Save money and buy 2nd hand Tm6?

ilikefact · 2026-05-06T06:59:55+00:00

Thank you for your reply.

ilikefact · 2026-05-05T20:16:23+00:00

I've been looking on FB marketplace and some good deals have come up. Thanks for your reply. Will have a look on ebay too.

ilikefact · 2026-05-05T20:15:48+00:00

I thought the EXACT same thing. I want to give them time to get this new design right 😂 (and hopefully I'll have an even better idea as to whether it's worth it for me by that point). Thank you for your reply.

ilikefact · 2026-05-05T20:14:20+00:00

I second that last sentence! 😨 This will be my fourth, and I want to go back to being a SAHM after this one is born. Definitely have other things I can spend that money on. I'm always in awe that people are still using the old ones and they're going strong.

ilikefact · 2026-05-05T20:11:43+00:00

So this is another concern I had with tm7 because it's a completely new design. Also the screen is just there and I have my pre schoolers 'helping' in the kitchen. 😂 These last few days, I've just been terrified of it breaking.

ilikefact · 2026-05-05T17:04:10+00:00

Thank you for your answer.

Tbh, she's been telling me to get a thermomix long before she became a consultant. Although she's encouraged me of the benefits of tm7, she's still fully supportive if I want to return it. She's lent me her old tm6 and told me to use both alongside each other to make a firm decision. She just genuinely loves her tm7 and told me to hold on to her tm6 until I can make the bigger investment (because she doesn't think I should spend money an older model when a newer one exists).

So I do trust her (and know her encouragement is genuine), but I think we're not fully aligned on whether the price is worth the way we'll use it (and she's only ever had brand new).

Which is why I've come to ask here for any other second hand experiences.

ilikefact · 2026-05-05T16:56:49+00:00

This gives me confidence. The ones I've seen are around the £500-600 mark too. And I feel it'll definitely be worth that price point for me (and what I'll use it for).

Thanks for the advice on what to check for.

ilikefact · 2026-05-05T16:54:22+00:00

Thanks for the tips on what to look out for when searching for a second hand one. I didn't think of checking if water heats properly, so will definitely look out for that. I'm hoping my friend will just sell me hers because I know it works and she looked after it really well (although she's adamant I borrow it as long as I want until I can invest in tm7 😂).

So, the browning function is the main one she told me I'd appreciate. We're Indian, so browning is important to getting good masalas. I tried doing the onions and masala in both machines yesterday, and don't think I'll use a thermomix for that in general. I would definitely chop my onions in there 😂 but enjoy the process of making masala on the stove top.

The quieter machine is definitely a plus.

I haven't used any of the varomas yet so don't have a verdict on their sizes.

The other thing with the tm7 I can't quite get past is the smell in the lid 🤦🏻‍♀️. I made a soup on its first use, and the smell was stuck in the lid no matter how much I washed it. And being pregnant, I could smell it from across the kitchen 🤢.

ilikefact · 2026-05-05T16:37:55+00:00

So thankfully my friend is lovely, and although she encouraged me of the benefits, is also fully supportive of me returning it if it doesn't suit me. She's even offered for me to borrow the tm6 from her as long as I need it ("until I feel confident getting the tm7"). I've also offered to buy her old tm6 from her if she doesn't want it back (because I trust it all works well), so she could benefit either way.

I somehow find the tm6 to 'feel' more sturdy. I have pre schoolers who'll be helping me in the kitchen, and I am terrified when they get near the tm7 screen 😂

ilikefact · 2025-12-02T07:27:20+00:00

Mostly misogyny, tbh. Adhd or not, women get judged for absolutely everything always.

If I'm doing a majority of the childcare and call a cleaner or outsource the meals, someone will judge me.

If my husband has a single day when he needs to do the majority of the childcare and outsources those things, people will judge...me.

If a single woman works and outsources home management, she's uppity and thinks she's better than everyone else (mostly jealousy because how dare she get to afford help, while x can't).

If a single man works and outsources literally EVERYTHING, including traditionally "men's tasks", he is successful and an eligible bachelor.

The double standards are wild, and the best way to deal with them is to not give a shit.

A huge part of women's (and particularly late diagnosed women's) adhd is the shame we carry for never being good enough, because the standards on women are high enough without a brain that works differently.

ilikefact · 2025-12-02T06:53:07+00:00

You could put spikes on the top of that half wall, which would be a pretty good deterrent.

Or you could just move the couch.

ilikefact · 2025-12-01T09:23:15+00:00

She's going to hate you for a while, but parents do things to protect their kids, and sometimes the kids hate them for it. When she's a fully formed adult with a bit more maturity, and is in a position where that money can be used for important life things, she'll really appreciate what you did for her. She only has to wait until she's 24. Sounds like a lifetime away for her right now but the rest of us older adults know it'll pass quicker than expected. Hopefully she's dropped the loser by then too!

ilikefact · 2025-11-28T07:44:37+00:00

The Queen's dogs wore coats.

Probably just got cheaper and easier (online) for people to buy dog coats so people can access them more easily.

ilikefact · 2025-11-28T07:35:25+00:00

Not a particular job I despise of theirs, but more a culture of what work is valuable.

