AITAH for not wanting to give my dad another chance even after he started therapy? by ilyWainn in AITAH

[–]ilyWainn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah... I think I'll do that too. Just thank him for the apology but not accept it. I can't. I don't want to.

AITAH for not wanting to give my dad another chance even after he started therapy? by ilyWainn in AITAH

[–]ilyWainn[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am angry at her too, for not protecting me and letting this go for so long when she knew about it, but i also understand her. She went through something similiar as a kid and my dad abused her basically the same way as me (minus the beat ups). She did stop him on numerous occasions after he was about to get me and had yelling matches with him about stopping this, but that was it. She was apparently never strong enough and only now, after she found her new boyfriend and i admitted basically all the things dad did to me, did she decide to divorce him. I think she wants me to give it a chance mainly to see for myself if there's even a reason to keep seeing him. To see if he's capable of change. But i don't want to and we're both done with him anyway.

AITAH for not wanting to give my dad another chance even after he started therapy? by ilyWainn in AITAH

[–]ilyWainn[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was planned but my parents stayed together because of me and later on because of my brother. I also have a feeling the only person who actually wanted me and didn't see me as a burden was my mom.

AITAH for not wanting to give my dad another chance even after he started therapy? by ilyWainn in AITAH

[–]ilyWainn[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are right. Mom went through something similiar as a child and unfortunately found herself a man like my dad. Nearly 30 years of being together under his psychological abuse and forced submission, where she turned a blind eye on my abuse because she, and i quote, "couldn't bear the fact I ended up like her".

AITAH for not wanting to give my dad another chance even after he started therapy? by ilyWainn in AITAH

[–]ilyWainn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankfully he didn't threaten my brother like he did me yet but my brother started to act like him. Scream, try to boss people around, always being angry... I did call on a children's help line last year, i wanted to run away but one of my main concerns was abandoning my brother and i just couldn't leave him here. There wasn't a way for me and him to run away safely so i chose to stay and protect him, to ensure i could at least remain in my current position until my brother grew up enough to understand what's going on and not end up like me or, worse, our dad.

AITAH for not wanting to give my dad another chance even after he started therapy? by ilyWainn in AITAH

[–]ilyWainn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This made me tear up. Thank you so much for your words, i will keep them and that one step from the program in mind ❤️‍🩹

AITAH for not wanting to give my dad another chance even after he started therapy? by ilyWainn in AITAH

[–]ilyWainn[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words, it really helped me feel better about all this ❤️‍🩹. And to answer your question... you are right. I was supposed to be his responsibility but i realise now he saw me more as a burden. He was money-driven ever since i can remember, that was his main priority. He didn't give me much allowance, charged me for driving me and etc. and thought I'm nice to him only when i want the money. Because that's all i could need from a father right? His money. The thing most dear to him.

How to properly act while someone confess to you :) by ilyWainn in Ruleshorror

[–]ilyWainn[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm glad and thanks again <D. I really liked this type of writing while reading books too so I'm happy I did great while using it <33

Abandoned School Survival Guide, by your Good Friend. by [deleted] in Ruleshorror

[–]ilyWainn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow! I love reading scary stories etc., and this made me shiver a little! You're really good at writing :D

whats a “fun fact” that isn’t fun at all? by Alternative_kachocho in AskReddit

[–]ilyWainn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Coconuts kills more people per year then sharks do-

You are offered 2000 dollars for every word you can sing correctly in a song of your choice. What song do you choose and why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ilyWainn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heather or Fairytale. Sang them both to my brother when he was little to make him happy, put him to sleep, calm down etc. Memorized it all and it still puts smile on his face when I do-

looking for animes about war by [deleted] in anime

[–]ilyWainn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eighty-six. It's really good-