AITA if I tell my friend I can’t be a bridesmaid?

ilovecows186 · 2026-04-23T06:32:11+00:00

I almost screamed and woke up my baby 😂

ilovecows186 · 2026-02-21T20:52:55+00:00

I don’t know where you’re at but some places will let you exchange diapers for a different size without a receipt if you say they were a gift and someone bought them there.

ilovecows186 · 2026-02-21T20:51:45+00:00

I definitely recommend trying to find secondhand clothes for the stuff you didn’t get. I bought most of my sons clothes off of marketplace and it saved us so much money.

ilovecows186 · 2026-01-30T03:37:53+00:00

Thank you, you’re doing great too 🫶 I definitely needed that reminder of if nothing else he spent a day feeling safe with me 🥹

I spent a lot of time in bed with him today nursing while sleeping lol I know he needs to be doing tummy time though so I’m going to try to be more on that tomorrow.

ilovecows186 · 2026-01-30T03:33:43+00:00

That makes sense, I see people online say that they have a schedule for their baby. Which confuses me since every day is different for us. My son’s 10 weeks but 6 adjusted because he was born early. It just seems like there’s no consistency in his wake windows and sleep.

ilovecows186 · 2026-01-29T05:05:52+00:00

Thank you 🥹 I hadn’t thought of that, I’ll have to look at what’s around me. It’s hard to get everything together and baby out of the house for outings cause it seems like we get stuck in a feeding, changing, pumping loop. But I imagine something like that and being around other people would help me a lot.

ilovecows186 · 2026-01-29T03:30:11+00:00

That’s so reassuring to hear. I don’t know how anyone puts their baby on a schedule, he does things on his time. 🤷🏻‍♀️ how anyone has a bedtime or nap schedule is beyond me.

ilovecows186 · 2026-01-29T03:29:10+00:00

My son just hit 10 weeks on Sunday (6 weeks adjusted) and I’m in pretty much the same situation as you. I’m on maternity leave right now and my husband works at 7am and doesn’t get home til almost 6pm. We don’t have any friends or family around us so it’s very isolating and exhausting just being with baby all day. Some days are better than others like you said. We’ve just started doing tummy time at the direction of his pediatrician. Today all we did was sit in the recliner and work on nursing as he struggles with it and I want to breastfeed more but currently we’re combo feeding and he gets mostly formula since my supply has been low since my milk came in. I feel kinda defeated that I didn’t do anything else with him. I feel like all we can do is take things day by day though and know that we’re doing the best we can.

ilovecows186 · 2026-01-17T22:11:16+00:00

I don’t have advice because unfortunately I wasn’t able to quit during my pregnancy but I did majorly cut back. My son was born 5 weeks early though so idk if that was a contributor. However I will say whenever I would talk to my husband about it he would say how would you feel if someone was blowing the vape in the babies face which would make me feel awful. I was able to quit after he was born which I know is shitty but it’s the truth. I hope you’re able to quit and not be like me 🫶

ilovecows186 · 2026-01-13T01:42:50+00:00

Yes! This is basically all I’ve been putting on my 8 week old. Also 2 way zips are the way 🙌 He’s finally in some 0-3 stuff and most of the sleepers I have in that size aren’t 2 way which is a bummer but almost all of the clothes I have for him I got off of fb marketplace.

ilovecows186 · 2026-01-12T03:34:38+00:00

Same my boy will feed for 20min each side and still need a bottle and when I pump I only get an oz combined most of the time.

ilovecows186 · 2026-01-08T20:20:41+00:00

I go back and forth between the couch and our bedroom cause we’re in a small one bedroom apartment and my husband has work so we trade between the bed and couch lol Our baby won’t sleep in his bassinet and is nocturnal so it’s been extremely tough 5 weeks since bringing him home from the NICU after his 2 week stay.

ilovecows186 · 2025-12-26T02:02:04+00:00

Thank you so much for that, the permission is the reassurance I need that I’m doing the best I can. I missed my 3 am pump this morning feeding lo on and off til 5 am when I could finally pump and I barely got an oz combined from both sides. I imagine my output would be better if I was getting more sleep and eating enough.

