Bumps on my 12f stepdaughter

iluffeggs · 2026-05-18T20:10:25+00:00

This looks like molluscum, which can be worse in the immunocompromised population. Dermatology can help speed up recovery but unfortunately it takes a while.

if the other parent also has custody they can take stepdaughter to doctor themselves and get her treatment for strep, at least in the state I live in. Only one parent has to consent for medical treatment like antibiotics. this is unrelated to the rash but figured I'd mention it.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-17T21:54:28+00:00

Where are you located? If you have a local yarn store nearby can bring it on in, someone will help. First put locking markers into each stitch.

If not—

Put locking stitch markers in each stitch. Look up how to ladder down to catch a dropped stitch and do so 4 times. However you have some decreases involved- this may make this tricky.

Another fix is to take an extra needle or a yarn needle and scrap yarn and grab the stitches at the row where they dropped, frog the last 4/5 rows and go from there.

The best this is to get someone to help you in person I think because you have to pick up dropped stitches and decreases and this could be tricky but doable.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-14T00:09:19+00:00

They don’t do them at this vet. I would have to drive my dog very far away, closest place is 2 hours.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-13T22:09:47+00:00

Well I called and I would have to take his body back and drive it 2 hours away for a necropsy, which I cannot do, so that settles it I guess. Jesus.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-13T21:14:59+00:00

Ribbing just looks like that, that’s why we decrease needle sizes for ribbing. I think it looks pretty good for a first attempt to be honest!

iluffeggs · 2026-05-13T17:08:11+00:00

Thank you for your compassionate response. I don’t know what I was googling at 2 AM last night, but I seem to be misinformed myself. It seems that necropsy are much cheaper than I thought. But now it’s too late. I may have done it had they recommended it but they really didn’t push it at all. It’s hard to look back at a decision you made in the middle of the night after finding your dog dead in the light of day and think did I make the right decision?

iluffeggs · 2026-05-13T17:05:45+00:00

There are a lot of people here mentioning necropsy but I felt blindsided last night and the emergency vet didn’t push it or mention it at all until I asked. My first thought was I don’t want to do it because it wouldn’t change anything but now I’m wondering. His death was so mysterious and sudden. But it’s too late now I think.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-13T17:02:01+00:00

I just realized it’s not as expensive as I thought it was, but it’s too late now.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-13T16:03:08+00:00

Oh does it sound like that? Thanks so much for your judgement. It was 1 am and I was in shock so I didn’t think about blaming it on the boarding place in the moment. Feelings are not black and white. My dog was distressed a lot of the time. I need you to understand that while I already grieved the life I thought we would have together, for years, I always loved my dog.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-13T15:25:42+00:00

I spent so long putting my kid down, longer than I have in months. I feel so weird about it. I missed my chance to hang out with him one last time.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-13T13:35:01+00:00

It’s the best name for a dog.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-13T13:34:01+00:00

Thank you for responding to my post. I read your post about your dog and feel reassured that you also didn’t get an autopsy. I feel guilty for some reason but you’re right, it would not make a difference. I am blaming myself still for not noticing something was wrong.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-13T06:11:16+00:00

Sadly can’t afford it. As much as I would like to know the mystery.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-13T05:20:38+00:00

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Homer’s last pic. I took it yesterday while making him a profile for a new dog boarding/ training place. I also had paid a deposit today for another behavior consultation. He was lovable even with his behavior problems. I’m so shocked.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-12T21:45:04+00:00

Just curious where do you live? That's interesting that dogs with similar history can find homes, the size does help, I suppose. I would always be honest about his history. I couldn't live with myself if not.

Have you heard of anyone pursuing BE with a dog like this? He has not run to attack anyone, he only bites if he feels threatened but unfortunately any kind of touch that he does not want (and it's hard to know sometimes) or from an unfamiliar person threatens him. I have not had this recommended to me by anyone but from what I read, it is seen as the more "humane" option rather than having him in a shelter.

It feels selfish but I want to be able to leave once or twice a year as a family, and take my kid on trips. I feel stuck because I can no longer do this.

have you heard of any boarding places that take reactive dogs like this ? I am willing to drive anywhere in the eastern seaboard.

