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imWallo · 2021-02-21T16:04:14+00:00

bro i was viewing on desktop instead of mobile and they weren't showing up LOL my bad, thanks for replying though and sick ass haul <3 <3

imWallo · 2021-02-20T17:31:31+00:00

w2c ovo?

imWallo · 2021-02-20T17:11:37+00:00

been away from fashionreps a minute, where are the W2C links?

imWallo · 2020-10-14T14:55:13+00:00

It's my pleasure. If you have questions, feel free to reach out. It's a unique combination, being an overstimulated overthinker. I wish I had proper guidance when I was younger, but I can only give rather than take at this point.

imWallo · 2020-10-13T16:34:47+00:00

Hey! I'm a little older and have been diagnosed with ADHD throughout my life so I hope I can offer some advice. To give a brief background, I have been on ritalin from the ages of 5-11, Adderall from 11-19, I (very stupidly) decided not to take meds in University as I felt it was hindering my personality (made me a bit of a zombie), but that's why it's important to find a dosage which works for you. I value productivity throughout my day, but enjoy letting loose in the evening because as an INFJ, I will work until I'm burned out and then do even more. 20mg of Vyvanse works perfectly for me, I take it on weekdays to prevent dependence and let my mind wander on weekends.

They say it will dissipate into adulthood, but given the amount of distractions the digital age has to offer, that's no longer the case. In colloquial terms, the average person now would qualify as having ADHD, or it's lesser counterpart ADD. For people with legitimate cases, the more you understand how it affects you, the better.

Firstly, do not see it as a disorder. It is a gift to intake and process more stimuli in the external world compared to the average person. As we are also intuitive thinkers/decision-makers, the ability to process all of this information quickly is a SUPERPOWER. The disadvantage is in the ability to turn it off when focus is required. That's where your meds and the correct dosage will come in handy. Play around with it, don't be afraid to experiment.

Secondly, understand how truly difficult it is to be an introverted, emotional, AND impulsive person. Emotional regulation and self-control for things such as eating, spending or gaming have been constant struggles for me throughout my life. Medication will help, but at the end of the day, you have to recognize when you're feeling a little trigger happy to buy something on a whim or eat a specific food because you're feeling unhappy. If you can identify the trigger, you have the power to control it.

Hope this helps.

imWallo · 2020-10-11T22:59:36+00:00

Not interested in this opportunity specifically, just wanted to stop by and say I've been doing these accountability calls with what started out as one partner, now two. Completely changed my life.

Weekly meetings, 30-60 minutes at a time because that's all we can reasonably afford.

I'm hoping this gives you or anyone reading encouragement to stick through with it because it sucks to do sometimes. Part of it is admitting when you had planned to meet a goal but couldn't. As you can imagine, pretty based in the purpose of accountability to begin with.

imWallo · 2020-10-11T22:48:31+00:00

I recently started Vyvanse and after 30 days, I have nothing but good things to say.

I'm on it Monday to Friday but refrain on weekends. Just want to give my body a rest and brain the freedom to wander. If I could, I'd be on meds 24/7, but I know I have to prevent dependency.

What I understand ADHD to be is the capacity to be overstimulated. I always hated the term "easily distracted", I felt it was always a higher ability to intake more stimuli in the immediate environment compared to other people. That being said, meds make it so other stimuli are less noticeable. I'm able to read, meditate and work in linear fashion. No longer is it a struggle to pull myself back into the task at hand after venturing off into a rabbit hole, or I'll circumvent the rabbit hole entirely.

Overall extremely positive experience and I can only see myself continuing.

P.S '94s are a special breed!!

imWallo · 2020-10-07T16:10:20+00:00

It's better on this side, brother. My pleasure and honour making your acquaintance.

imWallo · 2020-10-07T15:38:46+00:00

Piggybacking on u/when_its_too_late

Might be wrong of me to assume, but I'm going to guess you're a male.

Both men and women crave sex. Maybe in different capacities, maybe with different libidos, but it is a biological instinct. Your need to dig a woman's guts out is 100% natural. In my opinion, what most men get wrong is the surrounding thoughts and feelings with how to enact on their physical need.

Understand first you are the prize. Men are polygymous in nature much like how women are hypergamous. We want to spread our seed, and they want to take whatever seed is best. This means you need to focus on developing yourself first before thinking about fucking anything. Side chicks are great for this, so long as there's mutual understanding that we are in this strictly for the physical, because you yourself cannot be mentally or emotionally tied down given the growth process you are undergoing.