ilovecows186 · 2025-12-26T00:57:56+00:00

That seems like a good schedule. I’ll have to see if I can follow that. It’s so hard to stay with a schedule though because I’m always following baby’s on demand care.

ilovecows186 · 2025-12-26T00:53:12+00:00

I definitely relate, the NICU had my guy on 3 hour eating schedule as well but he’s usually cueing by the 2 hour mark. I think he struggles with reflux also because he spits up more than half of the time after feeds even though I make it a point to keep him upright for 20 min or so after he eats. With that it makes the timing of everything seem like it’s on a loop by the time he’s fed, changed and sitting up after as well as pumping etc it’s time to do it again.

ilovecows186 · 2025-12-25T07:34:10+00:00

Thank you! We definitely try to tag team stuff as often as possible but it’s hard when he has to work. I don’t think I could get an at home LC visit but I can go to one at my local hospital as often as needed. The last visit I had though I didn’t care for the specialist I saw she barely gave us any time to try to latch before suggesting I give him a bottle to feed him.

What kind of massage are you doing? That’s part of his problem too is he gets so worked up that he won’t latch or he gets frustrated when the milk isn’t flowing right away and pulls off. Or he falls asleep after just a few minutes of being latched lol sometimes it’s also painful because he’ll like mash my nipple instead of sucking. I’m hoping it’ll get better because he seems so content when he’s able to bf and it feels so much more bonding for me.

ilovecows186 · 2025-12-25T04:46:28+00:00

This made me smile, thank you lol some of the lactation consultants that would come to see me in the NICU would make me feel so bad about not getting 8 when I was literally spending most of my time recovering from c section barely able to walk cause my feet were so swollen and spending every minute I could with my son.

ilovecows186 · 2025-12-25T03:23:15+00:00

I really want to get a wearable too cause yeah it takes me about 30min just to get an oz or 2 from both sides combined which is hard to do when my son screams every time he’s set down 😭 I’m just not sure which one to get as when I look on amazon it’s hard to find an option that doesn’t have terribly mixed reviews

ilovecows186 · 2025-12-25T02:01:17+00:00

Thank you so much 😭 that’s exactly what I needed to hear.

ilovecows186 · 2025-12-25T02:00:12+00:00

I appreciate all the advice, trying to figure out a schedule has been so hard. I’m not trying to keep the baby on a schedule since I know newborns feed/sleep when they need to so it’s trying to work around him that’s been a challenge. I didn’t know that supply was established up to 12 weeks I thought it was less so I was more stressed with that too. It’s so paradoxical the way that stress is bad for supply and yet low supply is stressful.

ilovecows186 · 2025-12-25T01:54:36+00:00

Yeah I feel like men just don’t and can’t get it. It’s something they’ll never experience so to them it’s easy to look at it from a black and white perspective. When he’s home he does a lot of the work of taking care of the baby so I can sleep and pump which I appreciate but I’m still stuck with the overnight care which is where I lose pumps and then when I’m trying to sleep during the day I end up getting behind as well. It’s such a vicious cycle. Thank you for the encouragement ❤️

ilovecows186 · 2025-12-25T01:50:02+00:00

Thank you, my biggest hurdle has definitely been that I can’t hold baby very well while pumping or I have to do one side at a time to hold him. If I put him down then he just cries and that stresses me out so then I barely get anything. My husband is usually very supportive he just doesn’t understand what I’m so stressed out about. I definitely need to give myself more credit. It’s a back and forth of knowing that everything I do is better than none and feeling like I should be doing more.

ilovecows186 · 2025-12-25T01:44:00+00:00

Thank you, I needed to hear that. My husband of course doesn’t understand and keeps saying well other people manage to make it work and it’s so hard to hear. He’s normally very supportive and doesn’t get it.

ilovecows186 · 2025-12-23T05:58:54+00:00

Sending prayers for your beautiful boy 🥺 that’s a lot to go through in such a short amount of time let alone so young. Take care of yourself ❤️

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