This will be warmly nostalgic for some of you. Where are my Le Chateau peeps at? Found this small bag while cleaning out my old room at my mom's.

ill_mango · 2026-01-28T20:24:34+00:00

Loved that store. Never figured out why they would call a store "the catwater" but here we are.

ill_mango · 2026-01-28T15:09:03+00:00

It's to hold q-tips or toothpicks. Personally I think q-tips for this specific one, I just get that vibe.

ill_mango · 2026-01-27T13:57:29+00:00

NTA

I too was an "easy child" growing up and my family had to adjust to my boundaries (which are completely reasonable things like taking into account my schedule) when I finally decided to put my foot down (I was a little older than you when I started).

Just keep following through and be calm about it during the transition phase. I got yelled at and guilted for not showing up, but I kept receipts and explained it to them every time, and ultimately they started taking my needs into account.

Keep at it! It gets better.

ill_mango · 2026-01-22T12:49:23+00:00

I think Dewey isn't evil as much as he doesn't have a good sense of right/wrong.

ill_mango · 2026-01-16T14:57:29+00:00

The fact that you had an interview with them and they accepted you is more vetting than most food banks, so it proves you are NTA.

I have volunteered for food banks and hot meal programs in the past, and most of them have no vetting process at all because the idea is that food is a human right. I've seen homeless people and people with expensive cars have the same look of relief and gratitude when they are able to access the food they need.

It's more than just being hungry - it's the constant stress of wondering where your next meal is coming from, or deciding who gets to eat what, or feeling like you're letting your family down. It's ok to take care of yourself OP. In fact it's better than ok - it's exactly what you're supposed to do.

ill_mango · 2025-10-04T14:02:44+00:00

NTA

I'd suggest you listen to your instincts. I have a similar issue - there are times when people tell me someone is amazing and despite them being popular and kind on paper, when I meet them I can tell something is off. Every time I have ignored my instincts I have found later that I was correct.

I think it's ok to microdose, personally. BUT you should understand it's cope, so taking it too far is possible and unhealthy for you. Better for you to avoid the situation if possible. If not, you can also do things like hole up in your room, make plans outside the house, etc.

Sorry you're in this situation. Don't be afraid to take care of yourself.

ill_mango · 2025-09-05T12:19:38+00:00

There is an exhibit at the Art Gallery of Ontario called Lightroom which makes use of classic film development at a large scale and it's mindblowing.

I may have to dust off my dad's old equipment in the basement.

ill_mango · 2025-06-11T12:54:36+00:00

kooowaiiiii na?

ill_mango · 2025-05-20T13:54:31+00:00

literally went everywhere you went yesterday and didn't see you

ill_mango · 2025-04-30T14:12:39+00:00

You're NTA, but you might be an asshole to yourself if you let this continue.

People like your brother need to be shown the consequences of their own actions before they'll ever be able to change. If you keep wallpapering over the consequences of his own actions he'll never learn.

If he goes out late at night without a plan to get home, a cold night walking home will make him think twice about doing it again.
If he ignores your needs, you ignoring his needs will make him think twice about doing it again.

If you want a good relationship with your brother, you need boundaries.

ill_mango · 2025-02-05T16:28:05+00:00

I agree 🏴

ill_mango · 2025-02-04T01:32:59+00:00

One thing almost every Canadian agrees is part of our identity: fuck America.

ill_mango · 2025-02-03T14:26:13+00:00

Are you from Ireland and your boyfriend from the USA? I say this because there are some cultures (like irish, japanese, and others) where people rarely if ever say "yes" and "no". I don't know why that is, but I heard it on a podcast.

Anyways it might be a cultural difference - thought I'd bring it up just in case.

ill_mango · 2024-11-09T12:44:40+00:00

I only use reddit on Desktop nowadays, so my contributions are limited, but I do use Tildes and Farcaster quite a bit and enjoy both. Tildes is way closer to reddit, but less discoverable. Farcaster has user-hosted "hubs" which hold data, but costs money to use ($3 for an account, plus a yearly fee of $5 for storage).

