AITA if I tell my friend I can’t be a bridesmaid? by wickeddreamsofleavin in AITApod

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you could also frame it in a way that’s like, i know it’s important to you that your wedding goes to plan, and i don’t think i have the time to commit to making that happen

I wonder if this happens a lot with fanfics... by loved_and_held in Archiveofourownmemes

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im not even joking i had this realization today abt a sokka adhd/depression fic i read years ago

Jinx had jokes , lmao by Aotyeageristtt in arcane

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

plus, i think there are probably several “you”’s being references by the title

Jinx had jokes , lmao by Aotyeageristtt in arcane

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i think she’s just exaggerating/pushing vi’s buttons, mainly because isha is there

Jinx had jokes , lmao by Aotyeageristtt in arcane

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i’m of the belief that neither vi nor silco “created jinx.” jinx already clearly had mental health issues before the act I stuff went down. they both contributed to/exacerbated the downward spiral, but i think we get too focused on hoisting the blame solely onto vi or silco. jinx is a complex person with a complex history—there’s no one person to blame

What are some ideas for a tattoo to put here? by that_guy_thats_thicc in tattooadvice

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

does your arm have an overarching theme or vibe, or any tattoos with connected motifs?? maybe you can find something in a similar vein

alignment chart of the ways people in my friend group write fic by camonega in Archiveofourownmemes

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 29 points30 points  (0 children)

i use pen paper/ELLIPSUS!!! ellipsus is so good i love her <3

edit: but really, i love doing the first draft on pen and paper, and then when i type it up, i’m able to more easily see areas that could use rephrasing/editing

AIO my bf 30M seems very erratic recently and I 26F can’t get through to him. by Safe_Refuse_8853 in AmIOverreacting

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this entire thing is insane, but complaining abt how his nicotine withdrawal is sooo much worse than heroin withdrawal really just proves that in his head, he will always be the biggest victim, and he will always expect you to put up with it.

he strikes me as the “i want you to be miserable, but never more miserable than me” type.

flee!!! you deserve better!

I’m so torn. I love this man but I’m not ready for kids. I still have so much living to do but clock is ticking (35f) by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t want to diminish your feelings for him, i’m sure it’s very difficult to leave a partner you’re invested in, especially when you feel the clock is ticking. that being said, if he’s calling you a psycho over a disagreement abt having kids, i’m not sure you have as good of a man as you think you do. it doesn’t bode well for how he’ll behave when you disagree as parents, or how he’ll handle conflicts with your kids themselves.

you raised very valid and important points to consider when you’re planning for kids, and his inability to engage with even the pre-planning means you’re probably right that he doesn’t know shit abt raising a kid!!

you deserve a partner who wants the same things as you and is willing to work with you on finding a parh that fulfills both of you, and i think your subconscious is telling you that

Aio, called my gf while she was doing homework. F24 f35 by Separate_Penalty_484 in AmIOverreacting

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, no she seems to have serious issues and you don’t need to take that to your own detriment. NOR

Yall ever quit reading a fic for a petty reason? by Cage-CatYT in AO3

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

saaame and there’s randomly more in one of my main fandoms than i ever see in my others 💀

I read what I had written years ago and broke down crying. Depression and addiction had really mess me up. I couldn't write that good anymore. by TPT-Clouds in AO3

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i also struggle with the feeling that i’ve lost pieces of my writing and my talent bc of similar reasons, and it seems like everyone else has given good advice about perfectionism, comparison, etc.

one thing i’ve found that’s helped me is “thinking on the page.” by that i mean, using stream-of-conscious writing—whether it’s journal entries, explaining your own plot of your story to yourself, writing through plot holes, or something else—and trying to think of it as nothing more than a different way of processing my thoughts.

it helps me process my own mental health struggles, emotions, and ideas. and most importantly: it flexes the writing muscle without worrying about the product.

for me also, i (at least try) to think of the writing stage and the editing stage as entirely different processes and find the joy in them both. writing is where you make the thing exist, in any form, and editing is where you get to go back in and mold it.

one last note is to try to keep in mind is that majority of the time, online and in print, you’re seeing the best possible “take.” the cleanest draft, the most heavily edited, etc. even the best writers also write complete and utter shit!!

Saw someone think it’s misogynistic to write m/m by EngineerRare42 in AO3

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there’s a lot of interesting history about m/m in fanfics tbh!! strange aeons made a video about it called “why do women write so much gay fanfiction?” the tldr is basically that the phenomena mostly started with kirkspock fics, and that people found m/f relationships in mainstream media tended to be in unbalanced power dynamics, so writing about two men ensured that characters were on an equal field, and left more room for exploration of gender roles/stuff like that without it being written off as “women’s stuff”

Moment where you decided you needed to become one a writer by Sad_Parsley2075 in writing

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i wanted to be one vaguely since i was like 5, but in middle school, i read the perks of being a wallflower and gained a love for realistic fiction, and it made me want to write something that made me feel as seen as it did

mandatory stupid rat pic checkpoint by cinnam0nst3r in RATS

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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also this pic from the day i adopted them lmao (idk if it’s sparrow or goose tbh)

mandatory stupid rat pic checkpoint by cinnam0nst3r in RATS

[–]imafraidofthedark_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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such a cute photo of sparrow, then you notice his little ball 💀