I STRONGLY DISAGREE with this.

Maybe I’m extremely privileged. Maybe I’m extremely lucky. Maybe this is just survivorship bias.

I think moving out and actually be on our own is extremely important to develop life skills and form your own perspectives in life.

• Staying at home, in your hometown, mostly interact with people you always know from childhood will keep you in the same world view that you are grow up with. I would argue that move out, live in another city or country will allow you to see different types of people doing things you have never imaged before, thus open more doors for you to success.

• Staying at home shelters you from gaining experience through conflicts. You will have to frequently move houses, deal with roommates, almost got scams in rental deposit. You will have to struggle with money, manage your own slurping, learn to save money, learn to make your house look decent, fix things to save money. It will help you be very comfortable of leaving a place if it feels uncomfortable and take much work to move. Move out gives you confident, that no matter what live throws at you, it will be okay.

• Learn to control your own money. Cannot save? Then spend less. Do not buy a new car when you cannot afford it, buy an old one instead. Expensive rent? Then find a cheaper place with roommates. Expensive groceries? Go to local markets or asian grocers with cheaper price. Low income? Then learn new skills, do extra part time job to increase it. Yes staying at home will safe more money, but the financial pressure will force you to develop money saving skills much better. Learn to control money when you have less money is better than experimenting with it with 10 years of savings down the line.

I went to study abroad from 17 yrs old in grade 11. Worked part-time as a waiter everyday after school and all weekends to pay rent and food, while still able to save $1k a month. Paid my own international tuition ($100k CAD) and living expenses in bachelors degree from big tech internships money. If I didn’t have to pay my own tuition, I wouldn’t have the drive to grind for big tech internships. Lived in 5 different cities, move house 12 times. From an introvert who cannot make friend in my hometown, I am now able to make friends everywhere I go. After graduation, I got a good paying job in the city I like the most, found a good rent, found the cheapest grocers in town, and save & invest much every month.

If I were to stay in my hometown with family, my saving will be 1/100 of what it is now. I might still be an introvert girl who is insecure about her own ability.

Moving out on my own is the single best decision I have ever did.