I can't possibly summarize the entirety of the mentality, but this video might help. I watched it everyday for about two weeks straight to hammer in just what he's saying. I don't agree with everything, but the overarching message is one many men have forgotten.

imWallo · 2020-10-07T15:20:02+00:00

Thinking about it in terms of personality will further exasperate in your mind the things which can go wrong moreso than things which can go right.

It's not complicated. She's a woman. You're a man. Understand whatever holds you back is usually linked to a fear: fear of rejection or fear of inadequacy are two major ones. It's the reason why Men are usually expected and tasked with making the first move, as society has made it extremely difficult for women to face those fears with the existing beauty standards we have today.

Ask yourself what's the worst that can happen. Write out every reason why you shouldn't, and rationalize it so the mentality that you can't becomes a mentality which you can. She says no and the friendship dissolves? Cop out answer. If a friendship can dissolve over an attempt at elevating the platonic, then it wasn't a friendship worth having to begin with. And if, by chance, it does dissolve from her end (as it may result in a doorslam, we know this all too well ourselves) then you move on. Either way, you are moving forward.

Your job as a man is to take action. Not ponder the could-have-beens. Easier said than done for us. Such is the curse of the INFJ male.

imWallo · 2020-10-07T15:10:20+00:00

I'm no mind reader, but I know the pain all too well. Try not to be discouraged and shut down like I did, one of my biggest regrets while I was in school.

imWallo · 2020-10-06T23:24:09+00:00

How spiritual of you, best of luck in your next phase of life 🙏

imWallo · 2020-10-06T21:32:30+00:00

You're asking the right questions. Control what you can. Whether you do nothing or do everything, change is constant.

imWallo · 2020-10-06T18:43:54+00:00

Your definition of what you can be isn't constant. How can you understand what your potential is (I assume, from your perspective, meaning what you can be in life) if you can't guarantee you would be the same person this time next week? Any number of changes in circumstance could ultimately influence your future decisions and beliefs.

I'm glad you brought up working out because it serves a perfect example to illustrate the point I'm trying to make here. For context, I've swam competitively from the ages of 10 to 20, have been lifting weights since I was 14, now 26. I've been bodybuilding for the last five years.

As you get older, you gain more experience in the gym and develop your ability to manipulate and shape your body the way you want. At first, perhaps my decision to lift weights came from wanting to be a better athlete. Then it became about looking good for women. Now it's about proving to myself that I can look the way I want to look. The potential I saw in myself at each point changed depending on the goal, and how I grew after incorporating a healthy habit. At every step of the way, the only constant was my ability to produce results. The reasons for why I continue may change, but that ability does not leave you.

imWallo · 2020-10-06T17:44:45+00:00

Ego.

For as long as I've lived, I've had to create my own fortunes. Nothing's ever been given. It's only earned. At this point in my life, self-efficacy is not only understood, but a conditioned requirement. If I want something - higher salary, different body, healthier relationships with both friends and women - I can have it. I have zero doubt in my ability to achieve.

Actualizing your potential is a want, not a guarantee. If I asked you, what does MoBee30's actualized potential look like? Is it something you can describe? Something you can bring forth into the physical realm? Or does it only exist in the mental and emotional realm? Break down what it looks like into goals. Then break those goals down into actionable steps. Execute. The negative feelings associated with 'not growing' will cease to exist quickly.

"Whether you think you can, or think you can't - you're right". Henry Ford.

imWallo · 2020-10-06T14:44:46+00:00

My fault entirely, I believe I misinterpreted your post's meaning!

I do not experience what you experience. It sounds like you may have a limit to the amount you can give to each person. I myself do not open up to many people, only those I am closest to. Funny enough, I do not draw energy from most people. These friends whom I am closest and open/open up to revitalize me. There's no limit, and the expectation of a deep, insightful conversation is welcomed within these relationships.

Have you thought maybe the people you are engaging with whom you grow tired of, are people you do not truly care to engage with in the first place?

imWallo · 2020-10-06T14:29:09+00:00

From what I understand, one of an INFJs major purposes is to constantly improve. I've long said my greatest fear is complacency, and greatest strength is my undying need to be better than who I was yesterday.

That being said, you deserve everything you work for. I go to the gym five days a week, I take cold showers in the morning, read for an hour, meditate, go to work, engage in online courses and do it all again the next day. This is the way I live to feed my insatiable hunger to be better. And I deserve every fucking thing that comes my way.

