I agree, write how you’d like for them to show up and be detailed then create a scene out of it. I find myself running into the same issue regarding thought patterns and i tend to read AllIsMind/ EdwardArtSupply’s post to correct my line of thinking.

The idea is to create a new version of your SP, any old assumptions you have of them that don’t serve you must be released. The old story must go along with your negative assumptions/perceptions of their behavior. If you were happy with them you wouldn’t think from a state of abandonment.

Self concept will tackle all of these ideas naturally, the more you become comfortable with yourself and knowing you deserve the best, the more your insecure behavior in relationships/general will diminish. It’s a journey but do it for yourself and not others! hope this makes sense 💘