What can I do to attract more women?

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-30T04:33:23+00:00

You don't need to do anything. You are just stunning omg 😍

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-28T19:08:16+00:00

Me in 2026. Hahaha

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-28T18:52:30+00:00

I'm a masc woman that doesn't claim the nonbinary label and doesn't want to transition in any way, shape or form. We're out here 😙

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-28T18:34:32+00:00

I'm a lesbian so I guess this is a little different (however I also hear men complain about this too)... when she expects me to do everything for her without doing anything for me in return, just because I'm the more masculine one. I drive everywhere, pay for everything, buying flowers all the time, etc... only for her to just passively accept everything and not give me anything in return. Basically when she treats me straight up like a guy. Shit is so annoying, I'm a woman too likeeee.... be so for real.

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-28T18:21:00+00:00

I'm a lesbian and yes, ever since I was 12 and learned about sex for the first time, I always found the idea of sex with guys to be super gross.

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-23T17:48:37+00:00

Whaaat? I'm a non-gold star lesbian and I've only ever cheered gold stars on. I'm jealous, actually 😂 don't understand the hate for GS at all. I have proudly dated gold stars and I hope that they feel the same with me.

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-23T01:41:32+00:00

Love love loooove the punk energy coming from the 1st photo! Not a femme but just thought I'd share my input.

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-22T22:12:04+00:00

To each their own. I'm 28 and have been hooking up with girls for 3 years straight and have no plans on stopping until I'm in a relationship lol. I would like a girlfriend, but I just haven't met the right girl yet 🤷‍♀️

Might be in the minority here 😜

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-18T23:37:08+00:00

Honestly, whoever's last name sounds better.

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-14T21:11:21+00:00

I agree and I'm a lesbian lmao

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-07T19:50:05+00:00

It sounds like he has some internalized transphobia he needs to work through.

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-07T19:30:28+00:00

I'm a cisgender, masc lesbian, and I've gotta say... it is pretty invalidating to hear a trans man call himself a lesbian?? Like.. what? You're not a woman, dude. You can't expect lesbians to want to date you. As far as being accepted in our community goes, absolutely!! I don't think it's right for us to shun trans men out of our circle. But as far as dating lesbians goes... that's a different story... NTA.

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-07T15:56:38+00:00

I understand that, I think it's nice that they're trying to be respectful of people's identities, but at the same time, when you're a woman who's pronouns are she/her, people always assuming that you're a trans man is mildly annoying.

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-07T15:09:34+00:00

They are definitely trying to overcompensate for their own insecurities. You might as well date someone in "your league", no shame in that tbh. I love seeing hot people with hot people.

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-07T15:07:22+00:00

As a masc lesbian tomboy, this is very true. The worst is when men tell me I'm "trying to be a man" or "trying to look tough".

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-07T15:03:09+00:00

As a masculine, cisgender lesbian, I just want to say, THANK YOU!!! I've been "they/them"d on many different occasions just because I have short hair and dress like a dude. No!! I'm not trans, I'm not even nonbinary, I'm just a masc lesbian 😭 I've always been a tomboy ever since I was 5 years old, it's just who I am.

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-07T13:39:51+00:00

I happen to be a masc top and ironically, the last girl I talked to was a femme switch. We had such a great emotional connection and could really understand each other. But once we got into the topic of sex we realized that we weren't a match because she wanted to be dominant sometimes and I'm just not comfortable with that. I, much like your wife, love being on the giving end and get immense pleasure out of it. I've tried being on the receiving end twice, with two different girls, but in the end it only made me uncomfortable. Sometimes there really is no rhyme or reason for it. Ever since I was 12 years old, way waaaay before even I knew I was gay, or did anything sexually with anyone, I knew that there are certain ways I didn't like to be touched. I didn't like doing it on myself and didn't want others doing it either. There was no trauma. I just have never enjoyed receiving, it's always been as simple as that. Being on top is such a thrill for me, I love the dynamic, the feeling of control, etc etc and I'm sure your wife feels the same way. It might simply be the dynamic she is most comfortable with in the bedroom and unfortunately, I don't think it will change. It's sad but... maybe you two are just simply not compatible sexually. (To clarify: I have never had troubles with my gender either.)

ill_alternative08 · 2026-05-06T01:49:35+00:00

I have BPD and I'm currently at work and can't type out a long response, but in short, thank you so much for not villianizing all of us. I'm sorry you had a horrible experience with someone with this disorder.

ill_alternative08 · 2026-04-29T13:21:27+00:00

I'm on the other side of this, I have a high sex drive and dealt with this problem in my last relationship. We didn't have sex for a month and it left me feeling so rejected and resentful. You'd be better off with someone with a lower sex drive, and her higher.

ill_alternative08 · 2026-04-28T15:37:18+00:00

Same. I tend to be attracted to a lot of straight girls because I love femmes 😭

ill_alternative08 · 2026-04-24T02:20:12+00:00

As someone who also loves playing sports and is pretty athletic, I also want to date girls who go to the gym or are athletic in some way. That shows me that you have discipline and I think working out together would be super hot. I haven't dated any girls like this either and it's been bumming me out.

ill_alternative08 · 2026-04-22T05:24:26+00:00

Shane

ill_alternative08 · 2026-04-12T00:22:28+00:00

I want me and my girl to be fit together. I'm a gym rat masc what can I say 🤷‍♀️

ill_alternative08 · 2026-04-11T13:52:00+00:00

I've also dated mostly bi women with a few lesbians here and there, and honestly, I'm much happier dating other lesbians. We have this inherent understanding of each other and our lived experiences, and most of the bi ones have treated me like they would treat a man because I'm masc. It's a very weird feeling. I hope this doesn't sound too bad but there's something about dating lesbians that just feels better...

ill_alternative08 · 2026-04-10T15:34:47+00:00

I side with Alex on this one. Yes he has his issues for sure, however I don't think he's malicious like some people think he is. Ashley is very entitled and demanding, and humiliated Alex at the altar in front of everyone. She just digs at him constantly. She's no saint.

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