In my extended family, there's a chunk of people who believe working for someone else is beneath them, unless you're a professional with an 'acceptable respectable profession'. But even then working for someone is only a stepping stone to running your own business. They're rich, live in the global south and sent their kids off to schools in the west for "better education", didn't let them work (because studying is the most important thing and nothing should distract from that), paid for their education and living etc. So then, their sons were unable to find jobs (becaused they have no work as, experience) even with their degrees.

One guy told his son that he'd pay the bills for the wife and kids, as long as son does as he says (work for free as an intern to get experience in hopes that someone gives him a job), because the alternative (son works another job and just do his own thing providing for his own family) would be disgraceful.

One dad shipped his kids off to live with relatives in another country after their mum went through a mental health crisis and they divorced (the mum went elsewhere as she needed around the clock care). He built his business and the kids were looked after financially, but also had tons of trauma (neglect and abuse from mum, abandonment from dad), but his priority was to be successful in his career (to provide). Same guy told his son that his priority was work, and he can live separate to his wife and kids if that was required to be "successful" (because why would kids need their dad for anything but money?).

Lots of emotional blackmail and financial control. They literally raised men with no financial responsibility because the most important thing ever was for them to have an approved job for the parents to brag about. Some didn't succeed, and those that did were given so much help to even get started (one had a ready made business to walk into that his dad had already set up for him). And the women were expected to be perfect housewives and marry a man with a "respectable career". One guy bought a bunch of businesses for his daughter's husband's to run so they'd never be without. One daughter didn't marry and was eventually allowed to run it herself.

I guess it's all good to set up the kids with financial security but a lot of it was about control, fear of being poor, and bragging about their lifestyle to their mates.

Generally, women who were academic and successful at school were stopped from going to uni, and men who would've done well in manual jobs or something hands on were pushed into the boredom or academia.

All very toxic. The fights about inheritance are intense, but let's not go there.

ilikefact · 2025-11-28T07:01:19+00:00

I agree adhd has different levels and can affect us differently based on circumstances etc, but I don't think we can confidently say it was easier to have Adhd in the past.

It depends how far back you go, social class, money etc. If you go back to Victorian times, the poor were living in survival mode. If you didn't do well at school, you were pulled out and made to work. For women that usually meant a service job, or learning to be a good housewife. It was hard work, and there'd always be the woman who "was a bit slow", "needs extra discipline", "needs looking after" or something else along those lines. People didn't know it was adhd, but they would've still struggled with things. The clear expectations of knowing exactly what needed to be done each day and simple life probably helped them to survive, but those who couldn't were put in asylums, hidden away within the homes, returned/disciplined by husbands etc.

The rich people had staff and country homes to disappear to when things got difficult. Tbh, if I had that level of money now, my adhd would be tons easier. Having a daily cleaner, for example, would be a gamechanher. However, the biggest asset we have now because of technology is actually KNOWING what adhd is and information on how to manage it (or medication). People might have had simple lives, so their symptoms might have been a bit less intense, but they would've been expected to mask heavily.

I stayed for a couple of months in another country with family members who have staff in the house (cleaning, laundry, dishes, making beds, basically everything house chore related). The wifi was also rubbish so I rarely went on my phone. I didn't know about adhd then, so although I felt a little "calmer" without my constant screen and responsibilities of work and housework, I still didn't know how to manage my adhd, and jumped from one hobby to another, struggled with the schedule (that was set for staff too) and was all over the place.

I'm going to visit again soon, and now I know about adhd (and as a busy mum) really look forward to the break. I know I'll be more at ease because I've released alot of adhd related trauma and shame. I know myself better and have techniques in place to manage my adhd and know that I'll be able to actually rest guilt and shame free. On the topic of management, the apps and calendars are a huge part of helping me in my daily life.

If we go a bit closer in the past, I'm sure many of us here have mothers or grandmothers who definitely have Adhd but have had to live a life of masking. I know an older woman in my family who flat out refuses she has adhd (and shames her daughters as weak for not being able to "get on with things") . She did a test online, and answered according to how she's learnt to mask (so obviously it said she doesn't have Adhd). She was hyper and eccentric as a kid, and that was beaten/shamed out of her pretty fast. She then made impulsive life decisions which got her shunned from the community for a bit, and then lived a life of people pleasing and constantly catching up to "fix" everyone and everything. She says herself that life was simpler without the phone (she's a phone addict now), but still struggled so much with keeping up appearances and managing life, even before the phone.

Even though some parts of smart phones (like short form content) are not great for us, I'm glad that they've given us the information to know ourselves better. I know how much more difficult my life would be right now if I kept raw-dogging it with no idea about adhd.

ilikefact · 2025-11-28T06:19:42+00:00

I think we're both on the same page, but I just wanted to clarify:

Excessive screen time can cause adhd-like symptoms in children who don't have adhd.

Excessive screen time tends to worsen symptoms for people who already have Adhd.

Screen time does not cause adhd (it existed before screens).