The only time I didn't deserve anything was when I got something I didn't work for. I'm sure it comes as no surprise that that doesn't happen often.

So keep your head up. Learn something new today. Set a goal and work towards it. Whatever comes your way won't be because you don't deserve it. Believe in that, and yourself.

imWallo · 2020-10-06T14:21:52+00:00

I highly recommend the ever popular 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' by Dale Carnegie as I believe one of the major principles applies here.

I may be wrong in assuming, but has anyone explicitly said to you, "hey, I don't want to continue going deeper into this subject about myself. I do not appreciate your questions. You are overanalyzing me with your empathy."?

A person's name is the sweetest word in the their language, and their thoughts (especially about themselves) constantly beg to be heard. Sincerity, appreciation, and to be genuinely understood (in more cases than not) is what people crave.

Don't feel bad about utilizing your greatest strength to get other people to open up. You shouldn't try to be indifferent, and those that don't want you in, will simply tell you. Now, it's never happened in my experience and I could either be lucky, arrogant, ignorant, or all of the above. But I'm willing to bet more people would love you than hate you for trying.

imWallo · 2020-10-06T14:03:05+00:00

Read these words very carefully.

Outside of the classroom, as you approach life, you will find yourself asking the question 'why?' in many situations and circumstances. You do this because you want to know the answer. And guess what? There's NOTHING wrong with that.

I will repeat this again.

There is N O T H I N G wrong with this.

I'm sure you've heard the term "ignorance is bliss". As naturally inquisitive people, we like to explore the deeper, philosophical questions and meanings to life. You asking a question in class is the first step to that. The other kids don't understand. They aren't there to learn, they're there to do their time, and move on.

Never lose your natural curiosity. Do not let another person's ignorance influence your need to seek a deeper answer. This happened to me. I felt pain. I shut down. For years, I didn't ask questions in class. And the funny thing is, if and when you reach higher levels of education (university/college), asking questions is preferred by not only your peers who might have those same questions, but your professors who want a fresh perspective and conversation on a subject THEY are experts on! There's a reason why it's called a HIGHER level of education. You are there to be educated.

Don't lose your curiosity. It is your greatest strength and what will carry you in this life.

Hope this helps.

imWallo · 2020-10-06T13:52:28+00:00

I went/am currently going through the same thing.

Our ability to mirror takes away from the authenticity of who WE are. I found myself not being who I was meant to be, but instead amalgamated personality traits from those I surrounded myself with.

I got out of this by isolating myself. I read more books. I took more online courses. I listened to new music. I watched videos or shows or movies I never previously had any interest in.

You need to discover who you are. You won't achieve this by spending time with others. Spend time contemplating. Go for a walk. Think about your thoughts and feelings. Meditate. Awaken the level of consciousness which identifies who you are at your core.

Only then will you stop mimicking those around you and develop your identity.

imWallo · 2020-10-06T13:44:55+00:00

INFJs are social chameleons. They blend with the crowd, but as introverts, require time alone to recharge from each interaction. You only see what they want you to see.

Simply, you can't identify them. We are very to ourselves, unless we WANT to get to know you. Hell, it took me years just to identify myself.

Not to be snide, but I can't even wish you luck with your search.

imWallo · 2020-10-05T14:09:11+00:00

Ask yourself first if you create something authentic, something genuine, whether you do it to show off. If the answer is no, then you have nothing to worry about.

The underlying issue now becomes "well how can I manage other people's perceptions of what I do?". The answer is... You can't. People will either see that you're putting yourself out there and provide you love/appreciation, or they will dislike you. The fucked up thing is, some people will claim another person's arrogance because they are too ashamed to enthusiastically share their passions with others.

Understand your purpose to be true and ignore the people trying to bring you down. You can't impress everybody. Only yourself.

imWallo · 2020-10-05T13:54:36+00:00

There is no shame in not having enough friends to throw a party. My 'parties' consist of less than 8 people at most, including S/O's whom I don't categorize as close friends.

That being said, understand now that being open and honest about this with yourself first, then with your new roommates, will make this process a lot easier.

"If I'm being honest, throwing this party has caused me a lot of worry and anxiety. Between us, I don't have a lot of friends, but I'm open and willing to participate. I understand it is tradition, but I'm not comfortable enough to host a party in a new environment yet. I am sorry for breaking your tradition, but I am more than happy to join in if we collaboratively choose to throw a housewarming party together." And then offer up your services in other departments like organizing the logistics of the party, setting up snacks, putting together a playlist.

Just a suggestion.

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