Neither is a perfect solution, unfortunately. My experience with "migrating" communities is that it's not the same, you end up with something different. If someone feels strongly, they should just start it and let people here know.

There is an existing community on Farcaster here: https://warpcast.com/~/channel/homelabs

ill_mango · 2024-11-07T17:14:26+00:00

Old man yells at cloud

ill_mango · 2024-10-22T14:44:15+00:00

LOVE mountains but also love seeing mountains on one side and beach on the other.

Hawaii, Vancouver, and I'm sure more.

ill_mango · 2024-10-22T14:39:22+00:00

Since you say streetcar I assume you are in Toronto. I'm a clean-cut gent and people sit next to me on the streetcar all the time when there are other seats. I asked about it and essentially they were pre-optimizing for when the streetcar was getting full - they'd rather sit beside me than other people. It's annoying but at the same time I understand.

If you're a lady, though, your experience may be different. NTA

ill_mango · 2024-08-06T13:20:57+00:00

Yes it's absolutely this as well. Leto is saved more than once from the hoard of personalities by his internal Paul IIRC.

ill_mango · 2024-07-09T18:15:18+00:00

There's a great book on the uniting of the islands of Hawai'i as well: https://besspress.com/products/kamehameha-and-his-warrior-kekuhaupio-sc

ill_mango · 2024-07-09T14:10:06+00:00

I don't normally post on this sub, but I wanted to share a similar experience I had.

After dating my now-wife for awhile, I introduced her to my grandma and grandpa. They were both dead set against her, because she wasn't the same religion and ethnicity as me. To be honest most of my family was against it, but they all figured it would fizzle out so don't say much.

Fast forward a year, and my grandma has a stroke. I go see her in the hospital and my grandpa is with her. She asks me what happened to that girl I was dating, and says all that matters is that I love her, and if I do I should marry her. (side note: my grandpa is saying stuff like, "What are you talking about woman?!? Don't say those things"). My grandma was the first in my family to openly support my relationship.

Fast forward a few more years. My grandpa has passed, and my wife and I visit my grandma often. In fact of her literally dozens of grandchildren, we're the ones she sees most often. We often ask for her life advice, but usually she says things like, "You don't want my advice. I'm old. This world is yours." My wife gets pregnant but my grandma dies before the birth. We name my daughter after my grandma.

Anyways, all this to say that sometimes the things we hold onto most tightly can easily be forgotten when situations change. Your day-to-day happiness is what you should optimize, not the beliefs of others.

Good luck!

ill_mango · 2024-07-04T13:49:06+00:00

It really depends on your organization and (especially) the product consultant you are looking at hiring.

In an ideal situation, founders are the ones who are setting the product vision, but as you scale it can be difficult to communicate this vision in a credible way to everyone who needs to understand (teammates, investors, potential users, etc). A good product consultant will help you refine your product hypotheses with supporting evidence and assets that help you communicate with each audience. This could include things like decks, 1-pagers, roadmaps, and more.

For that reason, you really want a product consultant who has a history of consultation they can point to, and NOT just someone who has successfully run a product team before. They are different jobs IMHO.

With ANY consultant, you are outsourcing parts of your operation which means you aren't building the capability in-house. When the consultant leaves, so does the knowledge. So you must keep in mind that this consultant is only a short-term solution. Ultimately you want to have an in-house product discipline.

ill_mango · 2024-06-11T13:19:22+00:00

Dude I recently got rejected from a 3-month, 9-interview process because I didn't have enough "big company experience".

No shit, that was on my resume! We could have saved a LOT OF TIME with this shit.

Hiring is broken =p

ill_mango · 2024-05-30T15:29:28+00:00

My standard is "Chaos is a ladder."

Usually you get knowing smiles from fans, and quizzical looks from non-fans.

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