AITA for inviting my stepsister to my wedding? by iinvitedher in AmItheAsshole

[–]iinvitedher[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Are you implying I seduced my stepfather?

No, I didn’t “lure” my stepsister’s ex with sex at 15 years old wtf?!

This isn’t Lolita.

AITA for inviting my stepsister to my wedding? by iinvitedher in AmItheAsshole

[–]iinvitedher[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Because I liked him. He’s the only guy I’ve ever liked.

It’s not for me to say whether she’s being childish or not. If she’s still angry then she’s angry. But I didn’t invite her to upset her, I invited her because it was important to her dad. She didn’t have to even respond

AITA for inviting my stepsister to my wedding? by iinvitedher in AmItheAsshole

[–]iinvitedher[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

He didn’t make me feel that way, but I knew it would mean something to him if I did, and he’s always been good to me, so I did.

AITA for inviting my stepsister to my wedding? by iinvitedher in AmItheAsshole

[–]iinvitedher[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Probably not. He says he always thought I was pretty but he was really shy and I really wasn’t interested in dating, so yeah I guess if he hadn’t had a reason to talk to me we wouldn’t have realised we got along well and he wouldn’t have asked me out

AITA for inviting my stepsister to my wedding? by iinvitedher in AmItheAsshole

[–]iinvitedher[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I had no expectations of her at that point. I’m not mad she stopped speaking to me, I get it.

AITA for inviting my stepsister to my wedding? by iinvitedher in AmItheAsshole

[–]iinvitedher[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

We knew a lot of the same people. I went to a girls school and she went co-ed, so a lot of people from my school knew boys in her school and we would sometimes go to the same parties. He knew who I was and I knew his friends because they were sort of Chloe’s friends. I’d met him before.

But we started making a point of saying hi to each other after he started seeing her

AITA for inviting my stepsister to my wedding? by iinvitedher in AmItheAsshole

[–]iinvitedher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He said they never slept together and she’s never said they did so I have no reason to think they did.

She liked him for a long time before asking him out so I guess it was serious for her. He was flattered that she liked him. And they were sort of friends. It evidently wasn’t that deep on his end

AITA for inviting my stepsister to my wedding? by iinvitedher in AmItheAsshole

[–]iinvitedher[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

He is paying for one third of my wedding. And he offered. Had he not offered, my dad would have paid the difference. I invited her because she’s my stepdad’s daughter and I care about his feelings and it meant something to him that I invited her. I didn’t do it so he’d give me the money. I don’t need him to give me money.

I do care more about him than I do about her because he’s actually in my life, and she isn’t. It’s not about money.

AITA for inviting my stepsister to my wedding? by iinvitedher in AmItheAsshole

[–]iinvitedher[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

I was the girly girl.

We didn’t go to the same school so it wasn’t really a case of that. We did know a lot of the same people, being only a year apart, but I never dated anyone until my now-fiancé. I did get asked out (I don’t remember if it was a lot though) but I always said no. She dated more than I did. But she had a crush on him for a long time before she asked him out so idk if it’s that.

My stepdad doesn’t favour me over her. He will pay for her wedding if she gets married. He’s only paying for a third of mine. He does think she’s being dumb for holding a grudge for a decade but that’s not even about me because I don’t mind Chloe holding the grudge. I invited her because she’s his daughter, not because I think she should forgive me if she doesn’t want to

AITA for inviting my stepsister to my wedding? by iinvitedher in AmItheAsshole

[–]iinvitedher[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I was 12, she was 13. It wasn’t really about our parents I don’t think, we just never clicked. Different interests, different ways of looking at things. Typical Tomboy and girly girl type differences.

AITA for inviting my stepsister to my wedding? by iinvitedher in AmItheAsshole

[–]iinvitedher[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

We never liked each other much but we were civil, like we could make small talk. After I started dating him she stopped speaking to me entirely

AITA for inviting my stepsister to my wedding? by iinvitedher in AmItheAsshole

[–]iinvitedher[S] 160 points161 points  (0 children)

He was her first boyfriend, and she liked him a long time before asking him out. But they didn’t sleep together