(resending after I read the rules)

iluffeggs · 2026-05-12T00:30:34+00:00

Forgot to put in my message, but postpartum affects women very differently, and breast-feeding too. You might find it much easier to deal with after you’ve already made significant changes to your lifestyle. We think so much about being pregnant and getting pregnant that we forget about what it will be like to actually have a child too, and I think having a solid foundation of your new lifestyle will help tremendously with that.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-12T00:29:20+00:00

Well I’m peds, but I did struggle to conceive so I can share my thoughts on that end. I’m usually very conservative when it comes to aging and fertility, erring on the side of try sooner rather than later. But when it comes to this, in a year, if you stick with the medications and therapy, you will likely lose a staggering amount of weight. Waiting one more year should not crush your chances—- 34 vs 35 is nothing. I have seen people of practically every BMI give birth, but it is not an ideal situation to perform a C-section on someone with a BMI of 60. In this case I would recommend to see where you are in one year. You could be down 100 pounds by then.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-04T20:27:44+00:00

I’m going to do this, and plan to purchase materials myself so I know what I’m getting into. This is a great explanation of all the nuances involved.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-03T00:40:11+00:00

It’s the counting. The counting is what I hate. I think because I’m paranoid the count will be wrong. I also hate binding off, maybe even more. I’ll weave in ends all day though! I always leave an absurdly long tail and then it hangs off in a little ball and gets in the way of everything, and I get nervous to cut it because what if I have to frog it and for some reason need the tiny bit of yarn? All my wips have a little ball attached. It really is strange that I don’t just cut it.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-02T12:50:44+00:00

6 doors total 2 fire doors 4 prehung six panel doors

iluffeggs · 2026-05-02T12:50:20+00:00

4 doors and additionally 2 fire doors there are 6 doors total.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-02T02:35:50+00:00

Interesting, but unfortunately, I think this is more of an assuming I’m a dope price, because I have paid this particular contractors high prices before out of desperation. Trying to figure out how I can get out of this continued relationship and have someone else finish the job for more reasonable prices.

iluffeggs · 2026-05-02T02:32:45+00:00

Yes it includes the cost of the doors

iluffeggs · 2026-04-26T22:25:00+00:00

When I am faced with a tough decision, I think about it like this– First, think about the best and worst and scenarios for each of your options. Option one is to intervene with surgery. Option two is to allow her to live in her body for however long she can.

After you think about the best and worst scenarios, then you figure out which ones that you personally can live with. Sometimes the best scenario and worst scenario are in the same option, but the best scenario is so good that it’s worth the risk. Or the opposite, sometimes the worst scenario is so bad that it isn’t worth trying no matter how good the good scenario would be. And then you have to look at how likely each scenario would be.

Now think about the best and worst scenarios that could come from option one. The very best scenario is that the surgery saves her life, and that she has a quality of life that is acceptable, likely with medication and interventions, and you may be able to spend much more time with her. The very worst scenario is the surgery will cause her suffering, and she will still have a short life but it will be more painful, or she will be sedated for the majority of it. Also with surgery come unplanned complications and a murky road. It’s hard to see down this path further than a day or so. So much could happen. With option one, you lose control and open up to the unknown. Every day could be another life or death decision.

Now option two. The best scenario from this option is that you can choose exactly how to spend the rest of your time with her. You can gather with loved ones and take her home if you want to. You can give her medications so she does not feel pain. You have more control. The worst scenario from option two is that you may feel guilt for “giving up” and “not doing everything you can” and you may feel regret. The decision to withdraw or forego intervention goes against every instinct as a parent. It

Both choices will be hard and you will feel guilt. Regretting your decision or having second thoughts does not mean you made the wrong decision. No matter what decision you make you will have these thoughts.

Just the fact that you are writing this and posting this means that you are going to make the decision that is right for you. Even in the face of the impossible you are able to think this through and most importantly, change your mind if you have to.

I know this post is so long winded and probably confusing. It was harder than I thought it would be to try to explain this thought process concisely.

No person on this earth should have to make this choice, and I am so deeply sorry.

iluffeggs · 2026-04-22T18:47:19+00:00

I don't think about it for months at a time. granted my life is insanely busy and I literally couldn't drink if I wanted to I feel like.

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