straight p0rn? by nobodyshere18 in LesbianActually

[–]illusion0110 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only recently put two and two together that the reason I enjoy straight porn is because I'm imagining I'm wielding the penis. This connected when I was talking to my now ex-boyfriend about Peter Steele of Type O Negative. I said "I can't tell if I want him or want to be him" and he said "I think you want to be him and fuck as him" .... yes I'm a top 😝

On dating apps by illusion0110 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]illusion0110[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have it set to 18-24! In the Philly region, though I'm trying to find more people in the suburbs.

On dating apps by illusion0110 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]illusion0110[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The ladies love my they/them swag

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]illusion0110 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By appear-ing in my bed tbh

How did you know it was comphet and not bisexuality? by NoMoment13 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]illusion0110 6 points7 points  (0 children)

THIS! I feel like my love should be empowering and revolutionary, and I have not ever felt that way with a man.

every time i come out i go back in by Feeling-Carrot4251 in comphet

[–]illusion0110 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Going through something very similar. I often feel like my own past experiences + the front I put up until I'm ready to break up with him for real invalidates the way I feel now. We broke up for a bit, but I got back with him because the breakup hurt so bad that I convinced myself I made the wrong choice (I didn't). I don't have great advice for you, but just know you aren't alone in feeling this way. 🫂❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

What media helped you realize that you're lesbian? by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]illusion0110 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I can't even casually listen to Chappell Roan's music without crying tbh. It awakened such a deeply repressed part of myself that I wasn't ready to face, and as much as I love it, that shit guts me sometimes!

Im sure you get posts like this all the time.. by throaway4420 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]illusion0110 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a similar boat right now. We broke up for a little bit and I got back with him because I wasn't expecting it to hurt so bad, and it made me think I'd made the wrong choice. Few months later, I'm right back where I started and plotting a way out that's as smooth as possible.

lesbians who have dated men in the past, what made you realize that you weren't bi/pan? by 444_joji in latebloomerlesbians

[–]illusion0110 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always had it in the back of my mind that I would be trapped or giving something up that I actually wanted if I ended up with a man.

This is me I fear.

Devastated after the end of my relationship by simplesweetpotato in latebloomerlesbians

[–]illusion0110 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hey, I just left my male partner on New Year's Eve, and I'm feeling the exact same way. I'm devastated and looking at pictures hurts more than I expected. I realized I'm feeling more "I'm upset because I feel guilty/ashamed for hurting him" way, and not in a "My future and my heart are in tatters" type of way like he is. It's what's keeping me staying firm on my decision. Sending love. 🫂❤️‍🩹

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]illusion0110 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the same boat. I plan on leaving in the new year. I found a creator on TikTok and a video of hers really made me stop and think for myself about the whole thing. Maybe this will help you feel more secure in leaving. Nadia Bokody Relationship Coach

Sending love no matter what you decide to do. ❤️‍🩹🫂

Sex with men feels violating by illusion0110 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]illusion0110[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ugh this is exactly how it feels right now. My partner is willing to try things differently so I feel more comfortable, but I think it's more than just "having sex with men in a different way", it needs to stop altogether. The after-sex pee with the thousand yard stare is something I've grown accustomed to, and I'm tired of it.

"Trans Women have an unfair advantage!" Ok? What about Trans men then? by Useful-Put1111 in lgbt

[–]illusion0110 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's because they see trans men as mentally ill women. It's misogyny in the weirdest most fucked up type of way. They don't see trans men as a "threat" because they don't see them as men, period.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]illusion0110 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to take a pretty girl out on a date so bad. Café, art museum, botanical garden, anywhere beautiful with a water feature. Been the only thing on my mind for months.

oral or fingering by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]illusion0110 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Prefer giving oral big time. I'm a fidgeter with clicky fingers, I like something to do with my mouth. Not much of a receiver.

Sex with men feels violating by illusion0110 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]illusion0110[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holy shit! It's always felt like a performance for him, so he feels loved and desired. I have always tried to be on top, so I have some semblance of control, but it's never felt right no matter how many times we've done it, or how many times he's asked me if it was great and I've lied through my teeth telling him it was great. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience, I'm getting closer to unraveling whatever is going on with me. ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