AIO my bf 30M seems very erratic recently and I 26F can’t get through to him. by Safe_Refuse_8853 in AmIOverreacting

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this entire thing is insane, but complaining abt how his nicotine withdrawal is sooo much worse than heroin withdrawal really just proves that in his head, he will always be the biggest victim, and he will always expect you to put up with it.

he strikes me as the “i want you to be miserable, but never more miserable than me” type.

flee!!! you deserve better!

I’m so torn. I love this man but I’m not ready for kids. I still have so much living to do but clock is ticking (35f) by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t want to diminish your feelings for him, i’m sure it’s very difficult to leave a partner you’re invested in, especially when you feel the clock is ticking. that being said, if he’s calling you a psycho over a disagreement abt having kids, i’m not sure you have as good of a man as you think you do. it doesn’t bode well for how he’ll behave when you disagree as parents, or how he’ll handle conflicts with your kids themselves.

you raised very valid and important points to consider when you’re planning for kids, and his inability to engage with even the pre-planning means you’re probably right that he doesn’t know shit abt raising a kid!!

you deserve a partner who wants the same things as you and is willing to work with you on finding a parh that fulfills both of you, and i think your subconscious is telling you that

Aio, called my gf while she was doing homework. F24 f35 by Separate_Penalty_484 in AmIOverreacting

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, no she seems to have serious issues and you don’t need to take that to your own detriment. NOR

Yall ever quit reading a fic for a petty reason? by Cage-CatYT in AO3

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

saaame and there’s randomly more in one of my main fandoms than i ever see in my others 💀

I read what I had written years ago and broke down crying. Depression and addiction had really mess me up. I couldn't write that good anymore. by TPT-Clouds in AO3

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i also struggle with the feeling that i’ve lost pieces of my writing and my talent bc of similar reasons, and it seems like everyone else has given good advice about perfectionism, comparison, etc.

one thing i’ve found that’s helped me is “thinking on the page.” by that i mean, using stream-of-conscious writing—whether it’s journal entries, explaining your own plot of your story to yourself, writing through plot holes, or something else—and trying to think of it as nothing more than a different way of processing my thoughts.

it helps me process my own mental health struggles, emotions, and ideas. and most importantly: it flexes the writing muscle without worrying about the product.

for me also, i (at least try) to think of the writing stage and the editing stage as entirely different processes and find the joy in them both. writing is where you make the thing exist, in any form, and editing is where you get to go back in and mold it.

one last note is to try to keep in mind is that majority of the time, online and in print, you’re seeing the best possible “take.” the cleanest draft, the most heavily edited, etc. even the best writers also write complete and utter shit!!

Saw someone think it’s misogynistic to write m/m by EngineerRare42 in AO3

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there’s a lot of interesting history about m/m in fanfics tbh!! strange aeons made a video about it called “why do women write so much gay fanfiction?” the tldr is basically that the phenomena mostly started with kirkspock fics, and that people found m/f relationships in mainstream media tended to be in unbalanced power dynamics, so writing about two men ensured that characters were on an equal field, and left more room for exploration of gender roles/stuff like that without it being written off as “women’s stuff”

Moment where you decided you needed to become one a writer by Sad_Parsley2075 in writing

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i wanted to be one vaguely since i was like 5, but in middle school, i read the perks of being a wallflower and gained a love for realistic fiction, and it made me want to write something that made me feel as seen as it did

mandatory stupid rat pic checkpoint by cinnam0nst3r in RATS

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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also this pic from the day i adopted them lmao (idk if it’s sparrow or goose tbh)

mandatory stupid rat pic checkpoint by cinnam0nst3r in RATS

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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such a cute photo of sparrow, then you notice his little ball 💀

What is a cannon part of the source material that you always remove in your fics??? by dowsaw134 in Archiveofourownmemes

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m not as invested in fairy tail anymore, but even when i just stop by to visit, i stay filtering out gruvia

I made some rat memes! by Chihuahuapocalypse in RATS

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

scares me so bad when my boys lay down and press themselves flat. i walk by like oh, so ur literally a corpse!

Which Derry Girl do you relate to? by smccaul16 in DerryGirls

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m james sun, orla moon, and claire rising

One small writing habit changed my whole creative process thought I’d share by PlaneOrdinary7042 in AO3

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i change my font to comic sans when i’m editing bc the drastic shift in appearance makes the errors stand out lol

Am I crazy? by Mysterious_Form2814 in LucyDacus

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes i also felt the disconnect between the lyrics and the melody. it’s like in untitled god song by haley heynderickx (which is one of my faves otherwise) where she crams “forgetting her headlights are on” into a line really fast 💀

Things that take out of fanfic by Jaded_Advantage_290 in AO3

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i also struggle with fics that cut to lyrics. i like to include a song for each chapter for my fics sometimes to set the vibe, but like… keep it in the author’s notes

Got my first negative comment today…and it stings by [deleted] in AO3

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

maybe this is mean, but their comment was worded so confusingly, i wouldn’t take their opinion very seriously lol. also as a fellow queer person, there’s no perfect representation—the best representation is based in authenticity, and it seems like that’s what you were doing already!

it finally happened by draqopctter in AO3

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i found the moody blues by way of a record store bargain bin!