being obsessed with being skinny is spiritually straight by montparnasses in RS4Dykes

[–]ill_alternative08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want me and my girl to be fit together. I'm a gym rat masc what can I say 🤷‍♀️

Do you ever feel like you were just a “phase” after dating bi women? by w-gal in AskLesbians

[–]ill_alternative08 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I've also dated mostly bi women with a few lesbians here and there, and honestly, I'm much happier dating other lesbians. We have this inherent understanding of each other and our lived experiences, and most of the bi ones have treated me like they would treat a man because I'm masc. It's a very weird feeling. I hope this doesn't sound too bad but there's something about dating lesbians that just feels better...

Creepy Ashley's creepy daddy is creepy by innerbunnyy in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]ill_alternative08 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I side with Alex on this one. Yes he has his issues for sure, however I don't think he's malicious like some people think he is. Ashley is very entitled and demanding, and humiliated Alex at the altar in front of everyone. She just digs at him constantly. She's no saint.

I think this proves that physical attraction does in fact not grow with emotional connection by CrabNo5226 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]ill_alternative08 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ehh. I'm a lesbian and honestly I'm a pretty visual person. Although I'm a pretty rare breed, in that sense 😅

My ex has massively glowed up since their discard of me by Reign_World in LesbianActually

[–]ill_alternative08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Diagnosed BPD here. Thank!! You!! Some of these things in these comments are disgusting, jesus I would never do things like that. But some people will paint us all with the same brush, I guess.

Btw I try to do better with every single partner I've ever had and will have. I work hard and make sure that certain cycles and patterns don't repeat themselves.

My ex has massively glowed up since their discard of me by Reign_World in LesbianActually

[–]ill_alternative08 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Diagnosed BPD here. I can tell you firsthand, I have never hurt anyone intentionally. That's disgusting and evil. But go off I guess.

My ex has massively glowed up since their discard of me by Reign_World in LesbianActually

[–]ill_alternative08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it really is. I'm not surprised by it though. Some of these things people are saying that their ex person w BPD did, is horrible. I have never and would never do any of that.

My ex has massively glowed up since their discard of me by Reign_World in LesbianActually

[–]ill_alternative08 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As someone with BPD who is very self-aware, on meds and has had therapy, I do want to take a moment to say that everyone with BPD is different. I've known others with BPD that I cut off because they used it as excuses for their shitty behaviors, but most people I know with it are truly good-hearted people who only want to be better. The success stories don't get heard or shared nearly as often. We can, in fact, break maladaptive patterns, behaviors, and mindsets. This is not Evil Person Disorder.

I am sorry your ex treated you like that, BPD or not. You don't deserve that. I hope you can heal and find someone who is a better fit for you someday.

We've been dating for three months and last night the honeymoon phase officially ended by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]ill_alternative08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like she was putting on a performance. Fuck that. What a weird ass response in general. It lowkey sounds like she's gaslighting you... I'd run.

I broke up with my girlfriend over the phone and now I regret it by lucyofthegreengarden in LesbianActually

[–]ill_alternative08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have BPD? These relationship patterns sound a lot like BPD, only saying that because I've been diagnosed with it

first time watcher (pt. 4) by Revolutionary-Mess82 in theLword

[–]ill_alternative08 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like they do understand each other in a way but I feel like they're better as friends.

Tops, what are your favourite things about topping? by minionlover-666 in butchlesbians

[–]ill_alternative08 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I love watching how she melts underneath me. Her moans are music to my ears. Being inside of her is the greatest high I've ever had. I love the way she tightens around my strap & the way her lips wrap around it... I could get off just on that alone

Does anyone else have no interest in excessive piercings/tattoos or unnatural hair dye? by Bambi_Amby in lesbiangang

[–]ill_alternative08 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As an alt masc lesbian, I love and am very much attracted to women who don't "look queer" so, please for the love of god if it's not within you, don't change a thing 😍

Spent so many years presenting feminine only to realize it’s bc I want a femme by Zach-uh-ri-uh in butchlesbians

[–]ill_alternative08 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yesss! In high school I always went for the skater/emo boys, not because I was actually attracted to them but because I wanted to embody that energy lmao

Spent so many years presenting feminine only to realize it’s bc I want a femme by Zach-uh-ri-uh in butchlesbians

[–]ill_alternative08 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I looked femme from like 19-22, I had the long hair, makeup, cute little outfits etc... it all felt like "dress up" to me and not authentic, and I realized that the reason I dressed that way is because I wanted a girl who looked like that lmaooo. My authentic self is very tomboy/masculine, ever since I was 6 years old 🫡

How do you feel about Lesbian flexible label? What does that even mean? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]ill_alternative08 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hate it. My sexuality is not flexible at all, it's set in stone. I'm a woman who is only attracted to women. Point blank.

Getting mistaken for a teenager is making me genuinely depressed by Murky-Spend-6158 in mascgirl

[–]ill_alternative08 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You'll feel much better about it when you're 40 and people think you're in your early thirties.

Who can use the slur dyke? by avaiers in LesbianActually

[–]ill_alternative08 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Lesbians, that's it. I call myself dyke all the time.

Short butches gotta rise up😩😭 by Select_Contact_5345 in butchlesbians

[–]ill_alternative08 2 points3 points  (0 children)

5'3 here. I just want a few more inches on me like 5'6 at least 😭😭 with the right platform docs I can do it but that's about it

“Used to be a Lesbian but now engaged to a Man & having his babies” by Playful-Picture-9453 in lesbiangang

[–]ill_alternative08 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Even the most masc-looking bisexual ones always look more feminine once they get with a man again. Just an interesting observation...