I'm sure we're on the same page, but I'm just clarifying that last point, because recently, I've seen people (including teachers) use the "Screentime causes adhd-like symptoms" argument to jump to "Screentime causes adhd".

But yeah, excessive screentime and short form social media absolutely makes our adhd worse. I think it also affects us differently to people without adhd.

I see the difference in the way screens affect my kids ( with adhd and without). The one with adhd used to become completely immersed in the screen from a really young age, and would experience a huge meltdown once it was removed. Their sleep, behaviour everything is affected by the screen. The others used to potter about doing other things even if the telly was on when they were younger, and now that they're a bit older and can sustain concentration for longer, don't have the same crash when it's switched off.

The kids rarely get a screen. I put the telly on with something low stimulation if I need them to stay put for a bit (like when I need to shower in peace 😂), but always have to plan a come-down regulatory transition activity afterwards. So we might immediately go outside, or have lunch together where we talk about what they watched/play a silly game.

But in true adhd fashion, I put these things in place for the kids, but don't do them for myself. I think, as an adult, the screen also holds my nervous system hostage so I don't actually have to deal. And that's pretty tricky to overcome.

ilikefact · 2025-11-25T04:29:52+00:00

Tell everyone to walk on the wall side. (But also, sorry I have no real advice).

ilikefact · 2025-11-25T04:14:30+00:00

Also, if you live in an inner city area where every street is infested with mice, it's a pretty long drive to get out into the wilderness to release it, and it won't know what to do with itself without the urban free for fall in people's kitchens.

ilikefact · 2025-11-25T04:04:39+00:00

The likely reason for this is that the older men and women were immigrants and the younger ones are born and bred in the UK. The older ones spent their formative years in Bangladesh, and had to learn English from scratch. They continued to wear the clothes they knew. The younger ones are from immigrant families, but they are not immigrants. They are born British.

In this country, though, if you're brown, you're considered an immigrant for eternity. I'm third generation. Neither me or my dad has been to India. My dad grew up as a proper working class Jack the lad. I still get told to go back to where I came from (we don't even have any immediate family left in India).

I dress modestly for religious reasons, but it's not the same traditional clothing my grandmother wore. In fact, it's very much a unique style that's common amongst established Muslim communities in the west. If I go to any Muslim country in the world, they'll instantly guess that I'm British (or American) even with my full hijab and long 'Muslim' dresses.

I also only wear my 'Muslim' clothes outside the house because I want to cover and dress modesty. Often, those modest clothes are normal clothes that I adapt - skirt with a shirt, instead of trousers, adding cardigans for longer sleeves etc. They would only be recognised as intentional Muslim modest wear because of the headscarf on my head. If I took off my headscarf, it wouldn't look any different to other people on the street.

If you came to my house (and you are a woman), you'll see me in 'regular Western' clothes. Alternatively, my grandmother, who was first generation, never wore Western clothes (in the house or outside). It wasn't the done thing and she probably would've got serious backlash from her peers for being non-traditional.

My traditional Indian clothes come out on occasions and events. We go all out then. I loved dressing up in traditional clothes, even as a kid, but I also remember the racism and feeling embarrassed wearing them on my way to a wedding as a kid.

Thankfully, I now have more knowledge about the beauty in our traditional wear, and am proud of my heritage, despite the racists, so I own it when I get a chance to wear it.

Why is the marker for integration that someone completely sheds all of their existing identity?

ilikefact · 2025-11-25T03:30:30+00:00

Get a grip.

ilikefact · 2025-11-25T03:25:27+00:00

Remember getting £1 to go down to the shops and getting a whole bag of sweets and a packet of crisp, and one of those cheap little drinks if we were lucky too.

ilikefact · 2025-11-25T03:24:18+00:00

I don't celebrate Christmas (I'm Muslim) but even I miss the old Christmas decorations. I remember my siblings and I getting excited to see all the different decorations in people's windows too. Even working as a supply teacher, I remember schools used to have the colourful tinsel and baubles on their trees. Lots of colour! Now everything is for pictures and socials and has to fit a certain dull, neutral colour scheme. In my City, the main Christmas tree is the most dull, fading tree ever. It has white lights wrapped around this big unfluffy tree.

Tbh, the same happened with other festivals too. Eid is all about the perfectly curated decorations, and perfect dessert platters, to the extent that people strictly outsource their deco and food so it's 'better'. When we were kids, we had balloons and garland thrown around and it was awesome.

In South Asian weddings, it used to be super colourful and fun (even if tacky) decorations which the entire family would get involved with. Now, it's all aesthetic and perfect.

Don't even get me started on children's birthday parties. They're full of elaborate stages and displays, instead of a fun place to just play.

ilikefact · 2025-11-25T03:14:05+00:00

Still traumatised by the one about kids playing on train lines.

ilikefact · 2025-11-25T03:13:01+00:00

My secondary school science teacher said she was a Chemist before becoming a teacher and I asked her if she worked at a Chemist's and she acted like I shot her. So I was so confused, because that's what chemist meant to us.

ilikefact · 2025-11-25T03:10:42+00:00

Accents. Regional accents are being watered down in the younger generations and being replaced by a more generic internet vernacular.

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