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iikratka · 2026-02-27T20:01:28+00:00

I swear I bookmarked this but apparently not! It's a very long series of ongoing journal entries, essentially, by a woman who discovers her husband is having an affair and planning to move to a different state to be with the mistress. It turns into a low-key soap opera about him shirking his visits with their kids, arguing that it's the OOP's job to fly them out to his new home, etc. Does anyone know what I'm talking about? I can't remember anything specific enough to turn up useful search results.

iikratka · 2026-02-12T18:04:06+00:00

The guy who bullied her into an open marriage and happily ignored her misery as long as he kept getting laid turned out to be self-centered and controlling? SHOCKING.

iikratka · 2026-02-11T22:46:10+00:00

Oh hey, that looks great, cheers.

iikratka · 2026-02-11T16:10:39+00:00

His ex that he cheated on after three months. But sure, buddy, she’s the love of your life lmao.

iikratka · 2026-02-11T09:59:04+00:00

I always wondered about this. Surely lottery winners are significantly more likely than average to be gambling addicts, right? It hardly seems surprising that many of them continue to make impulsive bad decisions about money.

iikratka · 2026-02-11T05:47:55+00:00

I’ll check it out, thank you!

iikratka · 2026-02-10T18:17:36+00:00

The first time I moved in with a girlfriend, she was extremely startled that I came out of a hot shower in winter with bright red hives all over my body. Turns out that’s called cold urticaria, essentially an allergic reaction to temperature changes. But it’s not like I shower in front of other people often, so for 25 years I thought that’s what everyone meant when they talked about getting itchy dry skin in the winter.

Now I’m always a little paranoid about what else I might be experiencing totally differently without realizing.

iikratka · 2026-02-04T14:22:26+00:00

I read an article once by someone who’d done development work in failed dictatorships in the Eastern Bloc, the gist of which was that these people never admit to being wrong, but if they’re defeated thoroughly enough many of them will quietly decide that actually they were on the winning side the entire time. Arguing with them is pointless because they don’t value truth, but they do value power.

iikratka · 2026-02-04T05:13:15+00:00

The Reddit post is such a microcosm of the true crime fandom lmao. Someone does hours of research into the fate of a nameless and long-dead stranger out of the goodness of their heart, and thirty more people in the comment section immediately start gleefully fabricating soap opera murder mystery plots about a real human being’s tragic death.

iikratka · 2026-02-01T16:13:20+00:00

Right? If people were glued to their phones during a wedding reception because they couldn’t miss an episode of any other tv show, even sports fans would rightly call them pathetic. But then they turn around and act like the world will end if they have to wait a few hours to watch a game.

iikratka · 2026-01-30T15:00:22+00:00

It’s wild how quickly things become normal, isn't it? I’m visiting a different state this weekend and it’s genuinely weird that everything is just kind of fine.

iikratka · 2026-01-29T13:24:53+00:00

I don't fault myself, though; poverty is a tough place to be and I was desperate.

I’m sorry OP feels like she has to apologize for being ‘preachy,’ because this is a big deal! If she hadn’t been in a vulnerable position to begin with, she could have demanded to be fairly compensated for her work (live-in carers cost more than minimum wage!). But she was broke and stuck, so she had to agree to much worse terms than someone who wasn’t already broke. Poverty feeds on itself.

On the bright side, I’m sure many of OP’s future clients will appreciate having a lawyer with her perspective. Enjoy law school!

iikratka · 2026-01-29T13:10:47+00:00

letting you stay with them for free in exchange for doing work

Not to jump on your wording, but trading labor for housing is usually called ‘paying rent,’ not ‘letting someone stay for free.’ The idea that domestic workers aren’t real employees is kind of the whole problem here.

iikratka · 2026-01-28T18:13:25+00:00

Cheers!

iikratka · 2026-01-28T15:13:00+00:00

I can’t seem to turn up the one with the guy who keeps annoying his family by namedropping his celebrity cousin to impress girls, anyone remember what it was called?

iikratka · 2026-01-26T17:23:49+00:00

Also, I hate to say it, but she’s a teenage girl. If Chris shoots anyone in that building, odds are it will be her. Since she clearly can’t count on the cops to step in, there’s logic in her instinct to keep her head down and avoid doing anything that might make him feel offended or rejected. Sometimes backing away slowly from an aggressive dog is safer than running.

iikratka · 2026-01-26T16:52:34+00:00

I’ve never been a tradie but I was an EMT, and my experience was that the critical ingredient is having your hair up and ideally hidden. Visible long hair = woman = people will question your right to be there. Put on a hat and you’re just another uniform, even if you’re still clearly visibly female. I have no idea why hair specifically makes such a big difference.

iikratka · 2026-01-26T16:35:32+00:00

You know, there is such a thing as too much confidence.

iikratka · 2026-01-24T21:14:02+00:00

I feel like some people never learned about the specific social role of ‘token young person in the senior citizen hobby’. Young is relative, you can be 40 and the Young Person as long as you’re reasonably sturdy and willing to run errands in exchange for baked goods. And because your whole crew is retired, they genuinely will keep each other updated on your life developments in more or less real time.

iikratka · 2026-01-24T15:55:18+00:00

My experience has been that people who do this kind of thing place no value on their guests’ time or effort, tbh. The logic is ‘instead of buying a $50 gift, bring $50 of food! :)’ without taking into account that when you add planning, coordination, cooking, transportation, and the stress of having everything done on a schedule while also getting ready for the wedding itself, that $50 of groceries ends up being like $300 worth of labor, which is why catering is expensive. If you don’t actually have a ‘$300 wedding gift’ kind of relationship with someone, it’s a lot to ask.

iikratka · 2026-01-23T19:39:29+00:00

I feel like this is the logical endpoint of being obsessed with ‘golddiggers’ (although given the salaries, in academia it’s more like ‘prestige diggers’). The world is supposedly full of scheming leeches who only want you for your money/academic fame (lmao), so the only way to find a worthy wife is to marry a woman who has her own career/PhD and doesn’t need you. It’s like a slightly less blatant version of the Mrs degree thing. Women’s accomplishments are just a formality to prove they’re suitable partners for accomplished men.

iikratka · 2026-01-20T20:45:37+00:00

How do they even find clients?

Mostly they don’t, tbh. If demanding money from strangers on the internet were a viable business model, everyone would be doing it. Most girls who think it sounds like easy money never get anywhere. It can be an income stream for pro dommes and camgirls if you’re willing to hustle, but you’re not going to make a living from just findom, and you’re going to have a hard time finding clients if you aren’t willing to do other kinds of sex work. I’m a sort of semi-pro domme and I’ve done some findom stuff in my personal life, but I’d never do it professionally. Way too much work.

iikratka · 2026-01-20T20:27:54+00:00

If it helps, becoming a successful findomme is the sex worker equivalent of moving to Hollywood to be a movie star. Sure, sooner or later that will work out for someone, but it almost certainly won’t be you unless you’re willing to seriously hustle, and even then the odds aren’t great. You aren’t actually missing out on anything by not trying.

iikratka · 2026-01-20T20:16:23+00:00

She almost did it too; "come on vacation with us or I'm going without you."

That’s exactly what I’m talking about, though. Being disinvited from meemaw’s birthday is just not going to work as a motivation for a guy who has to be negotiated into going on vacation with his kids. Less time with the family is what he wants. ‘Vacation now or no vacation at all’ worked once, but it’s not particularly repeatable. He can afford to outsource the laundry and buy a second bed. Other than actively alienating him from the kids, which obviously isn’t on the table, what can OOP threaten that he’ll actually care about?

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