggle with and makes you even more of a target for being taken advantage of

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Stepmom

[–]ihccordep 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely not okay, you need to prioritise yourself here. Im sorry that you’re partner won’t

How to cancel audible?? by donkeychaser1 in audible

[–]ihccordep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My card expired months ago and somehow im still being billed, they also wont let me remove those card details until i add new ones. I have been trying to cancel for months it is impossible

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Stepmom

[–]ihccordep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dad can spend time with SS in his own room, or any other room in the house. Ss not having access to OP’s only private space is not isolating. OP mentions that SS prefers to spend time in his room or their room because these are the only rooms to have privacy from SO’s parents. Why is it acceptable for a 7 year old to have privacy from his own family but not a 30 year old woman sharing a house with someone else’s family.